let's talk about kpop (anonymous)

it's been a while since i've done this, but i got inspired by ghostings

it doesn't necessarily have to be ABOUT kpop, (because this would flop in the lounge)

"Today I got a bracelet from my aunt. She raised me, but we don't talk. I got such a rush of emotions, that I haven't felt in so long, I felt so loved. I'm crying so much right now, I really didn't know I needed someone to just show me that I matter to them so badly. Sorry if this is too much"

this is not too much at all! i'm so happy for you that you're feeling these lovely emotions, you deserve to feel this loved all the time also of course you matter, whether you believe it or not. if you ever want to talk, i'm here, we love you!

"You're a great person, Felina. Really appreciate you and wish you the best"

i'm not sure what to say to this other than thank you so much, more than words. i've been going through it for the past couple of months and i'm glad that i've been able to talk and interact with some of the most loveliest people i've ever met. this really does mean so much to me, and i appreciate and wish the best for you too

"Looking forward to aespa and all the ggs coming out with music!! What a cool time to be a kpop fan."

THIS!!! i can't wait for aespa's comeback and i'm really ready for BP's comeback! i feel like i've been waiting fifteen million years i also can't wait to see IVE's follow up, bc i've come to ADORE Love Dive!

"mys are getting too bold coming for bp and twice. let's get them past red velvet first."

me, who stans every single group listed here:

real talk though, i don't think we should be comparing 4th gen to 3rd gen groups period. and i especially don't think dragging any group down to boost another is okay, it's very petty. i'm sure some people in any fandom have gotten bold and made statements, that doesn't mean all of them have.

"Aespa just released the bop of the century"

oh i KNOW, i have it playing rn. they're really coming into their own

edit: also their bridges go hard as FUCK each time

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"A certain fandom rubs me the wrong way. And no, before anyone says anything, not ALL of the fandom is that way, just some. As I was saying, I just don’t agree with their mindset. It’s very toxic, and it almost feels like bullying????? They just have a concerning way of thinking. I don’t speak about it too much because I don’t want to make people feel bad or come off as rude, but I’ve seen this issue play out right in front of me, and I don’t agree with it. It’s not pretty…"

come on, spill! who is it?

and sadly i think this can apply to subsets of any fandom. i have seen the wildest shit occur, like some people act possessed (and i say that as someone who was/is parts of those fandoms).

"I don’t agree with some aespa fans defending Giselle’s questionable actions by using the “other idols have done it” excuse. Just because other idols have done it doesn’t make what she has done right. I forgive Giselle but she’s don’t some offensive things that aren’t right. It’s important to hold her accountable for her actions/words."

"other idols have done it" is never an excuse, no matter who's involved. and holding people accountable is definitely important. i think it's different if there was regret and growth expressed- it means a lot more and actually shows that they understand what they did wrong and have been growing because of it. i have to be very careful with how i word this because i got threadmaker of the month november(?) for making a deepdive thread on a certain idol and the controversy that surrounded them, and i don't want to be seen as a hypocrite. so what i will say is that every situation is handled differently, and remorse may be expressed in different ways, if at all. now, vehemently defending behavior that wasn't apologized for is something completely different. also i really think when it comes to situations like these, only the certain subset of people involved can forgive her (if there was an apology at all). for example: an idol culturally appropriates culture A and then apologizes. people from culture B don't have the right to accept that apology or ever truly "weigh in", because it's not their apology to accept. and clearly it's a completely different deal when there was no apology at all, which leads to a sort of ambiguity. i have a lot more to say but it'll be an essay, but i agree with the general idea of what you said. take that as you will.

who wants to confess their feelings

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My feelings are too extreme to express

you're just like me fr

"Taekook and Chanbaek ships are visually appealing."

lemme look away real quick

i'm waiting for some crazy shit to be said... someone please shake shit up. it doesn't have to be k-pop related

guests? you guys have anything you wanna say?

"Every day, it feels like I'm told, either directly or indirectly: "STOP BEING SO NICE!" People never seem to consider how much joy being nice brings me. It almost feels like they're telling me to stop being myself and they want to mold me into whoever they want.. I don't want to be that though, I just want to be myself. I just don't fully know who that is yet."

listen to me right now- protect your energy. you possess a very special trait that isn't found very often. you're purehearted. and you treating everyone with love and genuine kindness tells me the kind of person you are. you are not what other people think of you or what they want you to be. even if you don't know who you want to be, i trust that you're very intuitive and wouldn't want to change yourself to fit to their mold. fuck their mold. stay away from that negative energy, because people who say stuff like that with bad intentions are people who shouldn't be in your life at all. i'm proud of you that you've recognized that your kindness brings others joy, and that you want to continue being true to yourself- that's half the battle. i believe in you and if you ever need anything don't hesitate to message me

"I feel like I honestly have no sense of self. The person that everyone sees is just a fragment of other people’s personalities merged into one. The overly optimistic, anti- pessimistic side people get on this form is all fake. Conjured up into a mask of what I think others will enjoy, instead of what’s true. As a matter of fact, I wear this mask all of the time. I can’t count the last time I really let it all out. Those times that did happen though, I almost lost the people dearest to me. My family was fed up with me, and I did shit I regret. So yeah, I’m a mess 👀"

please talk to a mental health professional. i felt a similar way and ended up with a diagnosis that i am working on treating and it makes my life easier knowing what's wrong and how to treat it. though there is an intense stigma around people with this diagnosis (i was an ex-psych major and even some of my teachers were harsh when discussing it), it doesn't apply to everyone with it. not necessarily saying there's something wrong but what's going on is not normal. what i will say is i used to be just like you on this forum, i even do it still sometimes- i say whatever pleases people and i match their energy to feel like i have some sort of persona. but recently i've just been true to myself and how i feel on here and it's liberating. i have my reservations but even though this is anon i feel wrong for throwing out any diagnoses etc. if you experience what you're talking about (no sense of self, mirror for other people) alongside a fear of abandonment, impulsive decisions, unstable relationships, and anger issues, please see a therapist/professional as soon as possible. you don't have to feel this way forever. i trust you know what to do/have an idea of how to go forward. if you ever need help please DM me.

