@ this user who don't get it
-
-
-
My daughter is an only child and she and I like it that way. She has never wanted a sibling and her friends think she is lucky she doesn’t have pesky brothers and sisters. Trust me, I have an older sister and siblings suck. She has never had to experience that sibling rivalry plus one child is so much cheaper and easier to manage. We are very close too which I’m grateful for. I love spending money on her and she’s an adult now and living her own life. I also had a rough birth and one was enough for me. I think it’s time society got over its hang up about only children. They are better off imo and they are rising and I can see why.
-
-
My daughter is an only child and she and I like it that way. She has never wanted a sibling and her friends think she is lucky she doesn’t have pesky brothers and sisters. Trust me, I have an older sister and siblings suck. She has never had to experience that sibling rivalry plus one child is so much cheaper and easier to manage. We are very close too which I’m grateful for. I love spending money on her and she’s an adult now and living her own life. I also had a rough birth and one was enough for me. I think it’s time society got over its hang up about only children. They are better off imo and they are rising and I can see why.
Absolutely. Every parent's situation is different. Some parents prefer having just one child and things work out better that way for them. Based on what you've shared, you seem to have an excellent, close relationship with your daughter, so that's what matters most.
Not only are you a caring parent, but you're also a friend to her, taking the time to know the person she is and what she likes. I see that as great parenting because some parents out there can be rather cold and distant to their kids, and that might be a problem for the kids emotionally.
Other parents prefer multiple children so that their kids won't end up feeling lonely and will have someone to interact with. That's valid reasoning, too, but I'd say to embrace either situation.
-
My daughter is an only child and she and I like it that way. She has never wanted a sibling and her friends think she is lucky she doesn’t have pesky brothers and sisters. Trust me, I have an older sister and siblings suck. She has never had to experience that sibling rivalry plus one child is so much cheaper and easier to manage. We are very close too which I’m grateful for. I love spending money on her and she’s an adult now and living her own life. I also had a rough birth and one was enough for me. I think it’s time society got over its hang up about only children. They are better off imo and they are rising and I can see why.
It's nice to hear that you and your daughter like it that way and that you have such a strong bond!
But you shouldn't project your experiences onto the others. I'm so grateful to my parents, that they gave me siblings. I can't imagine my life without them, they are my best friends.
But i know it's different for everyone!
For the op:
of course everyone doesn't have siblings, it doesn't even matter, i don't know what's the big deal. All kinds of families exist, and that is all fine, as long as they make you happy.
And the user that i think you're talking about doesn't have them either, so i think you misunderstood their intentions.
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
Display More
It's nice to hear that you and your daughter like it that way and that you have such a strong bond!
But you shouldn't project your experiences onto the others. I'm so grateful to my parents, that they gave me siblings. I can't imagine my life without them, they are my best friends.
But i know it's different for everyone!
For the op:
of course everyone doesn't have siblings, it doesn't even matter, i don't know what's the big deal. All kinds of families exist, and that is all fine, as long as they make you happy.
And the user that i think you're talking about doesn't have them either, so i think you misunderstood their intentions.
I’m not, I’m just outlining the way it is for me and societal pressures to have more children. I resisted that pressure. Lucky for you that you get along with your siblings, most people I know including myself don’t. My sister wishes she’d been a single child as she’s hated me all her life and I wanted to spare my daughter of that. For the record, she does have an older half sister from my partner’s first marriage but they don’t really get on either. I’m not trying to push my opinions onto others, but there are far more pluses to having one child plus I’ve always more financially better off than people with one child and I’m helping the planet. My daughter has never been lonely either, Ashe has friends and has always said to me she’s glad she didn’t have siblings and wouldn’t want it any other way. At least I’ve had a child at all and although it ain’t all beer and skittles, it’s the best thing I’ve ever done.
-
Ima only chile
-
I’m not, I’m just outlining the way it is for me and societal pressures to have more children. I resisted that pressure. Lucky for you that you get along with your siblings, most people I know including myself don’t. My sister wishes she’d been a single child as she’s hated me all her life and I wanted to spare my daughter of that. For the record, she does have an older half sister from my partner’s first marriage but they don’t really get on either. I’m not trying to push my opinions onto others, but there are far more pluses to having one child plus I’ve always more financially better off than people with one child and I’m helping the planet. My daughter has never been lonely either, Ashe has friends and has always said to me she’s glad she didn’t have siblings and wouldn’t want it any other way. At least I’ve had a child at all and although it ain’t all beer and skittles, it’s the best thing I’ve ever done.
I'm sorry that your sister treated you like that, she really sounds like a terrible person.
It also makes me happy to see how much you love your daughter and how strong is your bond.
Of course, like you said, there are societal pressures, for everything really. Not only to have more children, but also to have children or to do certain things, to be certain way (and a lot of other things). I think some people should live their own lives and leave others do what they want.
For me it's the opposite as you said, most people i know get along very well with their siblings, but there are also some exceptions.
I have at least Participate now!
Don’t have an account yet? Register yourself now and be a part of our community!
