I don’t like how ultra-femininity is being demonized!

I have the feeling that for the sake of feminism, being very feminine is getting more demonized.

And it’s especially noticeable in today’s movies and series.

The very feminine girl who cares for their appearance, love pastel colors and activities that are considered more “feminine”, is always portrait as the evil one, or the dumb one or the one who only lives for the male gaze.

While the smart girl, the one everyone respects, the one with ambitions and the one with some kinda character, is always the “ not like other Girls” one, the tomboy ( who btw always gets the hot guy).

Which I find highly offensive tho.

Not is this ultra-feminine= bad (not preferable) but tomboy = feminist Queen, telling women AGAIN how they should be, but it also goes against the ideology that women should be whatever they wanna be, without being judged.

And this portrayal in the media has consequences. Those who really care about their appearance and love feminine stuff, or even women who are ok with staying at home, often get their motive behind their behavior questioned, especially by other women who call themself “feminist” with claims that they only behave like this to please men. They often see their existence as a harm to the feminist movement. I’m really done with this internalized misogyny.

I thought it was all about women to have a choice, no matter what and not to judge their choice, yet again.

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since i am a part of "the male gaze", i can't say anything really about it

As tomboys were treated in the beginning of the 20th century, i think ultra-feminin women get treated today... Well there is always a difference between cultures and countries but yes.

The tomboy was earlier the mad woman, that had lost her mind, had no manners and was everything but lovable.

I think the trend is working against this now, and i hope in a few years society will find a balance where everyone can be whatever they want, astronaut or housewife/houseman

The trend is working against it, which was about time, but it shouldn’t be done by demonizing ultra-feminine woman.

I have the feeling that whenever ever people wanna change a social issue, they just flip the coin and call it a day.

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The bad thing about ultra feminity is that it often comes with inefficient use of resources, mass consumerism, and increased pollution. If excessive shopping and use of personal care items was removed from ultra feminity, then there would not be a problem.

For example, I feel guilty just for washing my hair every day. I feel guilty about the pollution and habitat destruction the beauty products I use may cause both in their manufacture and after I'm done with the container.

Yeah, of course, we are at fault for pollution.......

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Women's interests have always been looked down on and seen as inconsequential.

It's sad to see women themselves doing it too in the name of feminism 😕

Instead of owning femininity and everything that is associated with it, like they did with women owning their sexuality, it’s getting looked down. To think you have to be more masculine in order to be respected, is a contradiction to being a feminist.

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I totally agree. I have a lot of trouble calling myself a feminist because to me, I just want equal pay and for the 'feminine' stereotypes to not be forced upon us. But there are some things that are attached to feminists that I don't agree with. I agree with you and I wish I could speak up more about it but I don't want to be labeled a feminist.

That’s it, no one should be forced on anything. And even if some women fit those stereotypes, let them be.

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I just wanna add that 'tomboys' shouldn't be called tomboys because they are what they want to be and what they will be. That goes for really feminine girls too. I'm not like that but you are who you are and you matter, weather you wear dresses and makeup or no makeup and 'boy' clothes. I don't care, you matter.

Everyone should just be themselves but that's hard because I feel like 'tomboys' are 'not the normal' but then 'girly girls' are also 'basic and too feminine'. Please just be yourself and don't label yourself or other people. We are all just humans

True, I used the word tomboy here cause I think most people will get what I mean by it. But yes, a woman can wear whatever she likes and be interested in whatever she likes, without any labels.