asking questions on a date

  • do you like or dislike having prepared questions on a date ( given that its not a person you already know well ) ?


    ive seen a lot of people approve of it to break the ice but a lot of people also say it sounds like an interview


    irl it might lead to more chemistry or might be too formal depending on the people and their answers but


    do you personally go for that or for a more "go with the flow " approach?

  • I go with the flow but to be honest it's hard when the other person is shy or doesn't ask questions back. It starts to feel awkward and like a job interview....

    if the other person doesnt show interest and treats it like a one way interview, i think its best to assume they are just not interested


    not saying there arent people who can be awkward like that, but in that case, it wasnt meant to work anyway


    some people are only comfortable with being friends first

  • Just go with the flow.


    The typical questions come up. Asking about jobs, family, what school they went to, how their week went.


    Stuff like that. It's pretty mundane and basic, but it's a good indicator of chemistry for me. Like, if I can enjoy having a basic white bread conversation with you and find it exciting, I must like you.

  • i don't really get why anyone would want to have pre-set things to ask a date like a script.... obviously you ask questions but it is 100% better to go with the flow of conversation and build off of the things the other person is talking about or things they ask you.


    the best way to tell if a person is worth dating is the vibes they give you, not the answer to some random questions they could lie in answer to anyway if they arent serious about you. js.

  • I guess it depends on yourself and the person whom you are dating...


    can one go with the flow or not...maybe some people are super shy or anxious or whatever and they need pre-planned talking points...


    and don't forget about all the non verbal communication which is as important as the verbal ones

  • Just go with the flow.


    The typical questions come up. Asking about jobs, family, what school they went to, how their week went.


    Stuff like that. It's pretty mundane and basic, but it's a good indicator of chemistry for me. Like, if I can enjoy having a basic white bread conversation with you and find it exciting, I must like you.


    i don't really get why anyone would want to have pre-set things to ask a date like a script.... obviously you ask questions but it is 100% better to go with the flow of conversation and build off of the things the other person is talking about or things they ask you.


    the best way to tell if a person is worth dating is the vibes they give you, not the answer to some random questions they could lie in answer to anyway if they arent serious about you. js.

    im not talking about generic questions


    more like instinctive ones


    for eg :


    are you more of a dallaaaa~ girl


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    or a majaaa~~~ girl

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  • I go with the flow. Plus I never go on a first date with a total stranger. I atleast need to know before hand if you’re employed, age, city you live in, if you have your own car…


    like i would hate to go on a blind date and find out the person has been unemployed for 5 years and can’t drive…. uhhh yeah we’re wasting our time here.

  • Just curious, you don't know these things before you go on date? Or even if you do you ask out of politeness? :eyes:

    It depends on how long we talked beforehand. Like my boyfriend now we only talked for about 2 or 3 days before he asked me out. I knew he was a welder when we first met. I knew that going in, but I didn't know why he chose that job, what company he worked for, or the specifics of what he did every day.


    I knew nothing about his family or the school he went to because those things were not important to me at the time. It wasn't until the first date that I found he had a sibling and other things about him.


    The basics of what I need to know going on a first date is if the person is employed, do they respect me and my time, and do they seem like an overall nice person. I can find out the rest by feeling them out on the first date. I spend that time getting to know them. I also make it a point to always have first dates during the day in public areas, so yeah, that's my system.

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