How do you react to a person that refuses to eat till you call?

    If you are angry at any fault of theirs it's due to another person you care about poisoning your head or a "misunderstanding".


    This person treats me like utter trash and pretends to care about me by restricting my opportunities. As soon as I get off work they bombard my phone like I'm their property. They just want to keep me close as a punching bag for their problems.


    I dont even want to fake a cordial relationship and my way of showing that is swearing and throwing a fit hoping to intimidate but I'm unable to be happy after that. It ruins my day outside work. If I ignore their calls they trouble everyone surrounding them as a way to blackmail me.


    I wonder if there's a more diplomatic way of handling such people as I cannot remove them from my life. Society will treat me like an outcast if I do. This is a nightmare.

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    Quote from Serendipity2000

    I wonder if there's a more diplomatic way of handling such people as I cannot remove them from my life. Society will treat me like an outcast if I do

    why do you care about how society will treat you ?


    just do what makes you happy, if this person is trouble in your life jut get rid of them

    even if society treats you like an outcast, you don't live for what people will think of you

    you live for yourself

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    Quote from alexS

    Unless that person is your child, or a child that you are a guardian of, you are not obliged to take care of them.


    As in, fuck 'em and let em starve. And if anyone around you talks shit to you about it tell them to go make a meal and shut the fuck up. I would also employ a few punch sandwiches just to get my point across.

    Ah.... not a kid if they were it would honestly be more understandable. They are a lot older than me so I'm good ig....


    Aish that would make me a villain in a lot of peoples eyes...what's a punch sandwich?

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    Trust me they will never starve themselves


    It seems like they are using all sorta of emotional manipulation technique under the sun to get to you. It sounds so exhausting, Im sorry for you.


    Are they family? It srsly sounds like a toxic situation

    Its very exhausting. I'm tired from work, I want to invest and thought of going abroad but they've hidden my identity proof and people think its endearing or out of love.


    I'm tired from this once I get off work. Yep it's family....I've broken down so many times in front of them but they still want to keep pretending like we have a good relationship and acting innocent. It makes me sick how far they'll go to make me suffer and pretend like it was nothing. Even if I narrate it to them it's no use. They'll twist it to make it seem insignificant.

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    Quote from Serendipity2000

    Ah.... not a kid if they were it would honestly be more understandable. They are a lot older than me so I'm good ig....


    Aish that would make me a villain in a lot of peoples eyes...what's a punch sandwich?

    you form a punch with your fist and feed them a few times...As in beat the living shit out of them.

    Bullies will never let you alone unless you fight back. I should know since I was bullied a lot.

    In all seriousness if that makes you a villain in their eyes you have to consider what you are providing for them and what they are providing you.


    If you can sever that relationship then do it anyway. this (to me) sounds like a family pressure situation and this is (HELLA) toxic


    When you sever ties (with that adult child), just roll with it saying "yea, I just did that. So?"


    I chinese, there's a phrase: "拿你没办法”. Its where they can't do anything about it. They yell at you to take care of them all you gotta do is say "gotcha but no." that sorta thing.

    Quote from Serendipity2000

    Its very exhausting. I'm tired from work, I want to invest and thought of going abroad but they've hidden my identity proof and people think its endearing or out of love.


    I'm tired from this once I get off work. Yep it's family....I've broken down so many times in front of them but they still want to keep pretending like we have a good relationship and acting innocent. It makes me sick how far they'll go to make me suffer and pretend like it was nothing. Even if I narrate it to them it's no use. They'll twist it to make it seem insignificant.

    sth similar also in my culture

    People see being over protective of your childre and restricting them as love

    Exhausting tbh

    that is straight-up emotional manipulation and what you need to do, is not give in. there's no way they're actually going to starve themselves and they're quite literally bluffing because they know you care enough to not let things to ever get to that extent.


    that's a terrible situation to be in, and i feel so sorry for you to have to deal with that. i don't know why that person is acting to rude and immaturely.


    if its a close family member like a parent or sibling that is just upset you don't contact them as much you might wanna talk to them and explain why you're not talking to them as much, but if their toxic CUT THEM OUT. they are not worth your time and love if they only put you down and make you feel bad about yourself, or the very least continue to ignore them.

    well my son always refuses to eat until I call them...and even then he might still refuse to eat!!! children!!!!


    ok jokes aside unwanted and unwarranted calls are harassment and grounds for a restraining order...that person then bothering your family/friends is also then harassing them as well


    sit down and talk about it with them stating that they are overstepping their boundaries by constantly doing this to you...I've always said communication is key

    some of my family members put me into similar situations... If there is something they are really good at, it's manipulation.... So I can understand....but honestly? Fuck them... I don't wanna deal with this anymore, every person is responsible for themselves when they're an adult

    And if people talk shit about you, they may as well as choke, they know nothing

    I know it's super hard and I still struggle a lot but enough is enough, your mental and physical well being comes first

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