My Strange Addiction !!!! Immediate help needed

Inviting akp users to help cure an extreme addiction to......... astrology.

SO a quick backstory, I started getting into astrology in like high school but it turned into an extreme obsession during covid lockdown. Now its even affecting the way I view and treat people.

Earlier this yeah I had a crush on this handsome "Virgo" man and everything was going well until I figured out he was actually a Sagittarius all along!!!!! When I figured out this bad news I was at work, I started feeling light headed and sick to my stomach so I took my hour break to process the news that was given to me. That evening i went home and cried my heart out and then the next day I ghosted him irl and on social media.

After that crazy incident. it became a habit for me to ask for the zodiac sign of a person who i just met to avoid having that whole fiasco again. But the thing is, I do not want to live like this. I really liked that guy but according to astrology we are not compatible. and I always find astrology to be 100% accurate but if its not scientifically proven then why is it so correct.

How can I get over this unhealthy obsession when its ruining my life? Getting into astrology has given me more knowledge about myself and people I care about that I have never realized before but its not worth it to ruin my relationships with people I care about. How can I get over my obsession with Zodiac Signs when its always in the back of my mind.

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Shit op, I never knew astrology could fuck up something like that.

My advice is to not take astrology that seriously. It's easy to get carried away with something like this, but know that zodiac signs and horoscopes and all that jazz are just predictions, and predictions can be wrong. It's great that zodiac signs can give a lot of insight into yourselves but there's stuff which may be inaccurate from astrology. For example I'm a Peices and (quoting a website here) they are seen as "more complicated" than their peers. I'm not complicated. And instead of asking for someones zodiac sign, how about their interests instead? Or favorite food?

I agree Peices are more complicated based off of my experiences with my brother and best friend. I feel like when it comes to yourself its hard for you to realize the trait but others can see it easily. And thanks for the help!!! I can try that.

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This depends on several things, and I'll need to ask questions to narrow them down.

1. Do you believe that the gravitational pull of the position of the stars when you are born affects your growth, development, and personality?

2. Do you believe that that social pressures of when you are born and the people you are around shape your growth, development, and personality?

3. Which of those beliefs is stronger?

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I believe that the way someone grew up can affect their personality and stuff but most of the times when I read astrology and my family members it all just makes sense so honestly idk.

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Berry, hit enter once every 3 sentences, I can't read that whole wall of text.

Also what is your sign, we can find a connection if you really like him

Okay sorry! I just fixed it. My main sign is Capricorn. Then I have a scorpio moon sign and leo rising sign

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that's pretty biased evidence.How can you even measure how "complicated" a person is.

Don't base your life choices around what someone's sign is, seriously it sounds like you limiting yourself.

Honestly, it sounds like astrology did nothing for you and in fact, made you doubt your relationships with the people you care about. There is so much we don't know about space and about how our universe works, why limit yourself to "signs" and predetermined density? There is much more to people than what the sky looked like when they were born.

I realized both of the pisces I know have a habit of going the long way to give a simple answer so I lump that in with complicated and I guess you are right, and its limiting me but I just dont know how to let go because its always in the back of my mind. At this point it is part of my subconscious and i dont have enough money for a therapist. Thank you for the help.

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So it sound like you believe most that how a person is raised, and who they are raised around is more important than when they were born. Which means it doesn't matter if this man is a Sagittarius or a Virgo. It matters who he is.

Trends do exist for a reason, and I think astrology picks up on those trends, but someone's star sign is not why they are like they are. Correlation does not imply causation.

Thats true Which one do you believe? number 1 or 2

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So you two are totally opposite. You're shy, with a nasty undertone(that leo scorpio vibe).

But won't that mean you can actually learn from each other?

Opposites always attract, it's the law of nature.

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I guess youre right but thats different then the reason I started liking him which was because I thought he was a Virgo which is compatible with me. A Sagittarius is usually the type of people who I dont like

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I don't think this is actually uncommon. We all have the idea (which is comforting) of some moral thing guiding our beliefs and actions. We need to start weaning ourselves away from stereotypes. Sometimes the world can bend to fit your shape.

In Hinduism, Astrology is used simply to predict your life path. So it's considered to come true, but with certain actions of a person/the world, that path can change.

Okay now I'm going to stop talking in riddles. This addiction is more than Astrology but what it provides to you. It's how you attach yourself to things (like this crush) as an added caveat. When you unhealthily depend on anything it's an addiction, it's a mental crutch you are using. Think of it as it's own separate "religion", how people can really get into being religious.

The best thing to do is to shift your focus. Remove Tiktok, remove yourself from astrology books + websites. Removing yourself from staying up-to date will help you start to get out of that "Astrology First" mindset.

Think of Correlation vs Causation. Simply getting up early won't make you a millionare, plenty wake up later but what they do with their time is what matters. Same idea here.

StrawberryChaeng What other hobbies do you have? I am not including kpop here. It's important to focus on being practical, and it's going to take some time but you've realized it's a problem and that's the first step.

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Okay, thank you so much, I am going to delete everything that has to do with astrology today especially snapchat which is what made me addicted in the first place. Do you think going to church more will help me shift my focus?

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try using a website like this, I know this site has professionals who can help, sometimes went there are other issues going on in life, we tend to lean heavily on things like astrology to cope. Don't limit yourself to astrology what astrology says. I know it's so much easier to say than to do, but try getting some help I think it will really help you.

Ultraviolet, thank you so much for the advice and the link I will make sure to check it out soon.