Is it ok for men in their 20s 30s and 40s to go to girl group fanmeets to meet groups like IVE and NewJeans?

  • Some of y’all aint gonna like this but adults stannng minors is weird period.


    I don’t care if it’s not sexual being devoted to a minor to the point you got their pc on your phone case or run a stan account for them ain’t it

  • its a bit unsettling yes and i personally wouldnt do that if i was in their shoes but at the end of the day sometimes older men genuinely like their music... nah idk its definitely weird

  • I’ve seen plenty older for fan hi wave and I think it’s weird but not creepy.

    But I think in Europe kpop fans are generally older?


    I think it’s odd for anyone over 18 to want to meet a 16 year old actually😂


    Music is one thing. Fangirling/boying another. Being a man and 40/50 would be huge no for meet n greet.

  • Any age is Allright if it’s just listening to music but fansigns I would side eye the men who are in their 30s en 40s and go to minors fansign. In the 20s is more understandable since some of the members are 18+

  • No, same with women obviously. Like i'm 28 why tf would i want to meet a 16 years old. I would never even stan a group with a minor. I can like their music ofc but that's it.

  • Optically speaking, if the fans look young, then i bet people will be ok. Visuals are everything, a guy could be 17 but if he looks like he's 35, it's gonna look off when you see photos and vids of fanmeets and folks are gonna side eye him. And if a guy is 30 but looks 17, most people wouldnt even blink an eye.


    In terms of age, i think the line is somewhere in the 20s. I think 30 and above fans should just be content to passively consume our faves' content. You wouldnt catch me going on even a video fancall with my Izone faves like Yuri and Minju, let alone an in person meetup, and they're 21 years old.

  • yeah I was thinking about that


    fan signs are different from just liking music


    if I was 15 and someone 35 was infront of me as a fan, Id probably cry to my mom later

    Yes I have no problem with them being fans and liking their music but to go out of your way and pay good money to meets the girls is a bit excessive and strange. But like I said all the company sees is money so they don't care.

  • 20s maybe but 30s and 40s...eh that's like the age you have children isn't it. Imagine stanning someone the age of your daughter

    Liking the music is one thing but going to fanmeets and arguing online with kids over them isn't it. And that NewJeans mess is a big reason why I can't stan groups like them and IVE, groups with mostly minors even though I'm not that much older than them...just some very uncomfortable stuff


    And personally I find it kinda weird for older female fans to be obsessive over young male idols as well but I feel like that isn't as common IMO

  • Old men loving young girl groups is weird and concerning.

    To be fair, though I hate hate haaaate to admit this, this only applies to our current time (UNFORTUNATELY).


    Surprisingly, a little less than a century ago, females were usually drown to older men (not grandpas but men at least 10 years older) because they give them a sense of safety and protection. so young girl with an adult dude was widely accepted.

    It's BIOLOGY and EVOLUTION.


    Thankfully it's changing since women can work and provide for themselves now so they don't necessarily choose older dudes to "mate" with. They create that sense of safety for themselves.

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  • I don't understand why we can't just let people like what they like instead of assuming that everyone different from us has nefarious intentions.


    I'm an older fan of MX. By the time I bought tickets to Monsya X's concert, the best seats that I could afford happened to come with the send off. I had no idea what that was but bought them anyway. It ended up being where I could be in a special area that they would come through and like wave and stuff. I was surprisingly super excited to get a chance to see them up close. I had a great time. If you see a picture of my old ass self there, go ahead and judge I guess. I love kpop though and consider it a hobby just like any other and will continue to enjoy it. Thanks for coming to my ted talk.

  • But in many cases they're 15+ years older. And it's not like any of these idols consider dating them.

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  • Hmm. I certainly think it's weird for a 30 year old to stan a 15 year old - regardless of gender.


    There's a power dynamic there that's a bit squidge. My mom and I have talked about it because it bugs her when men talk over women in a work setting, particularly over younger women. She's pretty spicy but she gets aggravated because sometimes she feels like younger women don't always speak up because those men often represent people their father's age and so they don't feel like they have the power or authority to tell them to knock it off (she also mentioned that in terms of sexual harassment type situations - she'll tell her peers to knock it off if they're getting in creepy territory but the younger women they're often speaking to or about won't do it. Granted, my mom is definitely a ball-buster who gives zero fucks.) I know that seems like a tangent, but my point here is that these girls have even less autonomy in this area re: power dynamic since their job is often predicated on being sweet and nice.


