Do you think leaving a fandom because of the stans/fans is a reasonable excuse?

please explain below why you think so as well.

im just curious to see what everyone thinks

I think it's okay to disengage from a fandom if you feel like it's detrimental to your mental health.

I think people need to recognize that not engaging in a fandom is okay. You can still like a thing without having to put up with the shit that happens in a fandom. Like there's a reason I don't hang out on anime twitter and it's because it's gross and often extremely hostile for female fans... I still love anime though. I just talk about it with an extremely small circle of people.

The question isn't unstanning a group. It's leaving the fandom.

That's two completely different things.

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I mean that’s their choice, but I still find stupid you stan artists not stans. All my fandoms are annoying me but it’s really not that serious for me to unstan my favs.

i get this side a lot too, but it can also get to the point where fans are ruining your perception and enjoyment of music as well. like sometimes the only way would be to really stop using social media because how else are you going to avoid that side. im speaking from personal experience here, there was a point when fans were making things out to be as bad, when i loved it, and if i hated something i was dragged? like if im not allowed to have my opinions and enjoy my hobby anymore, and be able to safely talk about them, i don't feel like its worth spending time on them anymore.

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I think people can leave for whatever reason they want. Maybe fandom experience is one of the reasons they get invested in an artist and It's fine.

I just think It's odd when people start to write essays about the reason of their departure. But It's also their choice after all.

yeah that's really annoying. its like they found a new religion and are like i was a sinner lord forgive me. shut up jessica, no one wants to hear it

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My answer is YES.

There are several groups that I listen to or listened in the past, but I will never join their fandom for the sake of my mental health.

P.S. I'm not in your personal taglist?

i made it in october so we weren't that close back then

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well

the MV i'm watching

the song i'm listening

and the album i'm buying

are from the kpop groups not the fandom '-'

Why a fandom would be a criteria in stanning or not a group '-'

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well yeah, obviously lmao, i think that's how most people get in LOL

this was my reasoning though:

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i get this side a lot too, but it can also get to the point where fans are ruining your perception and enjoyment of music as well. like sometimes the only way would be to really stop using social media because how else are you going to avoid that side. im speaking from personal experience here, there was a point when fans were making things out to be as bad, when i loved it, and if i hated something i was dragged? like if im not allowed to have my opinions and enjoy my hobby anymore, and be able to safely talk about them, i don't feel like its worth spending time on them anymore.

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I personally think it's weird unstanning because of the fandom since it's the artist that I stan instead of the fandom. The most that I would do would be to retreat from stan acc and stanning on my own. But to each of their own since you know yourself the best

personally, i feel like that you may not directly unstan, but interacting with fans is a big part of liking a group for me, because that's what helps me grow as both a stan and a fan, so if one half of it rotten, i feel like eventually i'll just lose feelings for the group and their music as well..

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Yeah it can be reasonable. Stans can be toxic and you don't need to put up with it.

also @zuzuhhaa why am I not on your taglist?tae7.gif

why didn't you comment in my thread is the more important question??

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zuzuhahaha's personal taglistttttttttttt

ive been wanting to do this for a while but also didn't want to look self-centered but i have a feeling i seem like that anyways but here we go personal taglist
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Oct 5th 2021

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I'm sorry I don't get what you're trying to say. It's almost midnight here so my brain is not at the best capacity too...

i realized it made so sense, hopefully this gives more clarification?

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personally, i feel like that you may not directly unstan, but interacting with fans is a big part of liking a group for me, because that's what helps me grow as both a stan and a fan, so if one half of it rotten, i feel like eventually i'll just lose feelings for the group and their music as well..

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I didn't see it fam

and you dare use taemin hand slamming on me

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If you think that interacting with other fans are a big part of your stanning experiences, the only way that you could do to improve your experience is to curate your tl and find other mutual who share the same preferences with you...

People are free to express their preference but you also have the same freedom to do that...

It may be harder if your fandom is smaller, but I'm sure there's other people who match better with you eventho it's only 1-2 people...

oh yeah, i think you're right. but it happened to me with a group in like 2020-ish and it got to the point where i couldn't enjoy anything anymore, even afting leaving those places, the effects of it kinda just stayed.

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Ooops

why?

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Just reacting to the fact that the effects still stay eventho you already unstanned...

no, i didn't unstan them until much later

i stopped interacting with fans in 2020, but nothing was the same anymore so i unstanned "officially" if you could even put it that way.