Have you ever lost a friend/ended a friendship?

MrTurtlebutt · Jul 11th 2022

Wae

unbannBLACPINK · Jul 11th 2022

a gazillion

Lulu_Key · Jul 11th 2022

alot

we grew up and grew apart

carrot-juice · Jul 11th 2022

Most of my childhood friends migrated to other countries as they got older,so we spontaneously lost contact.

I do miss them at times,ngl

nevermore · Jul 11th 2022

I got ghosted.

Ended a few because they disrespected me.

And in other cases, we just grew apart.

Such is life.

butterbutterfly · Jul 11th 2022

yes

both voluntarily and accidentally. life happens.

**crystalblues** · Jul 11th 2022

Yes, I stopped being friends with one of my favorite people in the world because after he and I broke up he kept acting as if he was still in love with me then slept with a woman he told me and friends he hated with a passion, then proceeded to start false and vicious rumors about me. I still miss him dearly but know it was not healthy for me to not stand up for myself and to let him attack me when angry again with no repercussions.

And with a female friend who I found out was also talking bad about me and him behind our backs who proceeded to start rumors about me during the fall out and would mock and make fun of the girl my ex ended up with, to me while pretending to be her friend. I outed her to the girl, which I feel bad for as that girl did not deserve the pain and betrayal she got from the girl we both thought was our friend, but I felt it was worse to continue to pretend nothing was happening. If I could go back and do anything different, I would have stood up for my ex's new girlfriend against my so called friend instead of being a bystander letting it happen...

xx-jenn-xx · Jul 11th 2022

i'm usually a push-over but i've learned to walk away from people who take advantage of me and turn their back on me and think it's okay to push me around when it's not. I always want to make my friends happy and i buy things for them, send them things etc, but when you flat out do shit to hurt me on purpose, guilt trip me than turn on me you're a piece of shit.

**crystalblues** · Jul 11th 2022

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I always want to make my friends happy and i buy things for them, send them things etc, but when you flat out do shit to hurt me on purpose, guilt trip me than turn on me you're a piece of shit.

I am sorry you also know that pain, I know we have had out squables but no one deserves that pain.

Pan-Nini · Jul 11th 2022

A lot.

xx-jenn-xx · Jul 11th 2022

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I am sorry you also know that pain, I know we have had out squables but no one deserves that pain.

people won't always get along everyone thinks differently was raised different and has different morals, but in the end being taken advantage of, guilt tripped, lied about etc. is just uncalled for. it's happen in person and online and it happens so frequently you'd think i'd learn my lesson but i'm a caring person with a big heart who has a hard time saying no to shit. I don't deserve what's been done to me, a lot of what you've experienced and probably STILL see 'cause it's the SAME people. I know that i'm not perfect but the shit i've been put through i'm surprised i'm not in a mental ward to be honest.

I'm sorry for any arguments/disagreements we have had as i can be hot headed and set in my ways but i in no way ever mean to be a mean person. I just get so fed up with shit. Also the person you described seems relateable like they don't get what they want so they go and spread vicious shit and it's just a never ending cycle of crap. it's sad

**crystalblues** · Jul 11th 2022

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people won't always get along everyone thinks differently was raised different and has different morals, but in the end being taken advantage of, guilt tripped, lied about etc. is just uncalled for. it's happen in person and online and it happens so frequently you'd think i'd learn my lesson but i'm a caring person with a big heart who has a hard time saying no to shit. I don't deserve what's been done to me, a lot of what you've experienced and probably STILL see 'cause it's the SAME people. I know that i'm not perfect but the shit i've been put through i'm surprised i'm not in a mental ward to be honest.

I'm sorry for any arguments/disagreements we have had as i can be hot headed and set in my ways but i in no way ever mean to be a mean person. I just get so fed up with shit. Also the person you described seems relateable like they don't get what they want so they go and spread vicious shit and it's just a never ending cycle of crap. it's sad

I understand and as usual, despite any squables, if you are ever found to not have anyone to turn to and your therapist appointment is too far away, and need to cry it out just to let it out, you can DM me, even if I do not get to responding, at least you have let it out.

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And .... sigh... he is sadly a bit self centered and entitled, he does not think about how his actions hurt others until long after he has done something, if at all. I love him very much but any bit of criticism turns him venomous and hostile. Whereas usually I cry like a mess and try to figure out where I went wrong and panic trying to hurry to fix everything if I mess something up or accidentally hurt someone. I have not seen or heard from him since the incidents but I still hope he is healthy and happy and that he grows to treat those he says he loves, better than he treated me. If I had to be the lesson to make him treat others better, I am glad he hurt me then in retrospective. I am unsure I will ever be able to trust him again if he ever does comeback around, but he was the only person who shared all of my interests and was there for me when my grandmother died, but the toxic treatment; silent treatments, lies, guilt tripping, "it happened, I was not meaning to be mean, just get over it" and refusing to actually talk about the fights, or tantrums, just wanting me to sweep it under the rug constantly and constant flip flopping to where I was either a god of greatness to him or completely evil to him, destroyed my mental health so badly, so it is a double edged sword of sorts. I still miss his silly puns and his random memes popping up in the middle of the night but I also know with that came a lot of pain and wondering why I was never good enough for consistency/stable healthy love.

