do you think online dating is worth it?
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its actually rlly interesting to me to see people bring up meeting someone on a forum or just on social media in general over a common interest. i've heard of it before but i guess for me i've always felt like who i am online is a bit of persona and i've thought many people were the same. it would take a lot for me to open up for real to someone and that usually happens in private discord servers on a friendly level lol. glad people are finding love somehow tho
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Be careful because it can be shady af. It happens.
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It's hard to say. I've had a couple terrible experiences from dating apps that made me need therapy more than I already did, and I'm not joking. At the same time I would have never met my boyfriend if I hadn't joined. I just was way more careful when I met my boyfriend, but that still doesn't guarantee you won't match with creeps. I was getting less matches but more quality matches by the time I'd met my boyfriend.
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If you get lucky, it's a good thing. But sometimes, the good ones are already taken.
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for aclassyteaparty and anyone else considering dating apps, read this:
in late october i met a man on hinge and we started talking. he had "short term relationship, open to long" on his profile. i really ended up falling for him and we met up in november. gorgeous boy, young tom cruise type. i made the mistake of getting slightly physical (iykyk) on the first date with no reciprocation, which was a red flag in hindsight. i brushed it aside and we cuddled and i stayed the night even though i told my parents i would be coming home. the following morning he was kinda in a rush to get me out but not in an overt way. he made sure to mention that he wouldn't be back in town for a while and he hugged me twice as he walked me out to the car and seemed shocked when i kissed him on the cheek.
when i got home i was in huge trouble even though i'm 20, and my mom had packed my stuff. it hit me that i went to a frat house to chill out with a guy who thankfully ended up being nice, but this could've ended much worse. eventually we sorted it out but all of the sudden he stopped replying as often. this broke my heart. especially after some shit that happened to me this summer. i realized i was used. i confronted him nicely and he told me since he was moving and yadda yadda he doesn't want a relationship right now but he thinks i'm an amazing person. he then proceeded to discuss his cat with me and it's been radio silence since the last time i replied. i changed his contact name to false hope (shoutout Song Jieun!). and ever since then i've been slowly cutting my losses.
and today ironically marks one month since we met up.
moral of the story? all of that drama for a guy who wanted a quick fuck (technically a little less but still, he accomplished his...ahem...goal). i was nothing to him, and when i think too hard about it, it still hurts. always ask what they want upfront, regardless of what they have on their profile, but in general it's better to just meet people irl. it is fun to use these apps but it can be dangerous and/or disappointing. success stories are in the minority.
stay safe. x.
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why the fuck didn't i take my own fucking advice what the fuck is wrong with me.
Violanah omfg look when i posted this?!^^^^^^
for aclassyteaparty and anyone else considering dating apps, read this:
in late october i met a man on hinge and we started talking. he had "short term relationship, open to long" on his profile. i really ended up falling for him and we met up in november. gorgeous boy, young tom cruise type. i made the mistake of getting slightly physical (iykyk) on the first date with no reciprocation, which was a red flag in hindsight. i brushed it aside and we cuddled and i stayed the night even though i told my parents i would be coming home. the following morning he was kinda in a rush to get me out but not in an overt way. he made sure to mention that he wouldn't be back in town for a while and he hugged me twice as he walked me out to the car and seemed shocked when i kissed him on the cheek.
when i got home i was in huge trouble even though i'm 20, and my mom had packed my stuff. it hit me that i went to a frat house to chill out with a guy who thankfully ended up being nice, but this could've ended much worse. eventually we sorted it out but all of the sudden he stopped replying as often. this broke my heart. especially after some shit that happened to me this summer. i realized i was used. i confronted him nicely and he told me since he was moving and yadda yadda he doesn't want a relationship right now but he thinks i'm an amazing person. he then proceeded to discuss his cat with me and it's been radio silence since the last time i replied. i changed his contact name to false hope (shout out Song Jieun!). and ever since then i've been slowly cutting my losses.
and today ironically marks one month since we met up.
moral of the story? all of that drama for a guy who wanted a quick fuck (technically a little less but still, he accomplished his...ahem...goal). i was nothing to him, and when i think too hard about it, it still hurts. always ask what they want upfront, regardless of what they have on their profile, but in general it's better to just meet people irl. it is fun to use these apps but it can be dangerous and/or disappointing. success stories are in the minority.
stay safe. x.
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This might be a tmi but after entering my 20's I recently came out, I personally haven't tried online dating yet because I am to scared so I'm sorry I can't give you any proper advice but I think considering what the comments have already stated. I think its safe to say as long as you feel safe and comfortable is the main important thing, dating online isn't for everyone and you shouldn't feel pressured to do it if you don't want to. I have met some great people irl without dating online.
It just depends who you are as a person and what feels best for you. 🖤
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In general, whether or not it's worthwhile to start online dating depends on individual preferences, experiences, and goals. Despite the potential benefits of online dating, it is important to approach it with caution and be aware of the potential risks. It's also important to remember that online dating is only one of many ways to meet a potential partner, and it may not be the best option for everyone. Well in spite of all these precautions online dating has many advantages. Personally, I haven't met anyone in public places for a long time, everything happens only online. Online dating can be done from the comfort of your home or on the go, making it a convenient and flexible way to meet people. Online dating can be a useful tool for people looking for potential partners because it offers a convenient and affordable way to connect with those who share similar interests and values. However, whether online dating is worthwhile depends on many factors, including individual preferences, experiences and goals.
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not really
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it's a social nightmare. meeting people through friends is eternally the best option
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for aclassyteaparty and anyone else considering dating apps, read this:
in late october i met a man on hinge and we started talking. he had "short term relationship, open to long" on his profile. i really ended up falling for him and we met up in november. gorgeous boy, young tom cruise type. i made the mistake of getting slightly physical (iykyk) on the first date with no reciprocation, which was a red flag in hindsight. i brushed it aside and we cuddled and i stayed the night even though i told my parents i would be coming home. the following morning he was kinda in a rush to get me out but not in an overt way. he made sure to mention that he wouldn't be back in town for a while and he hugged me twice as he walked me out to the car and seemed shocked when i kissed him on the cheek.
when i got home i was in huge trouble even though i'm 20, and my mom had packed my stuff. it hit me that i went to a frat house to chill out with a guy who thankfully ended up being nice, but this could've ended much worse. eventually we sorted it out but all of the sudden he stopped replying as often. this broke my heart. especially after some shit that happened to me this summer. i realized i was used. i confronted him nicely and he told me since he was moving and yadda yadda he doesn't want a relationship right now but he thinks i'm an amazing person. he then proceeded to discuss his cat with me and it's been radio silence since the last time i replied. i changed his contact name to false hope (shoutout Song Jieun!). and ever since then i've been slowly cutting my losses.
and today ironically marks one month since we met up.
moral of the story? all of that drama for a guy who wanted a quick fuck (technically a little less but still, he accomplished his...ahem...goal). i was nothing to him, and when i think too hard about it, it still hurts. always ask what they want upfront, regardless of what they have on their profile, but in general it's better to just meet people irl. it is fun to use these apps but it can be dangerous and/or disappointing. success stories are in the minority.
stay safe. x.
I could've been the guy. But I am pretty sure I didn't talk about cats
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