This is weird that this is just happening to me since I have worked at universities for 5-6 years, but the first university job I had was in the southern US, and they really did not gaf what you wanted to be called lmao. Now, I am in Cali. LA more precisely, and they will CUT you for messing up pronouns.
I had a Zoom meeting with some students today, and I have not really had to deal with any students. Mostly faculty, who are older, and pretty much fall within traditional gender labels. One of the students uses the They/Them pronoun, but they "appear" female. So, I slipped and called them and the other person "ladies", which is a fem label.
Was not until after the slip that I thought about it and saw the They/Them pronouns next to their name.
I apologized afterwards, but still feel bad. Then, as the two were leaving, I told them, I hope you "guys" have a great weekend. And I'm like...
I could not find a gender neutral term to close out what I was saying, so I just used "guys", which people use for both women and men. But still, I know some people are picky about that too. This is really gonna be a real struggle. I have to completely relearn how to speak now.