Working hard to meet a hot guy but end up getting a bunch of non-deserving guys crowding around them. I realized this when I was talking to a woman I matched with and she said all the hot guys she matched with were catfishes or fake (a common activity of incels). She also thought I was fake until I proved to be real. So I saved her self-esteem because she was thinking no actual attractive guys match with her, and she in turn felt happy.
She was also using a photo of her when she was younger and had less weight, so she was probably thinking if she couldn’t match with non-fake attractive men with her best photo how could she do with her more current ones.
I told her i listened to kpop music and she ghosted me. This is a good technique to filter out people who wouldn’t be good potential partners, as people who are intolerant of music tastes have other issues.