Have any of your friends dropped you when you messed up???

I have never "messed" up to the point where a friend would "drop" me. (My bff and I got into a bad argument once. He later said he considered not being friends anymore, but that was more of a difference in opinions rather than me doing something that would be considered me "messing up".)

If your friend dropped you for trying weed, may mean you guys have out grown each other.

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maybe she thought I was a bad influence on her but it was only one time

I get it. I'm sure you and your friend grew up with certain ideals, but weed to me isn't a big deal. Not like you did heroin or crack lol.

That's what college is for. To do some harmless experimenting. I think your friend overreacted, but that's her right to decide who she wants in her life and to stand on her ideals.

Like I said though, that just means that you and her may have grown apart a bit if she was willing to drop you so suddenly. You decided trying weed was not that big of a deal, and she decided it was unfortunately.

Who knows, maybe you can try to talk to her to see if she'll change her mind.

No, we've mostly just drifted apart, I don't really have friends that drop me.

No it was the other way around

I had a friend who when she was 14 ended up in hospital due to alcohol, than was in coma for a week and as she came back to school made fun of beer, ran away from home etc. and so I stoped hanging out with her

(this is sort of funny) but I remember in 1st grade, I told my best friend that I thought that Hello Kitty was the devil but because it was her favorite cartoon character (like she was OBSESSED with Hello Kitty), she literally told me that I almost lost her as a friend because I lied and compared a seemingly innocent cartoon character to the devil. It was only because there was someone else about it and that "Hello Kitty" in spanish was "Hola Demonio" in Spanish...and of course, I believed her and freaked out because she came from a Spanish-speaking family.

Matthew 6:14-15

14 For if ye ^aforgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you:

15 But if ye ^aforgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.

Matthew 18:15

15 ¶ Moreover if thy brother shall ^atrespass against thee, go and ^btell him his ^cfault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother.

Ephesians 4:32

32 And be ye ^akind one to another, tenderhearted, ^bforgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.

There is also a very specific scripture I can't find that basically says god requires us to forgive all and leave judgment to him. Her attitude is not Christian in the slightest however, maybe she needs your love to get past this. Your love may need to come in the form of giving her space and showing her love from a distance. Maybe she'll never forgive you but you forgiving her will be the most healing thing you can do for both of you. I know this sounds preachy but it's the best I can say. Being Christian doesn't mean perfect, it means we're on the journey, trying our best. No Christian is perfect. All Christians will fall flat on our faces. It's a learning process all Christians are in.

I drift from people usually. I did drop friends myself tho.

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I had one best friend and she is a strict Christian. A few weeks ago I tried weed for the first time and had a bad reaction to it. When I told her about it she dropped me I am so sad that happened but at the same time I have been a good christian and I only tried weed once

Hm I don't think I messed up at all but honestly when I was younger like 2014, 2015 ish I was defiantly different. My anxiety was bad back then to.

I don't think my one best friend dropped me so to say but now I realize at the time she was going through some stuff and was hanging out with the wrong people. I wouldn't exactly call it the 'hood' or anything but it definitely wasn't as nice as an area where I live now. And we just drifted apart, I was going through some mental health stuff at that time to and moved schools a lot so its a bit hard to say.

As a somewhat former Christian I personally believe that's a pretty lame excuse to drop you, you are still a good person 🍓 😊✌🏻

the question is would you want her to remain being your friend if she is willing to drop you so easily?

obviously it would seem that you and your friend have very fundamental different attitudes towards certain things and one of them is drugs

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Thank you so much !! This means a lot!!!! I also have one more question. DO I have the right to feel hurt or betrayed by her actions? Me and her have been super close and I have always followed god and been a good friend. The one time I experiment with weed and have a bad trip she is distancing herself from me like I am such a bad person who will corrupt her mind or something. Its like she forgot all about my personality or who I am and now all she can see is that I took weed before. With her acting like that it made me think that I am a horrible person. I admit what I did was wrong but it didnt deserve to lose my best friend over that. I feel so hurt But I forgive her becausue she is trying to protect herself but what makes me sad is that I am still the same person as I was before the drug its not like I am different now.

You absolutely have the right to be hurt, you wouldn't be human if you didn't. Just don't let those emotions own you. Emotions are meant to be felt, understood and worked through. You can't be sad and hurt forever. There's to much life to live but it's OK to hurt for a while.

I also tried weed for pain relief. It works great but I still hate it and won't do it.