can u justify cheating?

nope.

I can never justify cheating, if you can't handle the idea of commitment which is to be expected in a relationship, don't be in one and live a life where you don't hurt someone in the process by fooling around and not being able to meet up to maintaining a relationship properly/healthily.

never. if you are not feeling someone just breakup honestly

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Seriously I want all your opinions. I mean if a person is trying so hard and putting every effort to maintain the relationship but still your significant other finds peace in other people. I mean is it really the cheatee's fault that he/she is getting cheated on.

. If your partner cheated then he broke your trust, does not respect you at all and doesn't love you enough.

Better break up

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He said he wants some time and space.He said he doesnot want to be in a relationship and doesnot want any flirting.He needs time for himself. Now I got to know he has been cheating with a girl whom he used to call her his sister. I was always very suspicious of them but they both gaslighted me into thinking that I am being insecure and that they are just friends and like brother and sister.[She became friend after we announced our relationship]

He gives her more time,touches her and have a secret number through which both talk to each other whole day and whole night.I am blocked from that number. I read their chat and believe me it was disgusting. Now he is saying that there is no such thing between them but he still wants to be friends with me. He said that that he and that girl are just best friends and they just flirt with each other but have no feelings for each other. All the close friends who I have asked they all replied that I am at fault.How am I at fault? They are all saying that you are being insecure, they're just friends. I asked him a simple question that if somebody asks me whether I am single or not. He replied we are not in relationship so u should say you are single. A second later he started forcing me to give my social media account passwords to him and he started fighting that I am talking to other boys.I dont even want to remain friends with this guy. I switched off my mobile for one fucking day and he made that girl call my mom to ask if I was alright. After knowing i was alright he ignored me for days and started fighting that i don't love u. Dont expect anything from me. I seriously cant handle this shit anymore.

omg you deserve better than that. as you said you felt suspicious from the beginning, your gut feeling doesn't lie to you so don't let them or anyone gaslight or manipulate you into believing anything. you're not in the wrong at all. it's clear he can't make up his mind and if he doesn't want anything, what makes him think he has the right to ask you for social media passwords, not that it's acceptable to do that even if you were together which is itself already a bad sign. tbh you sound like you dodged a bullet because he sounds awful in general. don't forget your worth for a guy who can't give his all, treat you right, and be clear with you.

No. If you're in an exclusive relationship cheating is never justifiable.

It's a despicable, immature and, in my opinion, narcissistic thing to do as it shows that the cheater is under the impression that the whole world revolves only around them and their own needs. Everything else comes second.

I'd never enter into a relationship with a cheater either. If they're willing to cheat on their first partner with me, they'll soon cheat on me as well. Such a person is never going to be faithful and its best to steer clear of them.

No. If they weren't ready for a relationship then they shouldn't have gotten into one in the first place. And if they were unhappy then they should have expressed their concerns or feelings instead of seeing someone else at the same time.

No one deserves to be cheated on.

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According to him,friends can be jealous and possessive for each other but lovers should not be or in our case I shouldn't be jealous bcz Iovers should give "unconditional " love. Believe me,that guy is hella possessive.He is possessive for every girl friend he has. He can't handle any boy talking to me and other girl friends he has. The girl with whom he is cheating, she is possessive too. Like why are u so possessive for an already committed guy. My boyfriend literally begs her not to leave him and gives her special treatment infront of everyone so that she doesnt leave him and go out with others. I mean it's okay for them being possessive and jealous as friends and it is not okay for me to be jealous as a lover.I swear to God after flirting and whole shit they suddenly act so kind towards me making me doubt myself. At the end he and other girls label me as the toxic one.

That girl and one of her bestie often tell me to leave him bcz he is not treating me right.They ask me why are u in a relationship with such a guy.I sometimes want to ask them then why are they friends with such a guy. I try to be so friendly with all of them so I could understand everything and if I am at fault I could correct myself

how does he think it makes sense for friends to be jealous and possessive but not lovers lmao. and why would he care if his friend will go out with other guys if they're just friends and not dating? something's not clicking and how he doesn't want any guys to talk to his friends who are girls is strange. you're not at fault for anything and I agree with them, you should just leave him~

don't ever let anyone to make you believe you getting cheated on it's your fault...it's gaslighting at its finest

If there is a problem in relationship and the other party decides to act as a coward and cheat instead of talking about it or breaking up, they are assholes and deserve to burn im hell

No. Just get rid of him

Yeah, I can do this. But it's need sometime to understand the situation clearly. LOL!

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ikr.He wants to be friends with people but also wants to enjoy the perks of being in a relationship.He just wants to have a female who is loyal to her while he messes with other girls.

seriously I dont get that guy. Suddenly he acts so affectionate and then the next second he is so rude. He now has sent me a voice note saying that her other two female friends often ask him to leave me but he replies them that zoha is immature, childish and innocent but she is still better than all of u and she'll mature and change one day and will be the best among u all. He wants me to change and I seriously dont know what change he wants to see bcz i have tried every effort to make our relation work. He says he will have to fight with his parents for our marriage bcz his family doesnot believe in love marriages so he wants me to become the best version of myself.

