should i use email or real mail

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    1. email (4) 44%
    2. real mail (5) 56%

    ok so i want to send "fanmail" to someone who notoriously responds (not a kpop idol lmao), but i don't know if i should write an actual letter or use email.


    the reason i'm having this debate with myself is because last year this dude was run off the internet over stupid fucking shit. literally he straight up retired bc people blew a small thing WAY out of fucking proportion. and i'm not sure if he checks his fanmail anymore (i've heard he does) but i'm also not sure if he checks his email for that stuff (bc he was sent death threats etc. which btw, were so fucking unnecessary).


    anyways, if it's to his email i'll know he got it but if i send it as a letter there's no real guaranteed way of knowing. but at the same time a handwritten letter is much more genuine and will probably (in practice) be more expressive and show more effort, yk? what i want to say isn't lighthearted at all and is rather a deep thank you, so i think something handwritten is more fitting for that. he'd also be more likely to respond, though i'm not too sure since the incident + who knows how deep i'll get in the letter lol.




    opinions?



    [also please don't speculate who, that's not the point of this thread (though it should be obvious depending on your level of exposure to twitter), i just need opinions as to what i should do. thank you]

    Edited 7 times, last by FeLiNa ().

    I have no idea how to decide in all honesty. I can already feel your struggle. If it's possible, maybe send him two letters: one more lighthearted one in the email and then one more serious one in the mail. The lighthearted one might be more appropriate for an email and this way you can see if he's at least seen it. It can just be short and sweet if you want to dedicate more time to the written one. The more serious one is probably the one you want an actual response to more, and you're more likely to get it there, so try that.


    Unless your email has your name in the email address, I doubt he'd have any way to connect both letters to the same person, so it wouldn't come across as "excessive" or "annoying" (though if you're a fan, I think he'd be more likely to be happy than react that way, but you never know). The contents/tone would be different enough so he wouldn't (most likely) assume it was the same person. I doubt anyone has the time or cares enough to spend a ton of time picking apart your writing style and analyzing that to see if it's the same person or not. I hope this was helpful. Have a great day/night!

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    I have no idea how to decide in all honesty. I can already feel your struggle. If it's possible, maybe send him two letters: one more lighthearted one in the email and then one more serious one in the mail. The lighthearted one might be more appropriate for an email and this way you can see if he's at least seen it. It can just be short and sweet if you want to dedicate more time to the written one. The more serious one is probably the one you want an actual response to more, and you're more likely to get it there, so try that.


    Unless your email has your name in the email address, I doubt he'd have any way to connect both letters to the same person, so it wouldn't come across as "excessive" or "annoying" (though if you're a fan, I think he'd be more likely to be happy than react that way, but you never know). The contents/tone would be different enough so he wouldn't (most likely) assume it was the same person. I doubt anyone has the time or cares enough to spend a ton of time picking apart your writing style and analyzing that to see if it's the same person or not. I hope this was helpful. Have a great day/night!



    thank you so much for this, this is genius and i'll def consider it. and he doesn't get annoyed by that stuff, he's really grateful for the community even though some of us really fucked up, and i just think he should know there are still people in his corner. :-(

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    thank you so much for this, this is genius and i'll def consider it. and he doesn't get annoyed by that stuff, he's really grateful for the community even though some of us really fucked up, and i just think he should know there are still people in his corner. :-(

    No problem! I hope you're able to figure out what to do. That's good. You are literally so sweet, I'm sure he'll appreciate whatever you send/tell him. Have a great day/night!

    Hmmm, so there's several layers to this.


    Email will probably be your best chance to get a response, but will feel less personal. Email is also much faster and more secure.


    Mail will be a lot more personal, but will take longer and doesn't have any guarantee that it'll get to the destination. Also, if you include a return address, he'll have your contact info.


    So I really think that it's up to what you're trying to convey.


    I agree the best strategy is to do both. Send the email and the letter. The email can be more lighthearted and fun, but you can also mention in the email that you sent a letter as well.


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    Hm…well, based on what you’re saying, I think a handwritten letter would be the best option. It’s kind of a difficult choice given the situation that happened in the past, but it’s more likely he’ll see it if it’s handwritten. And it’ll feel more heartfelt and genuine if what you’re writing to him is deep. I hope this helps, bestie. I’m not that good at giving advice but I tried 💕🥺

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    While email would deliver a fast response I’m a sucker for hand written letters so I voted for it.


    Not only that, if I sent fan mail to someone who I know will respond, I’d want to be able to physically hold the letter as opposed to having an email. You could always print the email but it’s not the same.


    For a few years a friend and I used to send each other hand written letters. It felt much more personal and was always a nice surprise whenever I had received her letter back.

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    While email would deliver a fast response I’m a sucker for hand written letters so I voted for it.


    Not only that, if I sent fan mail to someone who I know will respond, I’d want to be able to physically hold the letter as opposed to having an email. You could always print the email but it’s not the same.


    For a few years a friend and I used to send each other hand written letters. It felt much more personal and was always a nice surprise whenever I had received her letter back.


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