You think it’s easier to make friends online than in real life?

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    This could be me… I’m an introvert ( wouldn’t think that if you meet me irl) so I love my time alone. So if your living to far away, it can be a friendship killer for me too…. Wow


    Yeah the poll title and the Thread title are a little different. But you explained in the comments.

    I get what you meat. You already feel “ ok there is something” if you’re having an ongoing friendly conversation and that several times. Just like me I didn’t intended to make friends. Tbh I didn’t even thought I would come if nice enough for people to even want to be friends with me. Cause writing online makes you miss half of the things that can be delivered through conversations.

    Same, same. People also think I'm not introverted at first, because I'm easy to talk to, I talk a lot and am trying to make everyone feel comfortable and included. But it's exhausting to me hanging out all the time. Some people can't spend a lot of time home or alone and want to hang out all the time, but I just need to have some peace and quiet hah.


    Btw to me you seem really nice, so it's surprising you didn't think you would come of nice enough to people!

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    In the past, I probably would have said in person. I get along with people, socialize just fine, and am able to carry a conversation, but it's just too exhausting as an introvert. Another con is that a lot of folks in my age group just want to get high and drunk every chance they get. That's fine if they make responsible decisions, but I'm just not about that life. I feel a bit depersonalized and lost in such environments. It's not worth tagging along out of courtesy anymore. I'd rather do my own thing.


    It's hard to find friends who won't get bored of doing simple activities like:

    • Getting ramen, grabbing non-alcoholic drinks, coming back to one of our houses, and watching K-pop music videos
    • Going bowling and singing karaoke
    • Listening to music and talking about life

    Ultimately, it's easier for me to make friends online now.

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    It's easier to make casual friends online, but a close, true friendship is easier to develop irl. It's too easy to have superficial relationships and hide who you really are online.

    Well said. I second this. I prefer doing actual activities to bond with people. When you find the right friend for that, it's perfect. Even as an introvert, I won't ever be exhausted when I'm with the right people.


    It's easier to talk to more people online, but it's rare for those interactions to develop into close bonds. It can happen, but it's just less frequent.

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    In the past, I probably would have said in person. I get along with people, socialize just fine, and am able to carry a conversation, but it's just too exhausting as an introvert. Another con is that a lot of folks in my age group just want to get high and drunk every chance they get. That's fine if they make responsible decisions, but I'm just not about that life. I feel a bit depersonalized and lost in such environments. It's not worth tagging along out of courtesy anymore. I'd rather do my own thing.


    It's hard to find friends who won't get bored of doing simple activities like:

    • Getting ramen, grabbing non-alcoholic drinks, coming back to one of our houses, and watching K-pop music videos
    • Going bowling and singing karaoke
    • Listening to music and talking about life

    Ultimately, it's easier for me to make friends online now.

    I felt this so hard. I don't like being around people my age. They don't really do things that I don't want to do. Or they want to do things that break the law and could get us in trouble. I mean I just want to walk around the mall or go to a bookstore. Something simple and fun, it doesn't have be that extreme or hard-core, just some people hanging and chilling. Or not even go out, stay home and chill. And be ok with just being quiet. It makes me tired honestly😶

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    I felt this so hard. I don't like being around people my age. They don't really do things that I don't want to do. Or they want to do things that break the law and could get us in trouble. I mean I just want to walk around the mall or go to a bookstore. Something simple and fun, it doesn't have be that extreme or hard-core, just some people hanging and chilling. Or not even go out, stay home and chill. And be ok with just being quiet. It makes me tired honestly😶

    :-( I was flabbergasted by their audacity to do risky things that could get us in trouble. It was just too exhausting trying to calm them down or get some sense into them. I tried to limit my time with them, but there were situations where I couldn't avoid. I've had a few close calls of getting in trouble thanks to them before and it was no fun imagining my future poofing before my eyes.


    There's no shame in doing what you want to do as long as you're not putting anyone at risk. That might mean you'll have fewer friends, but the number doesn't matter when your happiness comes first. Seek what fulfills.

    It not easier to make friends online as they don’t stay around long. I’ve had some then they’ve disappeared. Then again, it’s not any easier to make them irl either especially as you get older and with COVID restrictions making social interaction difficult. It’s not something I really care about. It’s not that important to me. I’m self sufficient.

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    :-( I was flabbergasted by their audacity to do risky things that could get us in trouble. It was just too exhausting trying to calm them down or get some sense into them. I tried to limit my time with them, but there were situations where I couldn't avoid. I've had a few close calls of getting in trouble thanks to them before and it was no fun imagining my future poofing before my eyes.


    There's no shame in doing what you want to do as long as you're not putting anyone at risk. That might mean you'll have fewer friends, but the number doesn't matter when your happiness comes first. Seek what fulfills.

    It is exhausting. I just walk away. And tell myself it's not worth my time or energy. Exactly, it's amazing how much they don't think. Like you risk your future if you want, but i dont want to.


    I've had to come to terms with that. It's hard. I'd rather have friends that thinks before they act. And are ok with doing chill things. And just taking a minute to think.

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    Same, same. People also think I'm not introverted at first, because I'm easy to talk to, I talk a lot and am trying to make everyone feel comfortable and included. But it's exhausting to me hanging out all the time. Some people can't spend a lot of time home or alone and want to hang out all the time, but I just need to have some peace and quiet hah.


    Btw to me you seem really nice, so it's surprising you didn't think you would come of nice enough to people!

    As if you’re reading my mind :pepe-joy:


    I seriously don’t know how some people can always hang out with others without feeling exhausted… like ALL the time… I feel exhausted after 2 days in a row. Fun fact, my BFF is an extroverts. We make such a great couple lmfao.

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    Idk… most of the time I’m just having discussions with people, at least here in AKP … and well I’m very honest and my opinions aren’t always met with applause ^^

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    In the past, I probably would have said in person. I get along with people, socialize just fine, and am able to carry a conversation, but it's just too exhausting as an introvert. Another con is that a lot of folks in my age group just want to get high and drunk every chance they get. That's fine if they make responsible decisions, but I'm just not about that life. I feel a bit depersonalized and lost in such environments. It's not worth tagging along out of courtesy anymore. I'd rather do my own thing.


    It's hard to find friends who won't get bored of doing simple activities like:

    • Getting ramen, grabbing non-alcoholic drinks, coming back to one of our houses, and watching K-pop music videos
    • Going bowling and singing karaoke
    • Listening to music and talking about life

    Ultimately, it's easier for me to make friends online now.

    These are the things I find issues with too. I love to party here and than… but it’s always the same, the people around me wanna get drunk and high a d you feel so lost and ask yourself “ what am I doing here”…

    So after a while the people I got close too are people who don’t need all that to have fun.


    Just like you I’m just doing my own thing. I think this is the most important to be honest to yourself.


    A lot don’t understand how so many people enjoy the simple activities like the ones you mentioned.

    I recently moved into my first apartment and most of the time my friends and I hang out at our homes as well.


    Btw you reminded me to buy new ramen ^^

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