Twt spent 4 days on this, guess this issue even reached them

So that's what everyone on Twitter was talking about. ngl this is a really bizarre custom to me. How do you have a guest and not feed them?

Weird

It definitely is considered weird and disrespectful in my culture to not even offer anything to guests when they come over especially if its a kid on top of that, then they are definitely getting a plate irrespective of our financial condition but then again its their culture their customs.

Oh it’s hating Sweden week here too

Now I know ppl have no clue what they are talking about

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Right, this can't be real. Can you straighten this out?

Well

Im Danish but here when we normally have playdates we get food - maybe not dinner bc we only stay a few hours but we get something: fruit, bread, cake or whatever.

This wedding - you can either be invited to a reception, the wedding in the church and the dinner party. Or all three.

Never heard about anyone not getting food. Yes if you are invited to church only u get nothing but u also dont have to give a present.

If you fly in for a wedding you will most likely have an invite to the dinner where u will have food. And drinks.

This is so weird to me. Here even if you hypothetically don’t want to feed your guest, you still offer it as a courtesy. A lot of people actually decline especially if they’re not staying for long. But leaving a guest hungry is just…

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Confirmed, slow news week and people are just throwing stories around like darts to see if they stick.

Nah not really, this discussion has been on fire for the past few days in twt.

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Like twt hasn't been known to start rumors and run with them, lol. Just saying, I'd rather believe actual people from Scandinavia over twt! I've heard of strange customs, but you'd think this one, seemingly commonplace in a well known Western society, would have been unearthed way before this if it was really a thing.

Except there were many Swedes themselves justifying these practices in twt lol. it’s not all untrue just cos it’s from twt

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So... like the rest of the world. Man, sounds like it was a slow news week. They got tired of trying to spot matching jewelry on Taennie after the earring debaucle?

Lol must be😜.

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Confirmed, slow news week and people are just throwing stories around like darts to see if they stick.

Its Hybe and that Garam thing again!!!!!

Hahaha

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Except there were many Swedes themselves justifying these practices in twt lol. it’s not all untrue just cos it’s from twt

Usually kids have homework and dinner is with family bc some kids are so weird with food and so picky.

Also everyone is tired.

Now when we are bigger kids we just buy food ourselves with the host kid bc both parents have to work to pay for all the welfare.

So it must have been a fake Swede saying shite

I'm swedish and as a child the original scenario (waiting while a friend eats dinner) happened several times by my family towards a friend or to me by other families when i was a kid and i never thought it was weird. I was actually personally kind of happy about this culture because unless you know the parents too it's really awkward to eat with someone elses family and i would rather not as a kid and would usually decline any offer to do so (unless they were my best friend)...... And yes there usually was an offer along the lines of "Do you need to eat here?" etc, but like i said, you decline because you have food waiting at home.

Anyways, the reason this is common is because usually you live and play with people that live max 10 minutes away (walking distance) so it's natural for you to eat separately. Your friend eats with her family and when it's time for you to eat you just walk home to eat (people generally eat between 4.30 pm and like 7.30 pm, so at different times) and that's that. Waiting isn't a problem because you're going home to eat in a bit anyways (which is expected , your own family cooked for you and eating elsewhere when that's the case is also seen as kind of rude towards whoever cooked at home), and it's not like you haven't eaten since lunch, you usually have a snack in the afternoon after school at your friends place. It's just dinner that is usually separate when you're kids (it's different when you're adults, though coming over uninvited or without notice and expecting to be fed as an adult is also weird (but in a different way), especially if you're not very close..... Though you can always expect a fika of course). Sleepovers are different though, of course a kid was always fed and well taken care of then, but that's because it's a planned activity and the expectation of it is included. There should be an explicit invitation to eat dinner, it should be agreed upon beforehand, otherwise you shouldn't expect it. If people don't say there's gonna be food then there most likely isn't and you just get a fika.

Honestly it never crossed my mind that it was weird lol, and i absolutely didn't mind as a kid. It's actually the way i preferred it since i found it very awkward to eat dinner at someone elses place. It feels like imposing, and going as far as assuming (like you are entitled) to eat dinner feels rude to me.

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Why even bother to invite anyone?

That's the thing, in this scenario it's not an explicit invitation. It's just kids hanging out at each others places after school. When that's the case then you are expected to go home and eat dinner, not eat at whoever's place you're hanging out at (unless it's been otherwise agreed upon beforehand)

Other rules apply during sleepovers though, it's really weird to not be fed then.

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e the one with the 7 year old having to walk home for dinner, I can see that being a thing if they live really close by and over at each others houses all the time. The parents might have decided on the dinner arrangement to still have some family quality time, but I feel like that's a very specific scenario.

This is what all of these are referring to. It's about kids living in the same neighborhood, you're expected to go home for dinner since you live max 10 minutes away (walking distance).

It was very common in my village.

I‘m from Germany (not an ethnic German though) and I’ve heard soo many stories of people being told to wait in their friend‘s room while the family has lunch.

I guess it’s a central and Northern European thing

okay this is weird agree, but I've seen so many foreigners on yt vidos saying that no matter what you do Koreans will not take you to their 'circle'. it's even hard to say smth on the street, foreigners aren't even allowed to go to the clubs with Koreans. so why are they acting like it's not normal for them when they treat foreigners the same

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I‘m from Germany (not an ethnic German though) and I’ve heard soo many stories of people being told to wait in their friend‘s room while the family has lunch.

I guess it’s a central and Northern European thing

Never heard of it and would always ask if this was the case

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Welp in that case, I suppose we're evil and don't serve dinner. Living in a smaller village or a neighborhood where everyone lives close by it can definitely be a thing to run home for dinner

If you are in at your friends house they ask u and u ask what they are having for dinner. If its pizza u stay😎

But mostly its during the afternoon or day for the smaller kids and as teenagers we ate everything in the house lol.

In my culture we bully our guests to overeat

Like in a very aggressive way

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In my culture we bully our guests to overeat

Like in a very aggressive way

in my culture too lmao

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In my culture we bully our guests to overeat

Like in a very aggressive way

Lol

So you have to lie and say you’re allergic?

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Lol

So you have to lie and say you’re allergic?

No they have to physically hold their plates away from us to stop us from putting more food in it

Dinner could get very bizarre

I honestly don't like it, when i was a kid I cried bc my aunt tried to stuff me

Literally stuff me

dumbest controversy ever

Meanwhile the Swedish tourism sector

what the hell...

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now I want to see how Koreans would react to Polish two day weddings when you can drink and eat whatever you want and even when you throw up on 1st day they would say on 2nd: "no worries, you will recover after eating and drinking more" lol

it's the same here! sometimes it's three days lol. slavs rule

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In my culture we bully our guests to overeat

Like in a very aggressive way

in my culture too

my cousin was born in germany and his wife and in-laws are german. once he visited us with his mother in law and we prepared a lot of stuff to eat, as usual. none of us speak german btw. she refused everything we offered, she said she wasn't hungry, she ate at home. it was clear that we were so upset she ended up taking a bite because the situation was really uncomfortable literally a bite, one would never notice somebody touched it

if you didn't go home full on the verge that you cannot breathe we failed as hosts lol