How do I make sustainable relationships?

I think friends moving on and having unsustainable relationships is just a part of growing up tbh.

Having a sustainable relationship is a two person job, which means there is nothing that you by yourself can do to keep a relationship sustainable. The other person has to be willing to put in the work and effort as well. Of course, you can help that by being respectful and cherishing those friends that respect and cherish you, but at the end of the day, it needs to be a mutual want for the relationship. That's how you make effort to stay in touch.

Your friends and you will grow up, start careers, move, start relationships, have kids, and sometimes the priorities in a person's life changes. Can't help that, but even if you and your friends don't always speak, doesn't mean you aren't still friends, too.

As far as making friends when you're older. I made most of my friends in university. But they all live in my hometown, and I moved to a completely different city and state last year where I knew literally no one. I'm also reserved, so making friends has been difficult. But, I have had to learn to put myself out there. Not be afraid to find events and things I'm interested in and going to things by myself. I find that a lot of people approach me, and people are open when I approach them. Just gotta put yourself out there if you really wanna connect with people.

That's how I've made friends.

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I think friends moving on and having unsustainable relationships is just a part of growing up tbh.

Having a sustainable relationship is a two person job, which means there is nothing that you by yourself can do to keep a relationship sustainable. The other person has to be willing to put in the work and effort as well. Of course, you can help that by being respectful and cherishing those friends that respect and cherish you, but at the end of the day, it needs to be a mutual want for the relationship. That's how you make effort to stay in touch.

Your friends and you will grow up, start careers, move, start relationships, have kids, and sometimes the priorities in a person's life changes. Can't help that, but even if you and your friends don't always speak, doesn't mean you aren't still friends, too.

As far as making friends when you're older. I made most of my friends in university. But they all live in my hometown, and I moved to a completely different city and state last year where I knew literally no one. I'm also reserved, so making friends has been difficult. But, I have had to learn to put myself out there. Not be afraid to find events and things I'm interested in and going to things by myself. I find that a lot of people approach me, and people are open when I approach them. Just gotta put yourself out there if you really wanna connect with people.

That's how I've made friends.

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Everything you said is so true. Friendships are two way, but you can only control yourself and your actions, so some of it will be out of your control. That being said, be a good person and don't be afraid to put yourself out there.

Friendship isn't over when you part ways, it's simply waiting to be found again. There's nearly 8 billion more people in the world for you to make friends with. Collect them always, let them go when necessary and await the amazing reunion awaiting you in what ever version of Heaven that you believe in.

friendships like most relationships need effort and work to make them last

like do you constantly keep in touch with them either through physical means or phone or text or online?

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My two old best friends who I used to be a trio with in high school moved in together since they go to the same college. I was on vacation in Ethiopia for 3 months during that time and I couldnt find the right times to text them because I was always asleep when they would have morning. SO yea 3 months passed. I go to visit them once in a awhile but they have a whole new friend group now. I am just the outlier and I feel so distant. I also made one best friend this year but she was the super religious conservative type and ditched me after i smoked a little bit of weed for the first time . During my high school days I was definitely still reserved but I had my 2 best friends who I spent multiple years with so I was comfortable yk? Like I didnt need to make new friends or anything. Now that I am out in the real world I realized that I dont know how to build relationships with people anymore. Like I can make friends or whatever but idk how to take it to the next level like how I did with my old friends. SO all I have left are empty friendships who are just my friends for in the moment yk? I just miss having best friends

change happens my friend

what used to be friends that one could see every day or so at school or university or whatever is now something different...

you should give the book "how to make friends and influence people" by Dale Carnegie a read - if you don't want to buy it I'm pretty sure most public libraries will have a copy or two