Some people literally think it's totally fine when a barely legal girl releases nude pictures/adult content right after their birthday party (Danielle Bregoli for example).
People do countdowns for legal age for some actresses/singers (Millie Bobby Brown, Emma Watson, Olsen Twins, Natalie Portman, Britney Spears, etc).
This "18, it's fine" point of view sounds like a "loophole" for p*dos and people who want to prey on young girls imo. And I don't even care if it seems like a reach or not.
Some people literally think it's totally fine when a barely legal girl releases nude pictures/adult content right after their birthday party (Danielle Bregoli for example).
People do countdowns for legal age for some actresses/singers (Millie Bobby Brown, Emma Watson, Olsen Twins, Natalie Portman, Britney Spears, etc).
This "18, it's fine" point of view sounds like a "loophole" for p*dos and people who want to prey on young girls imo. And I don't even care if it seems like a reach or not.
The countdown thing seems so freaking creepy to me.
ON THIS FORUM?????
They want to be able to openly sexualize teenage girls. Some thing they are already doing mentally anyways.
On the other hand, there are people who believe in autonomy, and that people should be able to make their own decisions once they pass that legal threshold.
It's a very convoluted issue with varying degrees of opposing opinions. Many people are vocal about feeling preyed upon when older adults approached them and dealt with them when they still had limited life experience to fully understand the situation, which is why this is something people see as wrong morally even if it is legal. But for the minority who did not experience that feeling of regret and who actually enjoyed their partner, then they are stigmatized because of public perception.
So yeah...it's a difficult situation. If it were my child, I would warn them against dealing with someone older, but at the end of the day, what can I do once they pass that threshold.
Nancy is one of the worst cases I have ever seen of an idol being sexually objectified, and it makes me sick.
I hope she has a strong support system because the shit she has had to deal with. 
'Pedo's' and '18 year old's' in the same sentence...have we reached the apex of stupidity now?
Tho to OP. Yeah I agree, maybe if the guys/gals are 18, 19, 20, etc it's okay...but for real it gets hella creepy other wise. Seeing some straight up middle aged men lewding and posting about idols when the clock strikes midnight on their 18th bday like it's been in their calendar is fucking scary to me.
And worse is the guys that date or try to date people that age. Like the balance of power in that relationship is so skewed it's honestly borderline dangerous...
Its just dangerous
Spend 10 minutes on reddit relationship advice and the most fucked up relationships are the ones with big age gap
The victim of abuse is convinced by the older partner that they are the problem and its their fault things are wrong.
The countdown thing seems so freaking creepy to me.
ikr it's sick. Imagine waiting for a 17 year old to turn 18.... The fact that it's so common and normalized it disgusting
Lulu, I love you, but, I have dated men of all ages, I even dated older and younger than me. Maturity doesn't matter, those who were older should have been more mature and weren't, some who were younger were more mature then those who were older that i dated. I was beat by my OLDER ex husband for 6 years and i barely turned 21 when i got married. Being in your early 20's doesn't make you any more or any less mature than someone who is 18 or 19. At 18, at least in America you are considered an adult. Do I think at 18 you need to go date someone twice your age, of course not I would raise an eyebrow. But at that age, it is THEIR decision, they are legally an adult. if it was my kid, i would be there to support them and give them advice. But I cannot, legally do anything because they are considered an adult.
Under 18 is a concern, because at that point, i would have the right to stop something and the right to say something. But even at the age of 18 the only thing I could do is stop shit in my house. I can't stop them from doing what they want. Therefore, at 18 dating someone 4-5 years older than you, even at 19, there is no issue, and I don't see an issue. i would of course, educate my child, I would "warn them" based on my own experiences, but they are an adult and need to make their own decisions and their own choices. So, I am sorry I do not see an issue. With a gap like that. And once they hit 18, I can't say anything, it's always been the law at least in America. I can kick them out of my house, i can prevent them from bringing people over, but I cannot legally stop them from dating whom they want. I can understand both sides of the situation, but at the end of the day they are considered an adult and what they do is their decision.
I suddenly remember watching an episode of Danish dating show where this 36 year old stripper had to choose a date and he chose the 18 year old... (rewatching the episode, he had to choose between the 19 year old and 18 year old because the other women didn't want him.)
Some of my classmates back then saw that episode too and were being weirded out.
Lulu, I love you, but, I have dated men of all ages, I even dated older and younger than me. Maturity doesn't matter, those who were older should have been more mature and weren't, some who were younger were more mature then those who were older that i dated. I was beat by my OLDER ex husband for 6 years and i barely turned 21 when i got married. Being in your early 20's doesn't make you any more or any less mature than someone who is 18 or 19. At 18, at least in America you are considered an adult. Do I think at 18 you need to go date someone twice your age, of course not I would raise an eyebrow. But at that age, it is THEIR decision, they are legally an adult. if it was my kid, i would be there to support them and give them advice. But I cannot, legally do anything because they are considered an adult.
Under 18 is a concern, because at that point, i would have the right to stop something and the right to say something. But even at the age of 18 the only thing I could do is stop shit in my house. I can't stop them from doing what they want. Therefore, at 18 dating someone 4-5 years older than you, even at 19, there is no issue, and I don't see an issue. i would of course, educate my child, I would "warn them" based on my own experiences, but they are an adult and need to make their own decisions and their own choices. So, I am sorry I do not see an issue. With a gap like that. And once they hit 18, I can't say anything, it's always been the law at least in America. I can kick them out of my house, i can prevent them from bringing people over, but I cannot legally stop them from dating whom they want. I can understand both sides of the situation, but at the end of the day they are considered an adult and what they do is their decision.
Im not arguing at legality or would like to hold the younger person accountable
I think if someone older wants to pursue a relationship with younger person under age of lets say 25, they must proceed with caution and those who dont its bc they DO have predatory behaviors.
It is near impossible to have an equal power balance between someone who is set on their career and has financial independence with a college age kid
Im not arguing at legality or would like to hold the younger person accountable
I think if someone older wants to pursue a relationship with younger person under age of lets say 25, they must proceed with caution and those who dont its bc they DO have predatory behaviors.
It is near impossible to have an equal power balance between someone who is set on their career and has financial independence with a college age kid
oh yeah i certainly agree with that. There's kids ready to go with scholarships in hand, or applying to good colleges right out of highschool, there's some going to school at the same time as working. So really there's no balance everyone is at a different level, they just need to have boundaries and respect for each other and most of all communication.
I definitely agree with those points! Caution must be taken and a person who immediately shows signs of disrespect or any kind of predatory behavior is a red flag instantly and should be dealt with accordingly. the world can be a scary place. *nods*
its so creepy 
I'll hunt them down 
I'll hunt them down
I'll hunt them with you.
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