What do you look in partner?

    i am still so immature

    I like badass hotties, when they drive their cool bikes, but they are heart breakers


    At same time, i find gentlemen boring. Even though they are so nice. Grr i m gonna die single i feel.i blame india dramas for making bad guys look so cool and screwing my mind😢❤


    So what about u guys?

    I’ve already found my life partner, we’ve been together 20 years and have our 19 year old daughter together. He has been an eternal support to me emotionally and I am so lucky to have him. He has a wonderful sense of humour and can always make me laugh. He has always been there for us and I’m grateful for that.

    don't worry life will happen and you will mature😀

    Quote from BUTTERBOYS

    I am 25 and still act i m in first year of college

    That doesn't matter. Maturity comes in different forms.

    Don't lose your youthful spirit, no matter how old you are.


    Also people are not that simple, that they would be divided between badass hotties and nice gentlemen, as they might be pictured in dramas or movies (I don't know, since I don't watch them hehe).

    Maybe one day you'll meet someone that you'll match with so well, you'll forget about all your 'requirements'. Don't worry too much about it, just keep an open mind and you'll see what kind of people you connect well with.
    I think honesty and respect is very important and it's like a base. If they don't treat you (or any other people around them) right, don't even bother, it's not worth it, it's just a crush that won't last for long, they'll keep disrespecting you and you won't be interested anymore. (I've seen a lot of cases like that)

    Quote from keaji

    That doesn't matter. Maturity comes in different forms.

    Don't lose your youthful spirit, no matter how old you are.


    Also people are not that simple, that they would be divided between badass hotties and nice gentlemen, as they might be pictured in dramas or movies (I don't know, since I don't watch them hehe).

    Maybe one day you'll meet someone that you'll match with so well, you'll forget about all your 'requirements'. Don't worry too much about it, just keep an open mind and you'll see what kind of people you connect well with.
    I think honesty and respect is very important and it's like a base. If they don't treat you (or any other people around them) right, don't even bother, it's not worth it, it's just a crush that won't last for long, they'll keep disrespecting you and you won't be interested anymore. (I've seen a lot of cases like that)

    Thanks. Very sweet words. But when i look at my life choices, i want to kick myself lol


    Yes my ex was a baddie but was respectful, bcoz i was not a doormat to walk over . Respect is most important.

    Quote from kddicted

    Communication and understanding, open-minded and respectful of others. Tbh at the end of our days, if we can be comfortable with each other and be each other's safe place, I'd be happy. I have a clear idea of what type of person I'd want to spend my life with but I never talk to guys irl so :clown:

    Dont worry i m suffering same fate since covid started. Though i talked a lot during my college days. Guys are not tough to crack at all lol

    Quote from BUTTERBOYS

    Thanks. Very sweet words. But when i look at my life choices, i want to kick myself lol


    Yes my ex was a baddie but was respectful, bcoz i was not a doormat to walk over . Respect is most important.

    Ah don't worry, we all have regrets in life and most of us made bade choices, that made us learn and grow into who we are.


    Yes, I value respect a lot. You also need to respect yoourself and not let other people to treat you bad.

    It'll all be good, just don't be with someone for the sake of it, only when it's worth it <3

    Quote from Elf_lover

    I’ve already found my life partner, we’ve been together 20 years and have our 19 year old daughter together. He has been an eternal support to me emotionally and I am so lucky to have him. He has a wonderful sense of humour and can always make me laugh. He has always been there for us and I’m grateful for that.

    Awww i m so warm after reading this. Bless you and your family


    Sense of humor is so needed. My ex was a brick with barely any emotion 😢 very serious type.

    Quote from SANUMI

    someone who is level-headed, compassionate, mature, and open minded/likes to have fun. I also want them to be romantic since I'm romantic. I need them to be a warm person since I just don't mesh well with colder personalities... those are the basic things. there is more to that of course, like our lifestyle values/politics need to align for example

    God politics. My mom dad are opposite in that. But mom wins in end . U can mesh, if ur partner accepts defeat :-D ( not hateful politics ). My guy wasn't warm or expressive or that much romantic , but showed support when needed..... i guess that warm guy requirement is necessary! Sometimes too much of coldness hurts!

    Quote from keaji

    Ah don't worry, we all have regrets in life and most of us made bade choices, that made us learn and grow into who we are.


    Yes, I value respect a lot. You also need to respect yoourself and not let other people to treat you bad.

