would you ruin someone's career over bullying?

depends

bullying can be of different levels

dont think i remember if i was even bullied in school and if i was, i have forgiven them a long time ago

but the biggest bully in my life is my father and I doubt I will ever be able to forgive me

so yeah

if someone's bullying affects your life for a prolonged period of time, I'd understand why you might wanna expose them

To be completely honest I have no idea how I'd act. If the bullying was from homophobia I'd be way more likely to call them out but otherwise I think I'd let it slide unless they showed themselves to still be scummy

I personally think it's a bit too farfetched to ruin someone's career over something that happened years ago, and the person being blamed might have realised their actions were wrong and reformed themselves. I'm not really sure though

I've been bullied badly, and if I saw the same girl that bullied me in 7th grade as an idol you best be sure I'm letting people know how she ruined my life. I still have trauma from all the bullying and I would publicly want an apology. It seems evil to some but to me it's justice.

i got bullied as a kid but i dont hate my bullies anymore. They are adults now not kids. U can change a lot

Depends the situation . If they cause damage to me physically or mentally, then yeah. I would have done something sooner, but even then, you never know. I've read some bullying stories where the other person would get away with the bullying, and the person who was bullied would be punished for speaking up. It's not a black and white situation

It depends on the victims, some forgive and forget and some want to see that person living a hell life.

I'll be honest that I'll ignore the people who bullied me, I wasn't really bullied but someone humiliated me everyday in class bcoz I was too skinny which affected me too much that I tried to force myself to eat more, even to the point that I felt like throwing up most of the time but I still did it. I don't feel any anger towards that person now and if she ends up successful in her life, I won't feel bad.

But I want the worst for some people who harassed my family members and I'd be more than happy if they get in trouble so like I said, it depends on the victims and their situations if they want to forgive or not.

MY bullies? No, I don't think they affected me enough for me to seek revenge. But like I said before, I can't blame the ones who kept resentment and tried to discount it years later. We don't know how much it affected them. It's karma.

in our culture we highly believe karma exists and it's like ingrained in our mindset

so we just don't try to cause to harm to anyone who have left bad experiences for us instead we just mind our own business and believe that person will eventually punished by karma, if not she/he himself punished someone he/she loves will be punished for his/her wrongdoing

so yeah simple i won't harmy anyone over sth like that

if she/he is evil human being she/he will eventually be punished for it not depending on my action

No, I wouldn’t. There’s a reason why people of that age aren’t held legally responsible for minor crimes.

Between the ages 13-15 are when you’re most immature and do and say things that make you cringe when you get older. And the process of emotionally maturing doesn’t tend to end until you’re 25.

I'd at least want an apology

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though i don't believe in karma, yeah, i guess it depends on the level of bullying. still, i'd feel some type of way exposing, like i'd consider other members at least

Well I think my point of view rn is thanks to this video that showed up in my rec yesterday, i already posted it 3 times here lmao. If i haven't watched it, i probably would have a different pov about it but now i just can't feel bad about the bullies. You reap what you soil, that's karma for me

I think the question should be reversed first and foremost.

Depending on the context and level of bullying, why should the victim’s life be ruined over an asshole. You can grow up with a great deal of fixed damage, insecurities, anxiety and many other things. Why should your childhood or teen years get fucked over only for a bully to get sympathy all these years later first lol

trauma effects people differently

if this turns out to be true and the victim wants an apology then they should get one

whether or not the knets cancel soojin is a different issue that the victim isn't directly responsible for

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This is very true. I think a lot of people don't realize or remember that when you're a teenager you want to be seen as an adult or at the very least not a child. That's why a lot of teens start swearing or try smoking or drinking. Those are "grown up" things in the mind of a child.

Yep, you want to be a ‘grown up’ so bad. I smoked occassionally between the ages of twelve and fifteen because I thought it was mature and cool. Started kissing and making out with boys at eleven etc.

It depends on the situation. How serious was the bullying? How many traumas did that person leave in me? How shitty has my life been because of that person?

I was only lightly bullied in elementary school and I already forgave my bullies in middle school, so I'm fine with them. There has only been an older guy that bullied me once in high school and I never forgave him. But I don't even remember his face nor his name, so there's nothing I can do.

Depends on how it affects people as others said....i had this teacher who used to bully me in elimentary school and it boils my blood to hear that he still has a very good reputation....I would definitely want to expose him...

Didn't have any big bullying case in my school among students but if anyone was being mean to anyone...both parties would move on after some time and just mind their own business

Probably not, but then again everyone reacts differently for different reasons and thats understandable

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I think the question should be reversed first and foremost.