    But on the flip side, my 50 year old auntie loves the hell out of Taeil from NCT (who's half her age) and I could totally see her at a fan sign with a pecan pie saying "baby, you keep on doing what you're doing, sweetie. God blessed you with a voice and you keep on singing!" :pepe-hehe: People may not be coming from a shady place but still..

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  • I don't understand why we can't just let people like what they like instead of assuming that everyone different from us has nefarious intentions.


    I'm an older fan of MX. By the time I bought tickets to Monsya X's concert, the best seats that I could afford happened to come with the send off. I had no idea what that was but bought them anyway. It ended up being where I could be in a special area that they would come through and like wave and stuff. I was surprisingly super excited to get a chance to see them up close. I had a great time. If you see a picture of my old ass self there, go ahead and judge I guess. I love kpop though and consider it a hobby just like any other and will continue to enjoy it. Thanks for coming to my ted talk.

    Idk about everyone else but I only side eye it if the group is all minors, like new jeans where the youngest is literally 14...

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  • reason why I'm not checking treasure content anymore :cryingk: it's just weird to look at a teen and think they are cute or attractive :cryingk: so only music if it's good.

    This is true ,i am gg stans but teenager.

    I love stanned the role model idols (they have potentiel of become popular tho)and their music


    This is hard for the bg groups become mega popular expect big4 .


    You should being careful with teenager boy group if you re older than them...

  • Hmm. I certainly think it's weird for a 30 year old to stan a 15 year old - regardless of gender.


    There's a power dynamic there that's a bit squidge. My mom and I have talked about it because it bugs her when men talk over women in a work setting, particularly over younger women. She's pretty spicy but she gets aggravated because sometimes she feels like younger women don't always speak up because those men often represent people their father's age and so they don't feel like they have the power or authority to tell them to knock it off (she also mentioned that in terms of sexual harassment type situations - she'll tell her peers to knock it off if they're getting in creepy territory but the younger women they're often speaking to or about won't do it. Granted, my mom is definitely a ball-buster who gives zero fucks.) I know that seems like a tangent, but my point here is that these girls have even less autonomy in this area re: power dynamic since their job is often predicated on being sweet and nice.


    But on the flip side, my 50 year old auntie loves the hell out of Taeil from NCT (who's half her age) and I could totally see her at a fan sign with a pecan pie saying "baby, you keep on doing what you're doing, sweetie. God blessed you with a voice and you keep on singing!" :pepe-hehe: People may not be coming from a shady place but still..

    I think the age dynamics in korean culture make it even weirder tbh with their being an expectation for respect to people older then you... also the fact that theyre fans and theres obviously a power imbalance in fansigns where they cant outwardly show theyre uncomfortable ... so those two being paired makes it even more weirder for me to see a grown man in a fansign to see a group full of minors and the youngest a 14 year old like in that picture with Newjeans pepe-ooh



    idk i made sense here :pepe-magnify:

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    let us gather around for the lord’s prayer:

    Nævis we love you. You are the one who protected me when i was in trouble. MY victory, one SYNK DIVE. I know your sacrifices. Let’s meet surely after the resurrection.

    Æmen

    :pepe-pray:

  • I think the age dynamics in korean culture make it even weirder tbh with their being an expectation for respect to people older then you... also the fact that theyre fans and theres obviously a power imbalance in fansigns where they cant outwardly show theyre uncomfortable ... so those two being paired makes it even more weirder for me to see a grown man in a fansign to see a group full of minors and the youngest a 14 year old like in that picture with Newjeans pepe-ooh



    idk i made sense here :pepe-magnify:

    Totally makes sense..

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  • I think the age dynamics in korean culture make it even weirder tbh with their being an expectation for respect to people older then you... also the fact that theyre fans and theres obviously a power imbalance in fansigns where they cant outwardly show theyre uncomfortable ... so those two being paired makes it even more weirder for me to see a grown man in a fansign to see a group full of minors and the youngest a 14 year old like in that picture with Newjeans pepe-ooh



    idk i made sense here :pepe-magnify:

    Wonder if a teenage boy idol would be as uncomfortable with a 35 year old woman fan like Minji looks in that photo?

  • yeah but the context is the potential attraction of older men to younger/kid females. I'm saying, it used to not be considered weird but now it is weird.

    Well, old men used to control everything. It's not until young women started speaking up that it became weird.

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  • Totally makes sense..

    im on mobile and its late :pepe-puddle: not all of us can write essays like you just like that :pepe-hips:

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    let us gather around for the lord’s prayer:

    Nævis we love you. You are the one who protected me when i was in trouble. MY victory, one SYNK DIVE. I know your sacrifices. Let’s meet surely after the resurrection.

    Æmen

    :pepe-pray:

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