Do you need to love and support all the members pretty equally to be a true stan?

I think it depends, but you don't need to like support all solo activities. You might not vibe with them the way you do with group activities.

Even parents have favorites among their children.

No, I don't believe so. Just supporting a group and liking their music should be sufficient.

not sure if thats possible

even parents dont ever treat their kids equally no matter how hard they try

I don't think you need to really love all the members equally or even in the same way (I mean we all have ults and bias), don't even need to support all of the members the same... BUT you do need to have respect for all the members to be a stan. Hate it when I see someone who is a fan of one of the same groups as me and they send love for one or a couple of members, but in the same breath send hate to the others. As a BP stan I see it all the time.

Also I think a lot of people have different definitons of what it means to be a stan.

I don't want to be a true stan if I have to do that. I don't even love and support my family members equally. I must not be a true family member to them.

There are some members I straight don't like in my ult group

Everyone has favorites

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I don't think you need to really love all the members equally or even in the same way (I mean we all have ults and bias), don't even need to support all of the members the same... BUT you do need to have respect for all the members to be a stan. Hate it when I see someone who is a fan of one of the same groups as me and they send love for one or a couple of members, but in the same breath send hate to the others. As a BP stan I see it all the time.

Also I think a lot of people have different definitons of what it means to be a stan.

^^this exactly

And it gets even more out of hand when they put the member ahead of the group like “group x is hindering their solo abilities” when the reason a solo is even on the table is because they’re in group x and the reason you even knew they existed was because of group x.

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It's so weird to me when I see stans call out people in their fandom for not supporting all the members enough. Like, when did kpop become a job? I get not wanting toxic akgaes in your fandom, but it's natural to gravitate more towards certain members. I'm gonna give all the members a chance, but I'm not listening/ streaming an album that I don't like. Just coz i didn't vibe with so and so's song, doesn't make me not worthy of the fandom.

At least that's the way I see it. What do you think? And have you ever been called out for not being enough of a fan?

I don't think so. I like Twice but I find half the members irritating. I just plane don't like Nayeon and Momo. I've never understood why JYP thinks Nayeon is some kind of goddess. I used to dislike Dahyun but then I saw

and fell head over heals in love.

Not immediately liking everyone makes for room to grow and wonderful discoveries

I take my time knowing the members these days

Eventually I get to know at least most of the group lol

there's nothing wrong with having favorites or supporting one member's solo and not another's 🤷🏻‍♀️

idk about actively disliking a member though to the point where you put them down or go out of your way to say like "i love and support all these members except for YOU "

i don't think i could ever stan a group if i didn't have positive feelings towards everyone in it, even if i didn't necessarily stream/buy/watch all of their activities outside of the group

although i'd probably do that for twice ngl, even for my not favorite members

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It's so weird to me when I see stans call out people in their fandom for not supporting all the members enough. Like, when did kpop become a job? I get not wanting toxic akgaes in your fandom, but it's natural to gravitate more towards certain members. I'm gonna give all the members a chance, but I'm not listening/ streaming an album that I don't like. Just coz i didn't vibe with so and so's song, doesn't make me not worthy of the fandom.

At least that's the way I see it. What do you think? And have you ever been called out for not being enough of a fan?

I love questions like this, although my take might be a bit different. I think people all have their different standards in their minds about what it takes to truly be a 'good' fan'.

For me however as I have stated many times, I don't mind solo stans, and yes sometimes I do solo stan myself. BUT you have to respect your fav, respect their group members and their hard work. It takes so much to be a idol, you can at least respect how hard they have worked to get their dream job. That's all anyone can really ask for tbh.

I don't understand why fans have to listen or streams the songs they don't enjoy, everyone has different music tastes after all.

+ Yes I have been called out before which is why I left twitter mid 2018 almost 2019 after following BTS and EXO from 2017. I wasn't 'good enough', and focused to much on ATEEZ, BlockB, BLACK6IX or a Chinese survival show on my Union Fanbase account. Basically the fan account I ran gave support to its followers, updating them on the times to vote for the idol they wanted to make to the next round, sharing clips from the show and daily reminders to send in letters to the trainees on the show that they supported so their letters could be read.

However, before I deleted both twitter accounts, many have apologized in the fandoms and have assured to do what was comfortable for me and that not everyone as a ATINY, EXOL or ARMY was like that, and honestly they were some of the nicest apologies I ever gotten. I'm still grateful that even some wrote me privately.

No, biases exist. However, you shouldn’t be an akgae or actively hate any member. Not liking them as much as your bias is one thing, but hating them is too far if you want to be considered a fan.

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For me however as I have stated many times, I don't mind solo stans, and yes sometimes I do solo stan myself. BUT you have to respect your fav, respect their group members and their hard work. It takes so much to be a idol, you can at least respect how hard they have worked to get their dream job. That's all anyone can really ask for tbh.

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I don't understand why fans have to listen or streams the songs they don't enjoy, everyone has different music tastes after all.

I love Apink, I know I hide it well, but I hate CopyCat... The music video was funny and creative but just didn't work. Never like something just because, it actually causes harm to a group because they can think they did something right and keep doing it when after a while your simply not going to be able to fake it any more. Then they are stuck in a concept no one likes.

It’s impossible for me to stan a group if I dislike a member but I never love the members equally. I am a music lover so I check all the members solo music but I don’t listen to it if I don’t like it. I ignore what I don’t like just like I don’t care about the group music that is not my taste.

Nah, you dont need to, but it is possible IMO. I feel that way about Red Velvet. There isn't a single member that is my fave or one that's my least. They change depending on comeback or whatever content I'm watching.

you don't need anyone's validation for you to be a true fan in other people's eyes

just you do you