The Desperate Want To Have Productive Conversations But…

Sometimes I really wish I can make threads that can stimulate a productive conversation regarding various topics and subjects. There have been multiple instances where I would type up a whole thread on notes, paste it onto AKP, then immediately delete it.

Though I am aware that there are many mature users on this website, but the fear of trolls and generally immature people infiltrating the thread and turning it into a war zone scares me. I’ve seen users, not known to be trolls— just people with genuine questions, topics, and threads get shredded to pieces. Personally, whenever I get into arguments, even for the smallest of things, I start feeling so anxious and scared that someone might attack my character. Which wasn’t one of my fears when I joined AKP back in 2019. I don’t know when it developed, but I guess the constant bullying that use to occur before the revamp played into it.

Though, I still wish I could go back to the pre-revamp mindset and create threads that could initiate worthwhile discussions— but sometimes lack of maturity I witness here and there prevents me. It almost seems to me, as the time passes, people are becoming more impatient and resentful of others. It genuinely scares me.

I don’t know if anyone else can relate, but this was something I really wanted to get off my chest.

Quote from Lulu_Key

One thing I would recommend is to comment on mature users threads often so they would notice your threads more too.

If some of the initial replies are from mature users the thread will go on a better direction.

Hmmm, I see. Has it worked that way for you?

Quote from icyruios

If the thread isn't shady or phrased in a shady way I don't think it will really spark any backlash

Or be like me post too many nonsense shit so that people will be like "oh it's icy posting nonsense about their faves again lame"

Yeah you are right about the first part, but I’m still so paranoid. 😭

No, I think people also generally remember me as that “one lonely carat that only posts about seventeen with no engagement 💀”

Quote from Jichu

Don't worry I'm still here

OMG LONG TIME NO SEE!

Thank you bestie.

Quote from Lulu_Key

Another thing is if you want to have a serious convu about a serious topic, you need to moderate your own thread. You need to direct the discussion and make sure it stays on the rail as the OP.

You cant make those kinda of threads and just walk out for 2 hours. You will come back to a mess.

Hmm, I understand that ghosting is a problem sometimes— but you do not gotta worry about me with that. Regarding moderate, like be confrontational if someone is being disrespectful to others? Report them?

Quote from icyruios

Dont worry because I'm the "one lonely MyDay that posts about Day6 with no engagement"

Now I'm in track to be the "one lonely Ari that posts about DKZ with no engagement"

We can form a flop club

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Let’s go create the “flop users guild”

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I guess I just don't understand why you'd be so deathly afraid? I mean it must feel bad to be made fun of, but do trolls really hurt you that deeply? Most users will actually make the effort to answer whatever thread you post, I'm sure.

Idk, like I just feel so paranoid that things can escalate leaving everything in a mess. Maybe it’s just a me problem I guess.

It’s not like I’m known as a controversial user, nor am I known to troll, but the feeling something will go wrong and will affect my future in 10 years, where I’m jobless and homeless.

Quote from Turnberry00

You just put together back to back coherent sentences which is more than 95% on this board. Thank you for your

courage.

NOTE: I actually couldn't even get through one as noted by the edit.

Please, because I was considering using Times New Roman font and 12 font size, that too MLA style.

Quote from Lulu_Key

well if there is sth offensive reporting yes

being confrontational work out the opposite, people will double down on that behavior

take a curious approach

ask them to expand on that opinion, sometimes people realize they went the wrong way about it when they elaborate

Give them a scenario you think it will show the opposite of it, and ask their opinion on it

Also consider language barriers, sometimes what the person means it lost.

For example a while ago @dummi thought we all would poison people over left over pizza bc of a misunderstanding over one word meaning.

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Thank you for the advice, I will definitely keep this in mind.

Also, the last para— omg what? Wow, that’s one big, funny misunderstanding.

Quote from dryheat

Just post it and tag someone you think might be interested if you notice it's flopping

Skip over the trolls that come in or clown them...That's what I do

I think I should start compiling my “mature friends taglist” or something for my potential future threads.

Quote from Jichu

I'll back you up bestie if someone comes after you

Tysm for the reassurance that I have my personal keyboard warrior ready for me.

Quote from dryheat

Cacti, yes, you are on the list already.

Quote from dummi

Lmaoo! Nah I get being anxious, but it shouldn't be that serious. We're all here to have fun, right? How about paying me a small akorn fee and I'll protect you from trollies

You are right, it shouldn’t be that serious. Thank you, you all are making me feel a bit more reassured and less anxious about everything. Thank you so much for that.