and do the guests being children vs adults make a difference?
If you're invited to someone's birthday and go to a restaurant, should the guests pay or host party pay for everything?
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I guess that's something that should be brought up before the actual event...
communication is key
context is important
if it's a Mcdonalds party for children and all the guests are expected to bring gifts then my understanding of the situation is that the host pays
if one is going to a five star michellin restaurant then each pays for themselves
personally when friends and I have gone to something like a Chinese resturant then everyone but the birthday person pays (ie we pay for them)
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I think it should be clear in advance, and also, I think it kind of depends on who is inviting who.
If the birthday person is saying, "It's my birthday, come eat out with me!" and then expects the guests they invited to pay for them, then that's entitled behavior.
If it's the friends saying, "It's your birthday, let's go out!" then I think they should make it clear if it's an "our treat" kind of thing or not.
And I think all around you have to be cognizant that not everyone makes the same bank or has the same expenses even if they do. So if you're throwing around ideas and not treating, then you should try to pick a place that has a good range of prices so no one feels like they have risk standing out by only ordering water and a tiny starter salad.
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I guess it depends on different kinds of people or their culture?
It needs to be talked about before hand.
But I never had to pay once when I went to a birthday party.
And nobody had to pay when they came to mine.
And this ranged from having a few drinks at the pub to some really fancy restaurants or clubs in Soho.
Back home in Romania, that is the rule as well.
You go to a birthday party you bring a gift that is worth at least as much how much "damage" you will do.
That's why I would always buy a very expensive bottle of spirits plus another gift for the host
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if a group of friends are talking about meeting up to celebrate someone's birthday i think it's fair everyone pitch in, whether it's pay for themselves, or everyone pitch in a certain amount, if the friends are treating a b-day person then the birthday person shouldn't be expected to pay.
however, i feel that if it's someone's b-day and they invite people to a restaurant or place to celebrate unless they say otherwise that to me would sound like they plan to pay.
if you're taking your child to a b-day party usually everything i see is prepared at their home if they are meeting up somewhere I would assume the parents would pay for their own child, unless the parents are offering something or asking for everyone to pitch in.
i think the best answer would be to ask for clarification. it never hurts to ask so that you can plan ahead or know what you need in advance or if it's too pricey so, you can politely decline. it's better to ask than not to ask.
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Depends.
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What's normal where I live is everyone pay their part. Because birthdays are not usually big celebrations, just some dinner in some place.
People here have some kind of pride about letting other people pay for them, like it's common to see people discussing about paying everywhere. And even in weddings and other related stuff you are kinda expected to gift the people that prepared it money that covers for your part plus an actual gift if you are close but you do it before the events happens.
Kids birthdays are usually paid all by the parents if you are renting some playground or something (and you still have to gift something to the kid)
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Based of customs that I learned... dinner with friends at a restaurant for a birthday...
In the US: Guests split bill and pay for birthday person
In Italy: Birthday person pays for all
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well based on what you have said in the title
if you are invited to a birthday party and the host has made the decision to have it in a restaurant then you shouldn't be expected to be asked to pay from the host
however you should bring gifts or even monetary gift to the host as a way of celebrating the host birthday
bringing children to the restaurant shouldn't matter as long as the gift is adequate
adequate or not adequate is decided by you of course, not the host
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to all the ones i've been to in my life, the birthday person pays.
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It depends what host means.
Are they simply inviting everyone to go to a restaurant as a celebration? Then everyone pays for themeselves. Some times guests may just pay for for the birthday boy/girl food or activities.
Are they renting out a place or holding a specific event? Then the host should pay or set catering in advance. When going to a wedding you don’t pay for your own food, it’s already taken care of by the couples family.
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Good question. I'll give my perspective on it, though I'm sure people will disagree with me. First of all, my rule of thumb is the host should always pay for everything. This includes business meetings, hanging out with friends, parties, vacations, literally anything. This includes birthdays too. If the host cannot pay for everything by themselves, they either don't do it and choose something else/do nothing, or let the guests know more than a week in advance (so they can save up money if they're poor or if they can't afford to pay and don't want to come because of that, they have time to cancel without being last minute).
As for if I have a preference for children or adults, I do not, not really. I get along with children better because of how playful and actually fun they are, but sometimes adults are more relatable and understand what I am going through and my struggles better. It depends on my mood too, but generally I am completely fine with either. If you mean in who pays, the parents of the child typically always pay for their child. Whether the host parents pay for everything or the guest parents' chip in too probably depends on the circumstances. Like I said, that's my opinion, as harsh as it is. You're allowed to have a different one if you disagree with me. Have a great day/night!
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well based on what you have said in the title
if you are invited to a birthday party and the host has made the decision to have it in a restaurant then you shouldn't be expected to be asked to pay from the host
however you should bring gifts or even monetary gift to the host as a way of celebrating the host birthday
bringing children to the restaurant shouldn't matter as long as the gift is adequate
adequate or not adequate is decided by you of course, not the host
Agreed with all of this. Common sense 100. Have a great day/night!
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I think if it's children it's expected for the birthday person parents pay, unless it's something like each one bring food but that's usually btw immediate family.
For adults it really depends how well off financially people are, but it seems like an universal awkward experience tbh lol Not everyone is mindful of others money
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