I was not perfect by any means, I needed a lot of reassurance and panicked when he disappeared for days or weeks. I tried to take my life twice while with him and blew up his phone one day when I did, but I do not think I deserved the amount of mental abuse I got hit with constantly. I promised him I never would leave his side, so standing up for myself and telling him I was sick of hurting took everything out of me. It f###ing destroyed me, but if I did not do it, I might not be here anymore, honestly.

xx-jenn-xx · Jul 11th 2022

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I understand and as usual, despite any squables, if you are ever found to not have anyone to turn to and your therapist appointment is too far away, and need to cry it out just to let it out, you can DM me, even if I do not get to responding, at least you have let it out.

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And .... sigh... he is sadly a bit self centered and entitled, he does not think about how his actions hurt others until long after he has done something, if at all. I love him very much but any bit of criticism turns him venomous and hostile. Whereas usually I cry like a mess and try to figure out where I went wrong and panic trying to hurry to fix everything if I mess something up or accidentally hurt someone. I have not seen or heard from him since the incidents but I still hope he is healthy and happy and that he grows to treat those he says he loves, better than he treated me. If I had to be the lesson to make him treat others better, I am glad he hurt me then in retrospective. I am unsure I will ever be able to trust him again if he ever does comeback around, but he was the only person who shared all of my interests and was there for me when my grandmother died, but the toxic treatment; silent treatments, lies, guilt tripping, "it happened, I was not meaning to be mean, just get over it" and refusing to actually talk about the fights, or tantrums, just wanting me to sweep it under the rug constantly and constant flip flopping to where I was either a god of greatness to him or completely evil to him, destroyed my mental health so badly, so it is a double edged sword of sorts. I still miss his silly puns and his random memes popping up in the middle of the night but I also know with that came a lot of pain and wondering why I was never good enough for consistency/stable healthy love.

I was not perfect by any means, I needed a lot of reassurance and panicked when he disappeared for days or weeks. I tried to take my life twice while with him and blew up his phone one day when I did, but I do not think I deserved the amount of mental abuse I got hit with constantly. I promised him I never would leave his side, so standing up for myself and telling him I was sick of hurting took everything out of me. It f###ing destroyed me, but if I did not do it, I might not be here anymore, honestly.

That's much appreciated. Thank you.

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**crystalblues** · Jul 11th 2022

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Yikes sounds like my last ex that i only knew online he was so damn manipulative would ghost me for months than comeback and act all controlling and throwing a fit if i talked to others (we met in a game) he mentally destroyed me so bad that i almost took my life several times, he would tell me what i wanted to hear just to keep me sucked in until finally i just couldn't do it anymore, he still tries things and seeing him still upsets me. i talk to him here and there but definitely keep my distance. I don't even play the game that i played for 10 years anymore because everything i do reminds me of him and i just have no joy in it anymore. He'd act sorry when he really, clearly, wasn't. I hated when he'd ghost me over the stupidest of shit. He was so secretive about his real life while acting like he wanted to meet in person and have a future. Like how the hell are we gonna be anything when you can't even tell me about your life? people are just so infuriating!

I completely can relate it may not be exactly the same but they are pretty similiar situations. People suck sometimes.

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xx-jenn-xx · Jul 11th 2022

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I have met him in person and we have so many mutual friends it has made things very hard, I did not make anyone take sides, people still kinda have. It literally split lots of our friends down the middle. But yes the ghosting for weeks but liking my posts on socials, commenting on stuff and not wanting me to move on and then coming back like nothing happened just to do it again. It is extremely painful, even more cause I really liked his mom, she is so sweet.

no one deserves manipulation and mind games.

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**crystalblues** · Jul 11th 2022

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Been sticking to myself. Got a new bed frame coming in finally! I'm so excited my bed has been on the floor for years

xx-jenn-xx · Jul 11th 2022

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Been sticking to myself. Got a new bed frame coming in finally! I'm so excited my bed has been on the floor for years

omg you'll be so comfy!! that's exciting!

HwaGoose · Jul 11th 2022

Well... I have only experienced the growing apart and the thing about suddenly not talking to each others again, even though there was no bad blood between us.

itsymoo · Jul 11th 2022

a lot

MY-Kwangya · Jul 11th 2022

Of course, who hasn't?

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