What gender children do you guys want???

Both.

If I have kids, I don't care, I'll love them either way.

Mini-me... I have to side eye that. Placing expectations on your kid to be like you or something can be a lot... but also it's fine to teach them stuff you know and skills so I hope my interpretation of that is on the false side.

I dont like kids so i'd say neither

a genderless child is fine too, or a girl, or a boy, irdc

but... i hope im never in the situation as a single parent, or to put someone in that situation either

so i just will not have kids with anyone

Doesn't and should not matter. I just hope they turn out great.

One of each lol

though it doesn't matter LUL

just that the kid doesn't make me lose my sanity would be great

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Mini-me... I have to side eye that. Placing expectations on your kid to be like you or something can be a lot... but also it's fine to teach them stuff you know and skills so I hope my interpretation of that is on the false side.

yup. My mom be like "Your grandpa was the director of a nuclear power plant and I have two phd's and I sat as department head for 4 years right out of college." (among other things, my mom was valedictorian since middle school as well) (my grandma was the computer science department head of that nuclear plant, but she wielded a lot of familial power when she was little. Ya know, important heirs and all that)

and I'm like -- bruh you don't have to make me feel *that* worthless.

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If I have kids, I don't care, I'll love them either way.

Mini-me... I have to side eye that. Placing expectations on your kid to be like you or something can be a lot... but also it's fine to teach them stuff you know and skills so I hope my interpretation of that is on the false side.

Ok so I wasn't the only one to question that comment

To answer the question: I don't want kids at all

imma adopt

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Ok so I wasn't the only one to question that comment

I might be a bit more sensitive towards that because growing up my parents expected me to be straight, Catholic, a doctor, etc.... none of which I am now. It was confusing growing up to say the least.

I'm lucky. I always wanted a daughter and I got a daughter first up who I am proud as punch of.

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i meant mini-me as in looks but i understand your points

Okay I see what you mean. Of course, if your kid wishes to develop their own sense of style, I would allow them to do so, but I suppose that's up to you as the parent...

Honestly a girl because I’d probably be a single Mother and I feel like I’d be more in tune with raising a girl by myself.

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I dont like kids so i'd say neither

a genderless child is fine too, or a girl, or a boy, irdc

but... i hope im never in the situation as a single parent, or to put someone in that situation either

so i just will not have kids with anyone

Being a single parent is nothing to be ashamed of especially if you can provide for them properly. I've given my daughter a good life.

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Being a single parent is nothing to be ashamed of especially if you can provide for them properly. I've given my daughter a good life.

i know its nothing to be ashamed of, i'd feel sorry that said child didnt have the other figure they deserve

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I might be a bit more sensitive towards that because growing up my parents expected me to be straight, Catholic, a doctor, etc.... none of which I am now. It was confusing growing up to say the least.

Thats completely understandable. I get told I’m a mini me of my mom and it makes me feel like I have no identity. And teah my parents also expected me to be straight, which I’m not. I didn’t even know I was allowed to feel what I felt towards girls

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Thats completely understandable. I get told I’m a mini me of my mom and it makes me feel like I have no identity. And teah my parents also expected me to be straight, which I’m not. I didn’t even know I was allowed to feel what I felt towards girls

yeah making children feel like their extensions of their parents can be so toxic... they have a harder time developing their own sense of identity and stuff.

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i know its nothing to be ashamed of, i'd feel sorry that said child didnt have the other figure they deserve

True, not all children have a dad in their lives. My daughter's father has always been there for her though.

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yeah making children feel like their extensions of their parents can be so toxic... they have a harder time developing their own sense of identity and stuff.

And its not always the parents themselves. Like often its people who know my mom who say that I’m her mini-me. But yeah I see what you mean about it being toxic, kids should have their own identity. If not they loose a sense of who they are

I don't want kids at all

I would be happy if it's a boy but I don't mind if it's a girl too.

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Doesn't and should not matter. I just hope they turn out great.

Maturity 100. Why people care slightly confuses me. Not everyone can even have children in the first place, be grateful you can.

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i don't care, i really don't. i just really want to have a kid one day. i really want to understand the feeling of being a mom, whether its adopting or having one.

This, this are my thoughts on the matter. I just want to be a mom. I don't care if I have to give birth, adopt or foster, I want to do it. The kids' gender doesn't matter to me, all that matters is that I get plenty when the time is right.

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imma adopt

Good for you! I wish more people would consider that as an actual option. I'm sure you'll be a great parent. Have a great day/night!

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Good for you! I wish more people would consider that as an actual option. I'm sure you'll be a great parent. Have a great day/night!

i hope so

I want to adopt an older one at that since everyone seems to go for the babies and pets

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i hope so

I want to adopt an older one at that since everyone seems to go for the babies and pets

I know so! I always see you being so kind and respectful on here and that will probably help you out a lot when you become a parent. I think I would be open to all ages. Whoever needed me most at the time. I'm also really glad you're considering older ones too since they get ignored so much for "having too much trauma to deal with", "being too rebellious" or even "not being as cute". It'll be a challenge, but I think you can do it! Have a great day/night!

I once wanted to adopt but now I don't think I'd be able to provide well for a child so I'll be sticking to small and fuzzy ones

If I could choose, I would prefer a boy.

However, I would be happy regardless of the gender.

Above all, I’d want a healthy and happy baby regardless of the gender. However, if I were to choose, I’d probably pick a boy. I’ve taken care of more boys than I have girls so I’m more comfortable with them.

Doesn't matter to me

I’ll pass on having kids.

I’m happy with my pets