Do you need to love and support all the members pretty equally to be a true stan?

    I have 5 members of Super Junior who I like the most and they are the core members for me. KRY and after them Eunhae. Just these members would be enough for me and they are individually bias wrecking me all the time. But I appreaciate other members too for various reasons.


    I can see how Shindong makes the members happy, laugh and helps out with a lot of creative stuff. Although I have some beef with Siwon, I can see what kind of gentleman he is to everyone and how loyal and kind he is to members. I can see how Leeteuk leads them and I can see how Heechul promotes them and talks about them with fondness everywhere he goes.


    It doesn't make me feel like I'm a lesser fan for that and I would be really happy with a photocard of a non-bias member.

    I usually think people who say they like every member equal are lying to themselves.


    Humans are such complex beings and everyone is unique and special in their own ways. People's preferences are also equally unique with many people liking different food, music, people etc. I dont even like all my friends and family the same but somehow I like a bunch of idols the same?


    To like everyone equal to me is like saying every member is essentially the same with little differences between each others and that's kinda insulting to each member in my opinion. We should respect the difference between members and other peoples difference preferences in who they like, and the fact that you dont have to like everyone equally.


    Then there's also the idea that the biggest similarity between each members of a group is the fact that they are all in the same group. I hear people say every member in X group is so charming, they are the best. There is nothing magical that somehow makes people in this specific group and only this group more charming than people from other groups. If you can somehow like all 11 (random number) members in a group, then chances are you could very well like another member in a different group just as much.

    But if you truly like everyone the same, more power to you I guess.

    This is so eye opening, I never thought about it like that before.

    In my 11 years as a Kpop listener, I've been drawn to different groups (and, therefore, different members) for a variety of reasons, and my feelings about each member have varied. With some, I've been attached to all of them, while I've been more neutral to some. I think that having an equal love for all the members of a group (especially a bigger group) is close to impossible, honestly, but you can be a fan of a group, find yourself paying more to attention to one or a few members in particular, and still find yourself liking, or at least respecting, the rest. Humans are drawn to different things by nature, and one shouldn't have to force that in order to achieve "equality."


    Enjoy a group, have a favorite if you do, respect the others too and have fun. That's the joy of Kpop and its many, many appeals. There's something and someone for everyone. Just be nice and don't hate.

    this question goes against my own definition of being a fan, so excuse me when I think this

    questions shouldnt even be asked because its so dumb.


    to begin with, shouldnt you be a fan because you like the music?

    and if you like the music, isnt it a given you support the group as a whole (even with a bias)?

    ofc I have a bias, but I still support the group and the members equally.


    ppl should start visualizing in their mind, that if the other members didnt exist, the group would not exists and so the music would also not exist.


    so if you call yourself a stan/fan, you better support the whole group.

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    I usually think people who say they like every member equal are lying to themselves.


    Humans are such complex beings and everyone is unique and special in their own ways. People's preferences are also equally unique with many people liking different food, music, people etc. I dont even like all my friends and family the same but somehow I like a bunch of idols the same?


    To like everyone equal to me is like saying every member is essentially the same with little differences between each others and that's kinda insulting to each member in my opinion. We should respect the difference between members and other peoples difference preferences in who they like, and the fact that you dont have to like everyone equally.

    THIS! You may like the group's music, but the solo works of the members may not appeal to you. Because each member has a unique musical style. Some may not follow rappers because they do not prefer rap, while others may not follow vocals because they do not prefer vocal-oriented songs. Even within themselves, the styles of vocalists and rappers and even the music genres they prefer are different. So, no one should force themselves to support what they don't like or dislike. I always give a chance and listen, if I like it, I continue to listen, even if I don't like it, I don't force myself to continue listening.

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    Nah, you dont need to, but it is possible IMO. I feel that way about Red Velvet. There isn't a single member that is my fave or one that's my least. They change depending on comeback or whatever content I'm watching.

    Make sense, Seulgi and Wendy always biaswrecked me. I really liked Yeri personality. Irene is very charismatic true leader.


    I think it's hard to be a full fan of a group unless you like every member, even if not equally. I usually follow groups that I like every member of. :thumbup:

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