    It'll all be good, just don't be with someone for the sake of it, only when it's worth it <3

    Hoping that day come soon. Sorry i sound so desperate. I blame covid for ruining social life and dating ;(

    Quote from BUTTERBOYS

    Hoping that day come soon. Sorry i sound so desperate. I blame covid for ruining social life and dating ;(

    You don't sound desperate at all, I think it's just you trying to figure out what you want, it's normal.

    Not to mention the current situation with social life, I hope it gets better soon!

    Quote from BUTTERBOYS

    I swear i fall for every anti hero who makes female lead life hell, but i always have excuse of his dark past and he has reasons lol😭😭😭😛

    I imagine you going through the whole movie waiting patiently for the anti hero "flashback" to appear just so you will have an excuse :smirks2: kkkkkk.. tbh there are some anti hero that i like, but crushing, well, i crush everyone kkkkkk

    Quote from monalisalove

    I imagine you going through the whole movie waiting patiently for the anti hero "flashback" to appear just so you will have an excuse :smirks2: kkkkkk.. tbh there are some anti hero that i like, but crushing, well, i crush everyone kkkkkk

    There was one my fave drama where hero was sassy as hell, but he dumps the female lead at wedding altar, by love trapping her in revenge, bcoz she slapped him 4 times in past!


    Then later goes obsessive for her, when he realized he actually loves her and then she takes revenge by trapping him ( shows theme was about obsession in love ).


    Damn the excuses me and others used to make for him. Bcoz of his tragic past and put blame on fl in episode discussion thread. what to do. Boring sweet mls r not my cup of tea😂

    Quote from BUTTERBOYS

    There was one my fave drama where hero was sassy as hell, but he dumps the female lead at wedding altar, by love trapping her in revenge, bcoz she slapped him 4 times in past!


    Then later goes obsessive for her, when he realized he actually loves her and then she takes revenge by trapping him ( shows theme was about obsession in love ).


    Damn the excuses me and others used to make for him. Bcoz of his tragic past and put blame on fl in episode discussion thread. what to do. Boring sweet mls r not my cup of tea😂

    I can't :cryingr: but for real the culprit are the writers/producers bc they always make excuses and give us context of why the lead is acting like this so unconsciously we pity them kkkkk

    Quote from monalisalove

    I can't :cryingr: but for real the culprit are the writers/producers bc they always make excuses and give us context of why the lead is acting like this so unconsciously we pity them kkkkk


    Tbh first 50 epi had boring ml who was sweet. It flopped. The moment arrogant lead met lecturing fl ( lectures kill me ) . Ratings shot to top. People love such romance


    Show was rating blockbuster, when they fought with passionate romance lol and pair won best pair award at biggest indian tv show awards. Such big fandom it was.


    Couple fan vs fl fans vs ml fans. The attack was same like kpop fans on us ml fans. Hormonal tennage fangirls 😭It so mindwashed me that i only looked for guy with troubles


    And my first one was like that. Sassy, but with his share of demons. Damn i realize , only female tv leads can heal such guys. Not in real world . I ran lol😂


    But still my last one too was a arrogant Mr. ( he had many good things too )


    Seriously these writers ruined my perception of guys. 😂

    I died at your: "just fl can heal such guys" kkkkk bc it's true kkkkk irl they are assh*** who deserve nothing kkkkk

    But I think you will find someone cool and free bc it seems like this is your type irl kkkkkk

    Quote from BUTTERBOYS

    I thought ur background is chinese and ur family rule must be to marry chinese. So i shared my Indian family has same rules to marry indian lol.

    oh no sorry one of my personal requirements was that i wanted to marry someone with similar chinese values and being able to speak chinese and such... nothing to do with my family lol (although they would have preferred me marrying a chinese it was my own choice not theirs...)


    gotcha... do you prefer indians or not for a life partner as oppose to merely dating

    Quote from selfmate

    oh no sorry one of my personal requirements was that i wanted to marry someone with similar chinese values and being able to speak chinese and such... nothing to do with my family lol (although they would have preferred me marrying a chinese it was my own choice not theirs...)


    gotcha... do you prefer indians or not for a life partner as oppose to merely dating

    I prefer a tall , hardworking, handsome and as well as quite a leader type guy. No matter what his origin is lol. I m shallow af

    Eh, being mature is overrated. It's not about how you act, it's about the decisions you make.

  • This thread contains 2 more posts that have been hidden for guests, please register yourself or login to continue reading.

Participate now!

Don’t have an account yet? Register yourself now and be a part of our community!

Register Yourself Login