Thats something I have been wondering about for quite some time already.
My parents are together just out of fear of being alone and because thats what they are used to for the past 25 years or so. They dont have many similarities, they dont really value the same stuff, their world view is completely different most of the time and I can really see that they dont understand each other even after 25 years. And as harsh as it sounds, they dont actually love each other, not anymore at least.
2 of my best friends have the same issue with their boyfriends basically, just in a more toned down way. The amount of times they wanted to break up and then didnt...I dont even count anymore. Are they together with people they can see a future with? According to their own words, absolutely not. Why are they still together? I dont know. I assume because they dont want to be alone.
The more I observe people, the more I have the feeling that most people actually arent able to live with themselves.
I definitely have people questioning if everything is right with me, why I am always solo, why I dont settle down with anyone...
All those whys.
I have no problem with myself. I have no problem with being with myself. I was born with just myself and I will die alone. Thats how I see it. And no one else is responsible for my happiness than me first and foremost.
If I would take someone into my life, that would require someone who I genuinely want to share my life with. That person has to enrich my life in some way, otherwise I think I would be better off on my own or nah? It does not need to be perfect, I just need it to be a fitting person. I didnt find someone like that yet and I guess thats okay. If I never find someone like that, I think that would be okay too.
I have a very similar mindset with friends and just generally people in my life. If we dont fit together and a relationship goes nowhere, then I don't have a problem to go on on my own.
Does someone also feel like that?