Same...but at the end of the day we just have to learn to accept who we are and what we look like
Nah, i cant accept it. so i'm saving up money to fix what i hate about my face. its going to be expensive and painful but i thought about it for a long time and i feel like i shouldn't have to look the way that i look. i think i deserve better. i want a good appearance - one that people would see and feel positively about me. maybe i'll get it and maybe i wont. but im at least gonna try.
Nah, i'm saving up money to fix what i hate about my face. its going to be expensive and painful but i thought about it for a long time and i feel like i shouldn't have to look the way that i look. i think i deserve better. i want a good appearance - one that people would see and feel positively about me. maybe i'll get it and maybe i wont. but im at least gonna try.
I wish you the best of luck, if you decide to make that decision! 
its a bit confusing for me since i dont know myself that well. i dont really pay attention to how i look, atleast according to me i look fine if not drop dead gorgeous. i'm proud of myself for what i've done/am doing. at the same time, when i do not meet expectations i set up for myself/ others have from me, i feel like the worst person in the world who does not deserve anything. its a bit ironical but i like to live the way i want to and defend the opinions i have and at the same time, i can never go against my parents/people who care about me which makes me feel weak.
More than anything lol
yup, a little too much LOL.
Double post! This new forum is too buggy and hard to navigate for this Capybara! >=[
Love myself? nope never have.
Im content with being who I am and what I am but I don't really regard it as love.
I still hate how I look and other things but despite that I've always had decent relationships because those are my hang ups and my insecurities and I don't let them interfere with how I do things or my interactions with people. (which why it's always comes as a surprise when people find out how fucked in the head I am lol)
People can love me while I dont love myself but I can love them also,
Dunno how but it works for me I guess.
Self love? What’s that?
Display MoreI do love myself, i can not imagine not loving myself. I feel like everyone does, because who do we live for if not ourselves?
But of course that doesn't mean i think i'm perfect ot anything like that i accept myself as i am and trying to be better everyday. We mature, learn and grow everyday, it's an ongoing process and we shouldn't think of life as if there is only one certain goal that we have to reach. It's good to set some goals for the future that keep us going and searching for happines, but we shouldn't pressure ourselves to be certain way. Of course i'm critical of myself, want to be better person to myself and to others, i want to achieve certain expectations and not disappoint myself and my loved ones. But with all this in mind, I always love myself.
For the op: i think you have to figure out what loving yourself really means. It doesn't mean you think you are the best and better than others. It means you accept yourself and work everyday to be even better, to make yourself happy, even with small things. You don't have to go to great lenghts to do that. But to put yourself first doesn't mean you don't care about others. You should put yourself first and learn how to love yourself first, otherwise you can't really love anything/anybody else.
I believe there is a reason for you to think this way, i think it could be something that maybe comes back from your past or childhood. Can be just a small thing of someone not appreciating you or things you said or did. Start working on a problem from the root, try to figure out why you developed this kind of view of yourself.
Everyone deserves to be respected and every person has worth and value. You including. If you show to people around you, that you love and respect yourself, they won't dare to disrespect you and you won't be surrounded with people that don't treat you nice. Be good to yourself and seletive of people you choose to be close with.
i am probably the only person eho read the entire thingy friend...
two minor spelling mistakes
lengths and selective (not criticising you hell i make a lot more errors than that on my posts) but to prove that i read it all...
excellent points btw
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i guess :)
I have BPD... self-love or respect was not something I knew for many many years. I lived for most of my life truly hating myself and acting out in ways that demonstrated that self-loathing.
I’ve done a load of work and therapy and it has very much changed the kind of person I am. I’m definitely no longer chasing for approval from external sources and convinced that I need to change things about myself constantly. Nor am I blaming myself for things beyond my power or that weren’t my fault or mine to change.
That said, I’m uneasy to say that I really love myself. I tend to phrase it more that I think at this point in my life, I‘ve reached a (slightly uneasy) kind of peace with myself. I think the work of loving yourself is a lifelong process. Things ebb and change all the time and you can never predict when things will creep in to test you or your self-worth.
But the most important thing is trying to understand why you need your sense of self to come from admiration or desire from others. If you feel empty without it, then it’s worth examining what has made you feel that way, and then you can start to challenge those beliefs - that’s the beginning of the journey to some kind of self-respect.
i coexist with myself peacefully.
loving myself would be a bit strange.... a bit overdramatic and perhaps narcissistic.
I wouldn’t say I love myself I auctually lack in that area, I hate my dark skin, my hair, my gap, I hate my weight and a lot another stuff but I try
People can love me while I dont love myself but I can love them also
You give me butterflies~
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