Why Kpop meant so much for a friend of mine[maybe sensitive]

He your friend but you dragging him bad?

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Just wanted to express my opinion on how Kpop has a positive effect on his life.

you gotta tell him time to wake up and get to work and stop fantasizing about kpop idols that half his age, his life changing I'm happy for him but you and him gotta figure this one out...who he in love with? you gotta name names we gotta get to the bottom of this! bless y'all though cause I know it's hard for kpop fans these days.

I don't know the circumstances of your friend but tell him to not stop trying. He might regret it later on his life.

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I have a friend of mine who is over 30 yrs old, never had a girlfriend in his life. He started to listen to Kpop a few years ago. Mainly because of the music, but also the sense of creating his own fairy tale that the girl groups he stanned where his dream girlfriends. It may sound creepy, but I think for him it's good to have a sense of feeling that somebody is there for him even though the girls are way younger than my friend. The matter of fact is he's been struggling finding a girlfriend for years and where we live, people are very judgemental and superficial. So that something like Kpop exist or the idol culture in general is a good thing. Can call it a therapy for many single and lonely men in my opinion.

To me, this is incredibly unhealthy, it's literally delusion. If you are his friend, I would advise you to help them to become more confident, to pursue things that will make them feel better about themselves and give them a sense of fulfillment. When your friend starts believing in himself and having interests in his life aside from finding a girlfriend, that's when the girls will take notice of him.

OP isn’t this your second incel post of the week 😭

Wanna slow down there?

He needs therapy, not kpop.

I think OP just called out a buncha people on AKP. Who're you ghost writing for?

With all due respect, he needs to get out and try to meet some real people. It's not a healthy mindset to fantasize about someone you've never even met let alone have a chance with. Perhaps he needs to talk to somebody about it and find a healthier outlet. K pop can be a dangerous thing in that regard, we get so involved in a group that we develop an imaginary love affair with them. It would be better in the long run if he were to overcome this.

Rephrase it: My friend is getting addicted to a fantasy and it's good for him.

Please, if you're a friend, help them out. Help them differentiate between whats real and whats fantasy. Doesn't mean he needs to radically stop consuming kpop but he needs to know he is in control of his life and better things are out there for him. Unhealthy behaviours like these only bring temporary pleasure that's it.

This seems to be a trend now, in all developed countries especially.

Everyone talks about Japan and Korea, where birthrates are at catastrophic levels, but it seems to be happening in the West as well. Folks arent dating, arent getting married, arent having kids. Young people quiet quitting dating, like workers quiet quit their jobs during and after the pandemic.

I do feel a lot of empathy for all the kids these days. I'm old and used up and already had my time in the sun so to speak, but i remember both the epic highs and the devastating lows of dating, falling in love, falling out of love. Everyone should experience them when they're young, that's what this old man thinks. Even if you end up single or divorced in your old age, at least you know that you gave love everything you had and just ended up on the short end of the stick.