"Girls would've easily been the best MV of this year (except Blackpink probably), if only the SM editors didn't keep panning their camera to a different angle every two seconds"

i thought i was the only one who noticed this but yeah i wish they had longer shots, especially with Karina.

"I have a smut addiction and I wish I could get rid of it lol"

i read the smut that I'VE WRITTEN on a daily basis. i even worked on some earlier today. i am an addict too. there's no escaping it, just embrace it. i even have a hidden folder on the home screen on my phone of all the smuts i saw online and wanted to bookmark, with secret code emojis and everything (flower is hanahaki, chili pepper is smut)

lord help us.

"I know who you are, nice anon. You aren't nice. People are telling you to stop being fake, we all saw what you actually think about actual human beings. And the reason I know it's you, is because you make being nice your whole personality. You acted weird towards another person when they won the nicest user award."

i don't know how to feel about this after seeing their other submission of them being honest. what i do know is that no matter how angry we are, call-outs are not okay. especially even now after they seemed to come clean and be forthcoming. we never know what other people are going through.

"I have always been a very reserved person who rarely goes out and never get to party or stay out too late even if I am of legal age and old enough to do so, so recently I got an opportunity to party all night thanks to a friend, drink, smoke and just go wild. Basically, I had the best time of my life. And I had so much fun. But made one mistake that is I broke the curfew and came home very late, even if I went out with friends who live nearby. So obviously my parents were very disappointed in me (yes I still live with my parents) and I couldn't even look em in the eyes. The next day, I apologised for coming home late and they forgave me. But now they don't trust my friend and I feel bad because she didn't force me or anything it was my choice to go out, I don't know how to do now, I don't want them to hate her just because we got carried away one night. That's all I wanted to share."

honestly the fact that you had the best time of your life when engaging in activities that relieve that stress or get you out of your comfort zone is a good thing. i hope they come around with your friend and become a little more understanding. i understand how this can be upsetting for sure- i know it sounds stupid but i'm sure everything will fall into place eventually now that you've experienced something that truly makes you feel alive. and i know it's hard to believe that everything will work itself out and it's cliche but trust me, it will.

"I really like this idea. It's very therapeutic for me to get stuff like this off of my chest anonymously and have people talk about it, without knowing it's me."

it's not only very fun (most of the time), it's also nice to see that you feel like this is a safe place to vent. i'm glad this helped you and i hope it relieved some stress

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Oh how I wish I could indulge in the world of smut again. Since I get no action irl, it’s the only way I’m able to feel any sense of sexual gratification. But my parents can see what I do on my phone plus restrictions so yeah 🗿

we're both getting no action irl

also i would DIE if i couldn't read smut like i would always find a way around the restrictions. smut is literally like cocaine to me.

"No one (globally speaking) is 100% nice all the time. Some people need to stop pretending they are when in reality they misinterpret people words to make it sound you're a victim and get sympathy from people who have nothing to do with the issue just because someone don't like you. You're not going to satisfy everyone. Just move on and live your life."

bro wtf is going on here??? if you have personal beef with someone, just take it up with them in the DMs, not here. and of course no one is 100% nice all the time, but you can't really say "you're not going to satisfy everyone, just move on and live your life" to someone with a mindset of what i posted above about them not knowing who they are. it's clearly a deeper issue that you can't just "move on" from. yeah maybe for neurotypical people it is that easy, but i'm really gathering that they kind of really need help, so i don't think it's fair to trivialize their issues into just "moving on". whether they've fucked up or not or feel that people don't like them, it doesn't change the fact they seem to have no sense of self etc. which indicates a deeper issue. putting up a front for people is usually not by choice, it's by instinct, it became habitual and that's just their personality now. i get there's some personal shit here and i likely don't know the whole story, but i know (i can't find the right word to put here without being too blunt) certain shit when i see it, so let's all please not have this dialogue here.

"aespa's songs sound well produced but the composition is often super messy, and not in an interesting way...just messy. and tiring and unsatisfying if you focus just on the music instead of using it as background noise. this puts me off more than the lore"

whew! i forgot this thread could be kpop related for a sec. i see how you could think this, but their b-sides really do tell a different story. i think SM gives them really "stand-out"(?) title tracks and then changes up the tone for the rest of the EP. and i do agree with the composition being messy- it doesn't have an original song structure which makes it harder to keep up with, but that doesn't mean their songs aren't good. i loved Girls. was it a little messy? yeah. but i think it was well produced and they did amazing. to each their own though.

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a whole beef is happening in your anons thing

ikr like... wtf

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It could be one person orchestrating all of it 🤔 I suggest not replying to those remarks anymore

i doubt it's one person. only because the writing styles are different and there actually seems to be some real beef here. i won't be posting any of the submissions that continue this.