Depending on the context and level of bullying, why should the victim’s life be ruined over an asshole. You can grow up with a great deal of fixed damage, insecurities, anxiety and many other things. Why should your childhood or teen years get fucked over only for a bully to get sympathy all these years later first lol

It's a fallacious argument. Right off the bat you consider a bully's victim gonna 100% have their life ruined. You make it as if there weren't a wide range of bullying, which only the extreme cases could have long term consequences. It's dishonest because untrue. Lots of people have suffered some bullying and got over it. Lots of decent people have no desire to see their bully's life ruined because of middle school stuff that happened years ago.

absolutely...payback is a bitch.

In middle school? No. Middle schoolers are just stupid and do dumb shit.

In high school? Yeah, I'd totally ruin someone if I got bullied during that time, specially at that time when I had a very short temper. Of course, I'm taking bullying as serious as a crime like extortion, constant beating and belittlement, and force others to do their bid. Serious shit like this.

Although the chances of that happening at the time would be pretty low as I'd seek retribution immediately. I once beat a kid in front of the church for trying to humiliate me in front of the group. It was the late 80s, so the adults just reacted like kids fighting and let us resolve it ourselves.

no way

i mf hate bullies but like is it hard to believe that ppl will change after decades?? 🗿🗿

dunno. most people love revenge. i find it icky

if they still act the same way, though,,, yikes :///

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It's a fallacious argument. Right off the bat you consider a bully's victim gonna 100% have their life ruined. You make it as if there weren't a wide range of bullying, which only the extreme cases could have long term consequences. It's dishonest because untrue. Lots of people have suffered some bullying and got over it. Lots of decent people have no desire to see their bully's life ruined because of middle school stuff that happened years ago.

It's nothing to do with decency, some people forgive and some keep it in their heart against the bullies for the rest of their life, you're making it sound like victims who don't want to forgive their bullies are more wrong than the bully itself.

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It's a fallacious argument. Right off the bat you consider a bully's victim gonna 100% have their life ruined. You make it as if there weren't a wide range of bullying, which only the extreme cases could have long term consequences. It's dishonest because untrue. Lots of people have suffered some bullying and got over it. Lots of decent people have no desire to see their bully's life ruined because of middle school stuff that happened years ago.

again, context matters and I think it should go case by case. I said that point blank. And now you’re trying to call it out when generalizing and bringing up most people are fine/have gotten over it. That’s hypocritical

Nonetheless you don’t get to generalize and say plenty of people when it’s all to varying degrees with different effects and trauma.

And I’ll say it again, the sympathy for bullies all these years later is fucking hilarious. That’s bias for ya. When you try to spin it on the victim. They aren’t the bad guy lol

revenge is a dish best served cold

every action should have its consequences and if those consequences take 10, 20 years so be it

but if someone wants to forgive i can understand that...but if someone wants to destroy someone i can understand that too...

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It's nothing to do with decency, some people forgive and some keep it in their heart against the bullies for the rest of their life, you're making it sound like victims who don't want to forgive their bullies are more wrong than the bully itself.

If one has matured and changed their ways, and the other is still living in the past, then yes i will side with the former bully. I'm not interested in other people's petty quests for revenge. I am a cultural Christian and even though I'm not a believer at all, I still think forgiveness is the better route to take. I have zero reason to side with someone who's sore over shit that happened decades ago. It's not even in their best interest to flounder in their own resent for such a long time.

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If one has matured and changed their ways, and the other is still living in the past, then yes i will side with the former bully. I'm not interested in other people's petty quests for revenge. I am a cultural Christian and even though I'm not a believer at all, I still think forgiveness is the better route to take. I have zero reason to side with someone who's sore over shit that happened decades ago. It's not even in their best interest to flounder in their own resent for such a long time.

“ sore over shit “

LOL though you lost me at your cultural Christian forgiveness nonsense

There is no a right answer for this. Each victim should deal with it the best way they can. Some will want revenge (I can't blame them), others will move on and others will want the accuser to apologize either in public or private. Some will forgive, some won't.

I wasn't bullied so I don't know how I'd act but I tend to give a second chance to people who I believe they have changed for the better (except woman beaters or child abusers, those type of scums). But I also understand those who can't forgive or give a second chance.

I feel sorry if someone's career/live is ruined after they changed? Yeah but also that person hurt other people in the past so it's kinda fair. (It depends on how severe it was the bullying too, if we're talking about "someone called me ugly once" then it's not that fair).

I was a victim of bullying and, personally, I forgive the abusers, even through It's been 8 years since I ended high school, I have mental heath issues and I'm still under treatment because of what I suffered.

But I can't judge people who can't forgive and want them to pay for what they did in some way. Bullying can leave scars for a whole life and sometimes the anger makes people make controversial decisions.

If my bully was an idol I would like his career to be ruined, just as he ruined my life

I suffered severe bullying, I cried not to go to school because I knew what was going to happen. The worst is when teachers pretend they are not seeing anything

Thank God that this is my last year at school and I will never have to see the faces of those motherf again

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“ sore over shit “

LOL though you lost me at your cultural Christian forgiveness nonsense

I'm sorry that forgiveness is too high of a concept for you.