Benevolent to enemy equals to being cruel to yourself
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so keep your enemies close and your friends closer?
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so keep your enemies close and your friends closer?
its about how enemy is defined.
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You're asking whether we personally believe that showing mercy is weak?
For me, no, but it depends on the person whether or not this is "cruel". I value overall peace and harmony and it makes me happy when everyone is essentially happy too. While I know that utopia is not possible, if I need to choose between taking the high road for the sake of peace or exacting vengeance for just my own sake, I'll choose peace everyday. Now if other people I care about are involved and need me to exact vengeance to be at peace, I choose the greater good of my loved ones. So sorry enemy, you're toast then.
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A person can be my enemy, but that's self-defeating energy.
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You're asking whether we personally believe that showing mercy is weak?
For me, no, but it depends on the person whether or not this is "cruel". I value overall peace and harmony and it makes me happy when everyone is essentially happy too. While I know that utopia is not possible, if I need to choose between taking the high road for the sake of peace or exacting vengeance for just my own sake, I'll choose peace everyday. Now if other people I care about are involved and need me to exact vengeance to be at peace, I choose the greater good of my loved ones. So sorry enemy, you're toast then.
I get the phrase in thread title is one of the oldest zero sum game concept, from a Chinese book of prophets written right before Jesus was born.
Give enemy an inch and you lose one.
Who are enemies and friends?
What if your loved ones turn out to be enemy some day?
For me the phrase applies to all walks of life..business competition, people , diplomatic relations, cats and dogs...
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to me it depends on which capacity that person is my enemy
For example if it's a colleague or job related I wanna play it out strategically
But if it's someone I don't have to meet them for the rest of my life, no mercy. I'll go all out so they sit down and can't come after me.
So yes, if it's an option no benevolence, just finish them off.
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I get the phrase in thread title is one of the oldest zero sum game concept, from a Chinese book of prophets written right before Jesus was born.
Give enemy an inch and you lose one.
Who are enemies and friends?
What if your loved ones turn out to be enemy some day?
For me the phrase applies to all walks of life..business competition, people , diplomatic relations, cats and dogs...
My answer is the same for all walks of life. I default to putting the happiness of a group that I care about over my own. Don't think it's selfless of me - I will try to manipulate the situation to make sure the result is either advantageous for me or at least as minimally as possible unfair to me, but having everyone be at what I believe to be peace (aka the best possible compromise) honestly makes me happy. The number of times I think I've found a compromise only to have it blow up in my face....
Well as Jasque-O-Part2 asked whether I was a good or bad apple - this is why there is always room for improvement.
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You're asking whether we personally believe that showing mercy is weak?
For me, no, but it depends on the person whether or not this is "cruel". I value overall peace and harmony and it makes me happy when everyone is essentially happy too. While I know that utopia is not possible, if I need to choose between taking the high road for the sake of peace or exacting vengeance for just my own sake, I'll choose peace everyday. Now if other people I care about are involved and need me to exact vengeance to be at peace, I choose the greater good of my loved ones. So sorry enemy, you're toast then.
Same, except for the fact that I would take 'legal' avenues if I have to for both myself and loved ones. It's also more freeing to forget someone because you're not mainly doing it for them but for yourself. It's much more peaceful not to continue harboring any kind of ill-will so if I catch myself in that line of thinking, I have to stop and move on to more productive things.
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Same, except for the fact that I would take 'legal' avenues if I have to for both myself and loved ones. It's also more freeing to forget someone because you're not mainly doing it for them but for yourself. It's much more peaceful not to continue harboring any kind of ill-will so if I catch myself in that line of thinking, I have to stop and move on to more productive things.
It's the principle. We're putting ourselves and our well beings first. Holding onto the negativity will slowly poison anyone IMO. It's no way to live.
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