Omg I’m so sorry to hear you’re being treated this way. I’d 100% leave him. You deserve so much better. There’s no justifying his behavior to you. He’s 100% gaslighting you.

No, if a person in unhappy in their relationship then they shoud just leave. There's no need to do that to another person.

If a guy cheats in Monopoly I will kill him

There's never any excuse for cheating imo, not only is a person cheating on their partner but their children as well. It causes hurt all round and a person lives a life of deceit.

no, if you are going to cheat on your partner better stay single then

no I would never: even if I love that person, when I am in a friendship or relationship I give my all to make it work, I am loyal but I am not a people-pelaser... I know my self worth and when a person is not taking me and my effort seriously I am going to cut them off my life in a heartbeat

Like I love myself and I don't deserve suffering

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ikr.He wants to be friends with people but also wants to enjoy the perks of being in a relationship.He just wants to have a female who is loyal to her while he messes with other girls.

seriously I dont get that guy. Suddenly he acts so affectionate and then the next second he is so rude. He now has sent me a voice note saying that her other two female friends often ask him to leave me but he replies them that zoha is immature, childish and innocent but she is still better than all of u and she'll mature and change one day and will be the best among u all. He wants me to change and I seriously dont know what change he wants to see bcz i have tried every effort to make our relation work. He says he will have to fight with his parents for our marriage bcz his family doesnot believe in love marriages so he wants me to become the best version of myself.

so sorry to hear you've been through this, hope you know you deserve better

this dude will manipulate and gaslight you regardless of whether he fools around or not, he just sounds like bad news. don't try to justify anything he does and why should you have to change? I hope you'll leave him behind.

I also think that

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Omg I’m so sorry to hear you’re being treated this way. I’d 100% leave him. You deserve so much better. There’s no justifying his behavior to you. He’s 100% gaslighting.

I also think that so. Totally agree with you here.

cheating is never okay. the only time I would condone it is if the other person cheated first and you're doing it as revenge- but even then it's iffy.

Of course yes

well it depends on what you define as justification

the action of showing something to be right or reasonable

each individual has their own reasons for doing or not doing certain things...and in their own mind they might consider themselves justified for doing something

for example the act of an eye for an eye - if you try to attack me then even law considers self-defense to be justification for hurting or even killing someone therefore if you apply it to relationships then one person might claim justification when the other has cheated before...

Nope. Cheating is Cheating. No excuse for that imho.

It can be justified. Everyone has moments of weaknesses and it just happens ( it can literally be under emotional distress or just being tired). It can genuinely happen without necessarily being on purpose.

No one is perfect and these things happens.

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cheating is never okay. the only time I would condone it is if the other person cheated first and you're doing it as revenge- but even then it's iffy.

Yeah, you can take the revenge but not using the a third person. You should take on him/her who cheated with you.

No. If you and your partner are not working out, you should break up with them. It doesn't make sense to cheat and still be with them while you love someone else.

Why do people think break up in a relationship is always easy and you can whenever you are unhappy lol sometimes life sucks you are stuck on abusive relationship where your partner is threating you, you have no perspective in life, you have children and is financial dependent etc these situations I think cheating can be justified. The person is just trying to find happiness in a shit life stuck on a shit person

I think you cannot deny the fact that this one is a big issue than most people think and I can agree that there is a need for people to finish the job earlier than what we mostly do. That is a win and I think you could even do that well up to this point if you know.

If they told you they weren’t feeling it and you can’t let go, is that cheating? Unless they were pretending that the efforts were working and cheated behind your back which is 100% unforgivable.

there is absolutely no excuse or justification for cheating. you really have to be one heck of a piece of sh*t to string along your significant other and then see other people behind their back.

my sister got cheating on by her ex-fiancé of two years MULTIPLE times during their relationship. he was a total dickhead. she would do so much for him and literally would always go out of her way to do things for him even when it was so hard for her. he asked for airpods? she had them delivered to him. he wanted designer shoes for his birthday? she got them for him. he wanted some gold plated juul for his birthday? she ordered one. not to mention she was a struggling STUDENT in law school and he was a practicing DENTIST! and when it was her birthday or their anniversary, he only gave her his used phone (she broke hers a few weeks before) or an ugly bouquet. she never minded these things but it’s that used phone that made her find out that he was cheating on her with FOUR other girls (one being his patient). she saw a few chats and confronted him. it was messy af.

i was so proud of her for finally breaking it off, this toxic relationship was no good for her. it’s been nearly a year and last i heard he eloped with one of the girls he had an affair with. good riddance. but my sister is still heartbroken over it. it’s hard to move on and get on with life when you think you weren’t good enough. you constantly blame yourself and it’s that emotional trauma that ruins every possible future relationship for you. it’s a slow healing process but i know she’s strong enough to put all this behind her. she has now graduated and already has a well paying job that keeps her busy and happy. i’m so proud of her!

no not at all

no matter how toxic your partner is (not even always the case), it doesn't give you the right to cheat on them. people need to do the right thing and end things.