Why I turned away from Kpop

I feel like this occasionally. Honestly the best times for me are when I just watch content without reading comments and interact with fans. But going to social media platforms is addicting (in a bad way). I like to think that most fans are like that but we obviously only see the ones sharing their toxic opinions 24/7.

I mean casual fans seem to be the majority because when you see a group getting too much hate on socials you think their career ended, but then they do a concert or go anywhere and you see how many people turn up for them and probably never heard of the controversy. So the majority are not the toxic chart/sales/scandals-obsessed bunch.

People are trolling and fighting even outside of kpop. It does not matter if you are discussing politics, video games, sport or even investing into stocks. Some people are always fighting and talking trash everywhere. You just have to take it as grain of salt.

well said.

and to add to that, charting/achievements are hardly influenced by song quality itself. instead, they are influenced by (1) fandom size, (2) extent of playlisting, (3) whether the song happens to go viral on tiktok, and (4) whether the "gp" considers the group to be trendy. crappy songs topping charts just give kpop a bad name when non-kpop listeners check out songs which are supposedly the best of kpop.

No one has a gun against your head to participate in fandom life. It’s so easy to avoid and social media gives us so many tools.

Why would you let anyone else ruin something you like. Could never be me.

I mean I understand that some people can be influenced like that but I just feel it’s not worth it lol.

I consider myself to be one of the non toxic ones, always have been. Drama and trolling has never been my style and I agree with the points you have made. I feel the same actually having been into K pop since 2011. Groups I stanned have come and gone or disbanded and current group's music has declined somewhat in my opinion. I'm also a mature aged fan and a bit out of the norm. None of the group's comebacks have done anything for me and to be fair, only Twice is delivering the goods. As with a lot of things, K pop is profits before people and the group's end up being sold by their companies. I am not as passionate as I used to be and have deleted a lot of songs from my playlist as well. Songs I used to like have been played that much that now they just become annoying. I am just one of those casual listeners nowadays.

Thank you for signing up to a kpop forum to tell everyone why you're tired of kpop. The world is now a better place.

you should never turn away
just ignore or
as possible
don't engage from kpop discussion or read negative fan comments

maybe
practice tolerance?

you accept another's ideas and beliefs.(even non sense or full of hate?)

If you respect someone's opinions — even if you disagree or find them nonsensical — you display tolerance

I took several hiatus from Kpop because of that and then I decided to follow the groups that I like more casually than before. It helped me a lot.

I've been close to dropping kpop several times over the years but it was for a different reason. Mostly because of how companies treat these kids.

I understand you perfectly OP. I usually take long breaks from this forum and I've curated my social medias to avoid any unnecessary fan wars. Fortunately, nothing has taken away the joy of listening to music because that's all I really care about in the end.

I've learned that it is perfectly fine to enjoy something quietly without being involved in a fandom or up-to-date with anything they do, that doesn't make you or anyone else any less of a fan.

idk its extremely easy to listen to and enjoy the music without caring about the idols or their fans

give yourself some time and space bro. In the mean time try to enjoy some of your other hobbies or pick up more like anime, drawing or whatever you like. When you've spent enough time without it you will on your own start to crave a bit again and be able to enjoy it like you did in the start. Idk much abt what kpop discord or whatever are like but be wise with which community you surround yourself with especially on twitter.

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idk its extremely easy to listen to and enjoy the music without caring about the idols or their fans

that's true especially if you don't involve yourself in fan communities and stuff

Idk. I can easily ignore forums, fan stuff, news and comments and just follow my fav (which is one only) on the main fan account. Other then that is just listen to autoplay on spotify and radio.

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Stuff no normal person cares about, become topics for huge fanwars and reasons to insult hardworking artists they never met.

this.

never in my life that I thought I'm gonna see people fights because someone eat a strawberry

Never had this issue because i don't care for fandoms or kpop that much, to me kpop is just entertainment and some cool music here and there. I've been to exo BTS Ateez SHINee etc concerts and fansigns and never once was a single fuck given about the fandom or what fans do or did. I have already known kpop fans to be quite bad so never got involved with it, including avoiding the cesspools of Twitter and the like.

I was the one man that would literally show up up to tell Yoongi he was cute while also wearing whatever the hell i thought was cool like my SHINee hoodie, not once thinking if wearing different fandom stuff was ok🤣 . Only bought the thing because it looked nice and I was a little cold that day 🤣. So while fans were squabbling over each other or fighting etc I'm just enjoying the actual idols and occasionally meeting them. My favorite interaction will always be Taemin.