do you believe in bodyshaming

fat people usually know they're fat so I don't see the point, but motivating them to eat healthier is okay I guess

It depends.

My brother in law constantly complains about his various health issues. His knee joints are wrecked, he struggles to get up more than two flights of stairs, he has to sit down while playing with his kids and he was even hospitalised with a suspected heart attack two years ago. He's 32.

Do I tell him he needs to lose the weight when he brings these problems up or worries about being high risk for covid complications?

Of course I do. I won't go 'health at every size <3' while a family member eats themselves into an early grave.

i mean....people have mirrors...why would i go out of my way to point out fat

No, as it would be wrong to be stating the obvious and besides I don't like to hurt people's feelings.

Probably offer to exercise with them? dunno honestly -- I'm usually the fat one an my family doesn't hold back slinging insults but as I understand not everyone has my shite memory that can forget everything tbh.

Honestly? Only when asked for my opinion, and even then I avoid commenting on their weight and opt to offer advices related to dieting and exercising or flattering styling occasionally. I don't have anyone in my immediate family that's suffering from weight related issues but I have a sister in law and a cousin that do and usually they're the ones that initiate the talk, I feel comfortable talking about it with them because we're very close friends and I know for a fact that they know that I absolutely love them.

Otherwise I'd rather avoid the topic altogether

I don't know anyone who has health problems from insecurities or addiction, but my brother has some after gaining "sympathy weight." The similarity to our obese diabetic dad kept startling me into "you need to lose weight" every time I saw his side profile.... Which isn't helpful at all....

I don't care nor worry about other people's bodies, what they put in their body is between them and god. If someone is fat I mind my business and worry about myself. That should be everybody's mindset. If that person wants to lose weight good for them, but I am not going to shame them because I don't know their life story and experiences.

Well I experience body shaming from my parents.

A while ago my parents told me I was too "fat"(mind you my weight was the average weight for a 13 year old).

Recently one of my parent's friends pointed out I looked like I lose weight during my 14th birthday party, my parents took note of that and told me that I "slimmed down" when in reality I probably increased in weight.

It's kind of funny because when I was younger(5-6) my parents would comment on how skinny I was. Which is what my 5 year old brother is currently facing.

But I do think if your body is affecting your health badly then there should be immediate change, but if it isn't, then there is nothing to change.

Idk I just don't comment on people's bodies because that's just weird.

Why would I point out something they can already see? Plus if they were insecure about it, they would feel even worse by my comment.

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post literally says its about people whose lifestory and experiences you DO know

Too damn bad!

I guess it would depend on how close I am with the person, because even if I know their life experiences and story, I may not be very close to them. If there is a level of trust between us, I might offer advice with their best interest at heart. Usually, though, people are very self-aware with these sort of things, at least from what I have seen, especially because society as a whole tends to make people feel bad about having even a bit of fat on any part of their body, so people who are overweight usually know it and are either actively trying to lose it, don't care, or have other issues going on that makes it difficult for them lose the weight. I really think, though, it's a case y case basis. I wouldn't have the same reaction across the board.