Do you prefer to date/marry within your own ethnicity or not?

Do you prefer to date/marry withing your own ethnicity or not?

Alot of people prefer to date/marry within your own ethnicity

Dudes from my cultural background are born with centuries of misogyny and sexism embedded in their brain. It will take more than a life time to make them unlearn that. That life time being wasted is not gonna be mine.

+ knowing that women within my community have been murdered bc they did better than their SO career wise. I am not getting stabbed if my bigger paycheck emasculate some dudes.

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I've dated people of all colors, but I definitely would not date anyone who had misogynist or sexist views. I don't date anyone who doesn't treat me like a queen and advise the rest of you to do the same.

Of course, it does not follow that people of a certain ethnicity always hold the same views, though culturally I see where you're coming from.

The problem is some of the women in my culture also push for those sexist POVs, which is why they are very prominent.

The lady I mentioned in the op, she was a very successful financial advisor and had two houses. Her parents arranged her marriage. She requested prenup from her fiance and that offended him enough to stab her 30 times.

The most disgusting thing about this is her parents took his side and tried to be character witness for him bc they thought what she did was disrespectful.

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THAT'S BEYOND DISGUSTING WTF. I really hope she recovered and disowned her parents. That kinda shit should qualify her for the witness protection program

unfortunately she passed away and her parents inherited her houses

they even used her money to hire a lawyer for him

People like that srsly dont deserve to live for being that horrible to their own children

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Yes for the ease of mind for the parents

My parents believe I will eventually marry one of the SHINee guys (this is srsly not a joke)

I need to now

for their ease of mind

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it's just easier if they are already familiar with my culture but it's not a necessity for me personally, I also spoke with my mother about this one time and she just said that the only important thing is that the person has to have good behavior and love me so

What about the religion? Will they be ok to marry outside the religion?

Just asking bc we got the same religion background

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Yes good to know they are delulu as you

They go like why not? You have liked them for so long and even seen them.

I'm like yeah, I saw them in concert......with 50k other people

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I don’t care about the ethnicity.

As long as the person is respectful and treats me well.

But it does make things easier if someone understands your culture and experience and very often it’s someone from your own ethnicity. Sometimes interracial couples struggle with that.

Being an African, Ghanian by roots to be more exact, I love my culture. Unfortunately many men in Ghana or from Ghana still have conservative views of a relationship, but there has been a big shift to more modern views that recently and the guys raised here in Germany are pretty modern too. Not all of them, but enough to have opinions.

I undrestand wanting to have similar cultural experience since your experience has been positive.

For me sharing same cultural experience means they were raised to lord over women.

Another interesting point you mentioned is that Ghanian people raised in western countries have more liberal views.

Unfortunately for people in my culture it's the opposite. I feel like the ones raised back in my mother's country have grown and became more open and liberal. But the ones raised here in western countries became more conservative.

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Yes for the ease of mind for the parents

Idk why I always thought you are Caucasian for some reason

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Less on the cauc

idk the whole gun thing throw me off

for me when I imagine someone progun its like

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I’m not that progun

so you dont look like this?

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I just want someone that loves me, but I won't get it unfortuently. If I marry someone who is not from South India(specifically Kerala) and can't speak Malayalam, my parents will kill me.

Plus, I won't have much of a choice in my marriage since I am headed for an arranged marriage for sure now after the only couple who were in a love marriage that my parents supported, the husband cheated on the wife, they got divorced and my hopes went bye bye. Those two were my last hope, thanks a lot jerk husband!

Heck my parents even said that "we should not follow the American way for marriages" after the husband cheated on the wife.

Recently, my mom found out I was in health and I am guessing she got the syllabus(it included that one of the things we were going to learn about is dating relationships and well s*x). S

o obviously, my mom was like, don't follow the American way and don't listen to what they are saying!

Not only that, my parents have other bad experience with love marriages. My uncle(who my parents hate because of valid reasons unrelated to his marriage) was in a love marriage, and my parents(especially my mom) judged my uncle for it and called it disgraceful that my uncle and my aunt shared a house before they were married.

It's tradition where I come from in India to have an arranged marriage. The only people that get to have love marriages without getting judged that much by the public(especially the older generation) are celebrities and super rich people, which is why most people don't judge my uncle despite his love marriage.

Unfortuently, I don't have the privelge of being super rich or being a celeb, so if I get in a love marriage(even with someone from Kerala that speaks Malayalam) my relatives will gossip about me and well, my family's image would be tarnished.

My family needs atleast one person that follows the whole arranged marriage, my brother was born in the U.S. and is going to grow up with complete American values, so it's very likely he will get a love marriage. So the responsibilty falls on me.

Now moving on, I don't really know my "type" fully though. I know I like nice guys(or atleast ones that I think are nice). My last actual crush was the same ethnicity as me(Indian) and my celebrity/influencer crush rn is Half Indian and Half German. So yeah.

So yeah, my ethnicity type I haven't figured out, but I do know some things about the person I am gonna marry lol.

Ok, why did I go full on life story lol.

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Im really sorry about this

I hope your parents opinion changes by the time you are ready to get married