Are you cute or cool?

Which describes you better?

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Im angry

Why so angry?

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Cute

Straight Facts!

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I'M PIKACHU. PIKACHU IS A CUTE TYPE POKEMON.

Though I could rename myself Raichu Senpai if I want to be cool LOL

Lol Pika senpai evolving

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I get called cute all the time and it drives me nuts.

Well...it's not seriously annoying but it is annoying to me.

I know I'm cute but I'm kind of like a closet tsundere or smth IDK XD

lol I relate. People perceive me as cute too lfdksj

Question, are you short by chance?

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wait till I reach my GIGAMAX FORM

YES GET BIIIIIIIG!!!!! GODZILLA THIS BITCH

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lol...nope, I'm actually not short (even though both of my best friends are taller than me lol)

I was always pretty tall for my age growing up and by the time I was in high school, I was pretty average height, maybe a little taller.

I have cute features and a "cute demeanor" like I'm sort of childish in a way and like to smile a LOT. So, in a way, I know I'm generally "cute" but when I'm called that it feels idk...I just don't enjoy it lol

Okay gotcha. I feel like short people like myself get called cute a lot just because we're well... small, but yeah if you have cute features and habits, that would do it too lol.

I guess for me it's like... yeah I might be cute but shut up lol maybe it makes me feel a bit embarrassed to be called cute haha.

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People say I'm cute

You are a cutie

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Oh, yeah, I see what you mean.

Yeah, that's exactly how I feel...maybe it's a bit deeper than that for me but this is the best way I'd be able to describe it rn so I agree with this for me too, I think.

Yeah I think growing up like... I didn't figure myself out yet so maybe being called cute felt weird to me because I didn't like being boxed in that image... It was a weird time of insecurities and other stuff. I don't mind it as much now. I'm more sure of myself, but it's still kind of embarrassing haha.

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Yeah, I see what you mean. I'm basically still a fetus (lol). I'm 16 and I honestly don't know myself that well. Maybe when I get older I won't mind it as much then but I don't really like the word "cute."

If it's used to describe me? Then no thank you. I mean, I don't mind it on others if they don't mind either.

It also might play a part that around teachers growing up, they would talk to me like I didn't have any friends, that I was always sweet, really quiet, and shy (which, ngl, they weren't wrong) but I never wanted to hear someone say "ah, she's so quiet!" or she's so shy or so cute. My peers (usually upperclassmen but still closer to my age than teachers) would sometimes do that too until a certain point and that's when I get ESPECIALLY annoyed because they talk to me like a little kid and not as an equal while they talk to others in a tone they normally would. Atp, I'm just like (but never say) "Don't talk to me if you're going to talk to me like I'm a shy child."

Is it bad that I know that's what I'm like but if anyone tells me that, it almost feels like an insult? I really don't know what it is.

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Ah no I get what you mean because I'm introverted and grew up as a shy/quiet kid. It was more worse back then. I think there's like... you can acknowledge that someone is shy or quiet but like... it shouldn't be seen as a bad thing or something to like idk baby you over... it's kind of about tone and it can get annoying to hear "you're so cute/shy/quiet" over and over. I think growing up for me there was a certain pressure to be more extroverted I guess and I felt like I couldn't relate, but I don't think being introverted should be seen as something that needs be changed. I know hearing "you're so quiet" said to myself occasionally was annoying because I never knew how to respond to that. Like, yes I'm quiet, what's your point?

And I also think it can be annoying when shy/quiet/cute is seen as like... your one big trait because well... there's more to you than that, and in sense you might want those other parts acknowledged rather than that one part. Like having that one part of yourself being pointed out a lot makes you more conscious of it, and perhaps you wouldn't want to think about it that much.

idk that's how I perceived being on the receiving end of those kinds of comments back then. Your experiences while similar are still different so how you feel could be for different reasons as well. That's just my perspective on it.

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I'm glad you understand this because anyone else I would tell would give me a look like "that's rude, people are giving you compliments and you don't think of it like it." And I know exactly what you mean. This is me in school. Outside of my close friendships, I was a pretty quiet kid. Now, I will say that this has improved at least since my freshmen year. But I typically hate having to get out of my comfort zone to interact with people. But I don't want to be told that, it gets annoying especially when it's overused or you address me as being that.

The most appalling thing that I felt I've been asked is "do you have friends?" Like I've had very few but still a lot to me, ask if I have friends. And no, you need to stop making assumptions about me. I do have good friends but because I'm quiet or because I'm sitting by people every single day does NOT mean I don't have any friends.

Exactly, that's how I feel, I don't know how you understand my situation so well. I mean, I kind of do because you basically explained it to me but I literally can't talk about this to a lot of people irl especially because they're different and they'll judge me for it.

But honestly, I've gotten to the point where I'm trying hard to not necessarily change but I want to get to the point where I can improve in being less socially awkward and shy. Like I want to talk more and express myself more but sometimes getting out of my comfort zone is too much for me for some reason. I have improved but I can't tell people that without them becoming concerned and saying something like "why are you trying to change yourself, you're perfect just the way you are." And I get that, I really do and I love myself to a non-vanity extent. But just because I want to become better at socializing which is good for me, doesn't mean I'm completely secure about who I am. Maybe some areas but I don't hate myself for anything.

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Ugh yeah the "Do you have friends" question is really rude. Like, quiet and introverted people can make friends just fine, but they might do it in different ways.

Yeah... I guess like we have similar personality types and experiences we can relate to. I think I grew up shy/quiet since I became more conscious of what people thought, so that made me more reserved.I don't think you necessarily have to change yourself to be like more outgoing or less introverted. But I think what you can do build your confidence, so when you need to talk to people or assert yourself, it's easy to do. I'd like to think that even though I'm still quiet and reserved, I have gained more confidence over the years, and can speak up when I need to.

Also, you can still love yourself and well be you while having goals to work toward. Striving for self-improvement is healthy, and anyways you or no one can not expect people to stay the same... not completely anyways. Change over time happens to everyone, and I guess working for changes that can make you happier isn't a bad thing.