Am I the only one who finds cafe outings with friends boring?

    I find going to cafe’s with friends a bit boring. All we do is sit, eat and talk. I like to do exciting things with people.

    This cafe/restaurant concept only works if you meet people many months later for a good catch-up.

    I don’t know if it’s because I run out of things to say or something…..


    Please don’t tell me I’m the only one like this.

  • AllKill VIP
    Quote from Zsh

    I find going to cafe’s with friends a bit boring. All we do is sit, eat and talk. I like to do exciting things with people.

    This cafe/restaurant concept only works if you meet people many months later for a good catch-up.

    I don’t know if it’s because I run out of things to say or something…..


    Please don’t tell me I’m the only one like this.

    You should suggest things to them that you like to do then!

  • AllKill VIP

    I agree with Ves, i am sure, like myself, your friends are not mind readers. if you find this boring the best solution is to offer something else to do and get their feedback so that you can all find another adventure that all of you will enjoy. Communication is always the best thing.

  • AllKill VIP

    Are your group of friends considered active? Or are you the only active person?


    I have some friends that are active and some friends that are like me, we're OK with chilling at a cafe and etc. However we do make times to hike, outing, trips, and other activities. So it's a good healthy balance for everyone. If your friends are non-active, then it might be a bit difficult to convince them. But you should try nonetheless.


    'Hey, we should xx. This place has a shop we can stop by afterwards' Etc. So this would include an activity PLUS a cafe nearby for them to stop by. This is how I usually pitched it, so everyone gets an activity they like. If all else fail, there's nothing wrong with doing things alone.


    The other way to look at it is, they have probably done alot of activities by themselves or with other people already, and so when they meet you they are tired and only wanted to stop at cafes and talk.

    Quote from Zsh

    I have, and they have refused for various reasons. Maybe I should try more, but now I’m hesitant.

    I will try again though

    There are some cafe places that come with board games or other activities like axe throwing

    start by suggesting those places and then expand


    otherwise sometimes you have to find new friend groups for hobbies you want to try and there is nothing wrong with that. I have an active set of friends and not so active ones.

    Confession time: I only moved back to the country a few years ago and everyone already has their friends groups and social circles, so it almost feels like I got left behind. But it’s much better now. 😊

    This looks like great ideas.

    different strokes for different folks my friend


    have you tried maybe communicating your preferences for outings with your friends


    ie. hey instead of a cafe how about this time we try (xyz activity)?

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