Do You Like to Chase or Be Chased?

None haha.

I don't like if someone is too pushy, but I don't make any effort myself, so what works for me the most is being friends and develop feelings like that. I don't even like people that easily, if I don't know them.

But even with friends, I think i'm just friendly to everyone, but never make a 'first step' to become close to someone.

Quote from crystalblues

I wish people would make a tiny bit of effort but I find myself always making the effort and paying for anything that could be considered a date. And then my shorter relationships have ended horribly. Most recently someone shaving their head because I told them they needed to make effort and it was immature for them to ghost me and meeting my family last Christmas. I did not know if they were okay and was worried until I saw them live on Twitch I then left them after trying to talk about it for a week and a few months later started working on things with my ex who wanted to try again (Who has improved a lot thus far from what I have seen and is trying to mend the damage they caused with their past bad behaviors)

I think you're too good. From your attitude and your stories, I can see you are the one always trying to help others and the one to make effort.

Don't let people take advantage of you. You deserve the best, so don't settle for someone that doesn't respect you

Quote from crystalblues

I have been working on making my boundaries solid again and I have gotten a lot of flack for it but I am levelheaded on needing to do it. Which has lead to those who truly want to be in my life accepting the boundaries

Yes! That's right! Those that truly want to be in your life, will accept your boundaries!