Would you ever date someone that your parents wouldn't approve of?
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I have before
My parents didn't like her at all, but my parents also told me it was my life, not theres.
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yep. My life my choice
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I wouldn't, but there are caveats...
Since my parents are good people with my happiness in mind, no, I'd never date anyone they did not approve of and I'd certainly never stay with anyone who didn't get along with them. They are very chill people so for someone to dislike them would mean the issue was that person IMO. Harmony in my life is important to me. That said, I have pretty high standards and they've never disapproved of anyone I've ever chosen. My current SO and them get along very well.
Caveat: I'm very lucky to have such wonderful parents though. I know people with not such great parents and understand why they'd date (and marry) someone who their parent didn't approve of. This isn't a one size fit all question so there won't be a one size fits all answer.
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Depends on the person's moral character because perception (from parents) is one thing while reality is another thing.
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date yes
marry nope
one thing about marriage (especially for chinese families and culture) is that you don't just marry the person you also marry their family
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if I loved them, then yes. But I would try to at least listen to my parents first.
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depends on the person
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if the person is good then yes
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i have before actually, a really nice, sweet girl. my parents didn't mind her as a person, but they constantly harassed me to find a nice boy instead.
This is funny because its working
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I'm in Middle Europe, literally the least place on earth where people care if your mom likes your boyfriend or not, unless you are of imigrant background than it might be different but almost nobody here seems to care what their mom or dad think of their partner, exept the so called "Schwiegermutterschreck" (= Mother-in-law terror / horrible mother in law) where especially some women think their mother in law might dislikes them, but most of the time this actually dosn't happens since people do not care too much about their mother in law or dad in law or are just getting with it like some parents even be like "as long as you're happy, we are not saying anything about it"
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Depends on why my parents don't approve.
Like, is there a legitimate reason they don't like the person due to the person's actions, a difference in morals and/or upbringing, etc.
Or, are my parents just being weird and can't convince me of their justification?
There are also levels of approval. Do my parents think I'm settling and can do better? So, they encourage me to do better? Or, did they straight up hate the person for some reason?
If my mom in particular straight hates a guy I am with, I don't see it working out. She's like my best friend, and I need her in my life. So, anyone who disrupts that has got to go.
However, if my mom doesn't hate the guy, but doesn't love him for some petty reason, then, yeah, I'd still date him.
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