unrealistically high expectation is better than getting into bad relationship
people are better off being alone than getting into relationship that is bad for them or bring them down. when they say "dont settle for less" it usually mean not getting with someone who treat you badly, emotionally or physically.
it does not mean anything tangible like money or education.
unrealistically high expectation is better than getting into bad relationship
people are better off being alone than getting into relationship that is bad for them or bring them down. when they say "dont settle for less" it usually mean not getting with someone who treat you badly, emotionally or physically.
it does not mean anything tangible like money or education.
oh but this does not stop at basic needs like emotional or physical connection
the demand for everything seems to be way higher for everyone
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Idk i see relationship as something serious, i have zero interest in go dating anyone no matter how attractive they are. Unless i feel 100% positive about someone, i just don't care.
However, i do think media have a subtle impact on how we romanticize things and set our standards. I can't tell exactly how cause I'm lazy to think about it and short of time, so yeah.
unrealistically high expectation is better than getting into bad relationship
people are better off being alone than getting into relationship that is bad for them or bring them down. when they say "dont settle for less" it usually mean not getting with someone who treat you badly, emotionally or physically.
it does not mean anything tangible like money or education.
Exactly
expecting good behaviour is not what i meant by high expectation
oh but this does not stop at basic needs like emotional or physical connection
the demand for everything seems to be way higher for everyone
the intention is about not being mistreated emotionally and/or physically.
how people take the message is up to them but it doesn't change the message.
having high expectation that include everything else tangible is up to the individual. but does the message of not settling for less create people with these high expectation, or it just give them the approval to vocalize them?
the way i see it, it's better that these people with high expectation stay solo and complain about it, then for them to engage in relationship and complain about how it does not meet their high expectation. the first scenario it's only them, the second scenario they are wasting somebody else time.
In my case I grew up in a very abusive household with my parents showing me a very toxic relationship day in day out.
So yeah I did develop pretty high expectations. Its a mixture of me not wanting to live like that ever again because of my parents bad example and me being okay with the fact of being with myself. I can openly say that I am okay with living on my own if I dont find someone who reaches my standards because I honestly dont have a problem with myself. If Im alone all my life, thats okay too. Better than settling for less tbh. If I will end up with someone, I see that as a very big decision that can impact all my future life and because I dont see a relationship as a must but rather as an option, that option should better be real nice.
I mean vacation is an option too right? If I go on vacation I also choose something thats suitable for me and isnt some shabby place with a shabby hotel.
For people who see a rleationship as a must, maybe its different for them idk.
I think its really important to filter people into the "relationships are an option for me" and the "relationships are a must for me" categories. Because they will each have very different expectations.
If something is merely an option for you, then the only reason you will take it is if its so beautiful /tasty/interesting/nice or whatever that you cant resists it.
i wouldn't like it if anyone was to date me because they are fine with settling for less, I want it to be because that person wants to be with me the most
my expectations aren't that high, i just want someone to love me 😭
I think the problem may not be unrealistic expectations per se and getting higher and higher expectations. They are antiquated expectations. Maybe more likely less and less people meet the standard expectations. You can't settle for less than people from the past who passed this level of expectations to the next generation. Reality just changes while expectations may take a while to adapt to the new reality.
seems like every day people are setting their standards higher and higher, often not even caring about bringing themselves up to that high standard
and it seems to be becoming more acceptable to encourage people to "not settle for less" as if relationships are business deals subsequently leading to a lot of people whining about their poor luck while having nothing good to show for themselves
why is this happening
like many in this thread have said, i think it's a reaction to modern day restlessness and dissatisfaction caused by pressure from family and peers, and even through the impossible standards that media can portray.
being with someone who can provide is fine but there's more to life than the superficial. i do think that stress from not having enough at all can really send a relationship into a downward spiral. being hungry and always worrying about bills would be a huge burden and cause tension as well.
the part about not settling for less i think is a response to how women and men do settle all the time, for someone who doesn't contribute to their spouse's happiness and future together. it's almost necessary for people to consider marriage as a business contract, but tbf less people procreating is probably better for the environment.
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