How would you deal with feeling targeted by your own fandom?

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Ask her if she has a secondary fandom and to see if she can go to that fandom's guild? She can find refuge and comfort among others who feel and think like her but at the same time she doesn't have to stop liking her favorite artist.

I'm a multi stan but there are times when different fandoms make me feel uncomfortable so I seek refuge by talking to my other fandoms. And it helps!

I have no idea about what happened and I can't connect the events, but I'm curious lol

Say to her to comeback and talk to people she actually enjoy interacting with and ignore her fandom, block the users who annoy her the most, so she won't see if they gang up on her for having an opinion.

Don’t be bothered for having an opinion. Be offensive if you want. Worst she can do here is hurt someone’s feelings.

Try not to take anything happening here seriously and personally. Fandom dramas, trolls, antis.. all can be overwhelming if you let it get to you. Being liked (or disliked) on akp has no correlation with the real you or your happiness. If your fandom don’t like you, so what? You are in the fandom because of your faves, not for the people in that fandom.

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3) I've seen her having to deal with gatekeepers because she doesn't follow the 'cult mentality' on here

i can relate to this. i was accused of supporting bashing and trashing of my faves for openly saying that their last single is terrible. those posts got lots of likes. "say you don't like it and leave" was everything they could handle, but not essays. if you remember that was the time when both fans and non fans started writing essays and they weren't hate posts but criticism.

criticizing your faves is a no-no. how can you not like something your faves served you? you should be grateful they released anything (actual comment from the main site). criticizing their label is also considered an attack of my faves. imagine defending a capitalist and corporation.

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I'm trying to get her to come back because she did enjoy AKP although ironically, she enjoyed speaking to other fandoms and multis more rather than her own fandom. I'm not sure what to say to her

i can also relate to this. lately, i've been talking more to people from other fandoms than my own.

my advice to her is just to ignore them or block them. nice and shady people are in every fandom, she should focus on nice things and, trust me, they exist. don't let shady people ruin her forum experience, especially since she likes it here.

whoever you are, come back

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criticizing their label is also considered an attack of my faves

Damn, I hate all my faves

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Damn, I hate all my faves

fake fan!

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omg exact same thing happened to her, like wtf, how are you gonna drag someone for calling out shitty companies and their shitty actions

ofc it did. the length some people go to defend shitty companies

1. don't take kpop that seriously

2. report people who break the rules

3. communication is hard especially on the internet and I've said it many times - english might not be one's first language and coupled with the fact that one is missing all the non-verbal communication methods makes it harder...

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omg exact same thing happened to her, like wtf, how are you gonna drag someone for calling out shitty companies and their shitty actions

she should join Blinks then. Blinks 💩 on YGE all the time

Disassociate from that fandom (online at least). Some fans take K pop far too literally and carry on like they know the idols personally when in actual fact most wouldn't know they existed. I have been a victim of it myself in the past by a notorious fandom, when I stanned a particular group and I unstanned them as a result. Honestly, some fans need to seriously grow up and act their damn age. I have to deal with shite all the time from youngsters and it does get very wearing.

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i can relate to this. i was accused of supporting bashing and trashing of my faves for openly saying that their last single is terrible. those posts got lots of likes. "say you don't like it and leave" was everything they could handle, but not essays. if you remember that was the time when both fans and non fans started writing essays and they weren't hate posts but criticism.

criticizing your faves is a no-no. how can you not like something your faves served you? you should be grateful they released anything (actual comment from the main site). criticizing their label is also considered an attack of my faves. imagine defending a capitalist and corporation.

i can also relate to this. lately, i've been talking more to people from other fandoms than my own.

my advice to her is just to ignore them or block them. nice and shady people are in every fandom, she should focus on nice things and, trust me, they exist. don't let shady people ruin her forum experience, especially since she likes it here.

whoever you are, come back

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The company stanning is something i will never get. Do we ever hear Western stans praising and worshiping UMG or Sony??? But company stans in Kpop seem to not only exist but thrive.

It's to the point where i've openly questioned whether fanbases of hoobae groups are just company stans and multistans who ult the senior group. Like i've never seen a Moa or a My or a Midzy actually openly state that they dislike their senior groups BTS, RV or Twice. I mean how is this possible? Statistically, it's impossible and yet we never see it here at least. I think i'm the only TXT fan that has been critical of BTS music or has clashed with Army.

I've also been accused of not being a BP fan because i'm critical of the members or their music, or openly question whether they will renew, or stan other groups.

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who is this user?

It's Travis Scott

I just block users who are nasty. If their behaviour is really bad then you can report then to the mods.

Such a shame if someone doesn't want to even come on here because of others.

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Most of the people said the same thing. I am a fan of 48 bg's i stay out of toxic shit,

Jesus

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lol yes, people get shocked by that and yes i own merch for most of them lol

I mean good for you, enjoy them as much as you can. I only stan 2 and it already feels like a full time job, must be wild to keep up with so many

You ignore them and go about your life.

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who is that

Yea I didn't know who he was either until the accident.

If you have a bias, you're probably targeted. If you don't follow cult logic, you will be a targeted. If you don't like the newly released song, you will be a targeted. If you criticize the company, you will be a targeted. These are things we encounter every day. Best not to care them.

I wish I was targeted. Nobody even notice me

All kidding aside, people will always have opinions and some are more vicious than others. But just because they are loud doesn’t mean they are right.

She has the options to engage to whoever she choose. Use the block function generously. It was created for a reason. It’s just kpop. Ultimately there is no right or wrong opinion. All opinions are kinda sh*t no matter how well written or common it is. So your friend should speak her mind, block the bullies and let them pull a fit. Who cares?

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who is that

Someone who hates his own fandom and loves to see them dead

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I wish I was targeted. Nobody even notice me

I always notice you because you sound delicious. I’d say I’m gonna target you but I’m too lazy to follow that up lol

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lol....but we have some of the worst drama

pros and cons, pros and cons