If you're invited to someone's birthday and go to a restaurant, should the guests pay or host party pay for everything?
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For all the birthdays that I attended, it was the celebrated person who paid for everything. Even for my birthday, it was me who paid for the guests.
For children it's like the same, although it's the parents of the celebrated child who are paying.
Display MoreI guess it depends on different kinds of people or their culture?
It needs to be talked about before hand.
But I never had to pay once when I went to a birthday party.
And nobody had to pay when they came to mine.
And this ranged from having a few drinks at the pub to some really fancy restaurants or clubs in Soho.
Back home in Romania, that is the rule as well.
You go to a birthday party you bring a gift that is worth at least as much how much "damage" you will do.
That's why I would always buy a very expensive bottle of spirits plus another gift for the host
why would i pay? it's their b day
looks like it works differently in European countries. For all the birthday celebrations where we eat out i had to pay for myself.
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I was brought up that a host pays, guests don't.
If you invite people to come celebrate your birthday with you, then you are a host and the host pays. Same if a parent throws a party for their kid, they are still the host and should pay.
If a group of people get together to celebrate your birthday and take you out, you are the guest of honor. They split the bill and pay for themselves and you.
If a group of friends all decide to go out together, then they should communicate what the expectations are.
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looks like it works differently in European countries. For all the birthday celebrations where we eat out i had to pay for myself.
all three of us are from eastern europe, i don't know how is it in other parts of europe.
i cannot imagine myself paying for somebody else's birthday. what's the difference between b day celebration and a regular dinner then? we just bring gifts and it doesn't have to be anything expensive. if a meal costs 30 euros per person it's not expected to bring a gift that is worth as much. alexS said that's expected in romania but that certainly isn't the case here. you're not making a celebration to earn money lol.
if you go to a house party people can bring drinks if they want, they don't have to, it's not expected.
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all three of us are from eastern europe, i don't know how is it in other parts of europe.
i cannot imagine myself paying for somebody else's birthday. what's the difference between b day celebration and a regular dinner then? we just bring gifts and it doesn't have to be anything expensive. if a meal costs 30 euros per person it's not expected to bring a gift that is worth as much. alexS said that's expected in romania but that certainly isn't the case here. you're not making a celebration to earn money lol.
if you go to a house party people can bring drinks if they want, they don't have to, it's not expected.
if it is a house party i just bring gifts and the host takes care of the food. I have only done the restaurant birthday with friends and everyone paid for themselves. I don't know what the expectation is with people that are more well off and can handle large bills alone. My friends are fellow students who are not working full time and they don't come from wealthy families. It will definitely put a blow on their finances for a few weeks if they have to pay for everyone. I personally won't go to a dinner-style birthday celebration unless I am close with the person to a certain extent. Also, the person celebrating the birthday does not make money from the celebration. We pay our bills separately at the restaurant.
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I remember when my brother or I had parties and we went somewhere, if you were going out for the party and weren't paying for the birthday party package, then the invitees had to pay for everything.
Like when my brother had a birthday party with a few of his friends and we all went to go see Spider-Man: Homecoming back in 2017 at the theaters.
Every parent had to pay for their child's ticket.
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I didn't really understand your question about kids. And you think kids can afford to pay for something? My parents always paid for my birthday when I was a kid, so I didn't see any sense if other kids' parents would pay for my kid's parties. In my opinion, it depends on the conditions and situation, sometimes my friends surprised me with a birthday party, and this feeling was really good. I didn't need to think about where I will invite my friends. Last birthday I met at this place in Orlando https://opaorlando.com/event-venue/party-venue/. The service was awesome, and the prices were low.
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The inviter (host) should pay for the bill
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If it’s something that you are HOSTING, like you sent out invitations, it’s ultimately up to you and the guests but it does put pressure on the guests because sometimes if the host doesn’t want to pay, it puts it on the guests which I don’t think is fair, especially if it’s at a fancy restaurant, not everyone can afford certain things.
If it’s like a collective decision, like the group chat came together and planned it, like any other hangout, it’s different, it was a collective decision and everyone can help pay. (Which is honestly how I think it should always be, a collective agreement, unless the host is willing to pay for everyone.. I just avoid going to super fancy restaurants and stuff unless I know everyone is going to be able to afford it)
Just my thoughts.
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