Has anyone here lost a loved one by cancer?

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its usually a slow process not a here one day gone the next

my grandpa

and dad ig

Quite alot of family has had cancer through the generations sadly.

Not that died from cancer but my grandmother had breast cancer and had to have a double mastectomy. I was only 13 at the time but it was hard watching her go through the chemo.

I lost my mother in 2010 to a brain tumour but it was benign. Cancer is an insidious thing and hard to watch loved ones suffer physically and mentally.

My father has but unfortunately, I never knew them

My uncle and grandfather, they were both heavy smokers and got lung cancer.

I recently lost my father to a sudden stroke though and the words "one day here, gone the next" never hit me as hard as when that happened...

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Yeah. My mother was diagnosed with stage 4 breast, stomach and bowel cancer in 2013, they gave her less than 3 months, she has surgeries and ended up have colosapy bags, I use to change them for her. The thing is she lasted about 16 months, she died in 2014 she was 43. She was put in a hospice but even when she was there she seemed like she was getting better. Then I remember the last convo she had with me on the phone, she was thankful to me for the things I'd done (we had a very difficult relationship, I was the person holding my siblings life together I was practically their mother for alot of the time growing up, my mother wasn't the best due to mental illness and before that she was quite a selfish abusive person) which was nice but she felt really off something in her voice like she knew she was close.

Then within less 24 hours her body completely starting shutting down. She went from talking, walking, eating to not be able to eat, talk, move or even breath on her own, she was put on a ventilator, my family wnet to see the day after that phone call, then after we saw her, exactly an hour later she passed... Its was maddening really, like I had just talk to her on the phone and next day shes in vegetable like state but she can still see and hear you, it's hard to to think about and see honestly.

That sounds like a nightmare to me, I'm sorry for what you went through, emotionally and physically. Being a mum to your siblings must've been extremely hard. I hope things are turning out good now ❤️

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wow lol.

No i mean I wasn’t expecting it. The chemo was going well and I never expected to get a phone call

ah ok....

i always prepare for the worst but i dont what cancer your friend/relative had but my grandpa had pancreatic cancer - late stage as well so we all knew that there was no treatment

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Quite alot of family has had cancer through the generations sadly.

It is kinda genetic thing. Genetics affect it the most, so everyone who has cases in the family should be double careful and go to the doctor for examination often.

My father died from pancreatic cancer 10 years ago. It wasn't detected earlier and he died within the week. My sister died of AML 4 years ago. She completed her chemo but the cancer came back. All in all, she fought for a year and a half. I was to be her bone marrow donor but we didn't reach that point.

My bf has mom who has cancer. It is so hard for him. I feel so sorry and sad, but I cant help in any way. He doesnt even like to talk about it a lot.

She first had breast cancer, she had surgery and was better. Than she got bone cancer and it spread everywhere now, to the organs too. He needs to do everything for her and doctors cant help her in any way... They cant even stop her pain anymore...

May god bless u and by god's grace no

Cancer's a bitch

Fortunately, none so far in our fam. We had a close one but my aunt was cured before the cancer got worse

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its usually a slow process not a here one day gone the next

I mean, yeah, sometimes. Not always.

My Grandad got his diagnosis and was dead three days later... and yeah, he was old, and yeah, I always thought that it felt like at that point he said to himself kinda ‘I’ve had my time, I’m ok. I’m at peace with that.’, but yeah...

That said, I think OP meant more like it’s not necessarily always a case of diagnosis then boom, they’re gone, but more that horrific eternal realisation of knowing that one day someone is with you and the next, you’ve been forced to trying to adjust to life without them.

Hope you’re doing ok, OP, anyway. 💜

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