Should I be worried? 2
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So this reviewer in my company was mean to me in private and sweet to me in public. Told me to be more mature when I was a newbie, gave me no training whatsoever and credited herself for my improvement. Whenever I took off my jacket she used to make faces or subtlely slutshame my clothes. When someone complimented me she would go off on a rant about beauty standards and how she is inconvinienced by them. She would make plagerism accusation when she has scrapped my script and sent it out as her own. She was nice to my team so they somewhat took her side. I also noticed their workload was lighter than mine. They were all guys. Soon I realised she had treated almost every unmarried woman like crap in private. I quit and didn't know that she was wrong till HR told me that the rewriting part was a serious matter on my last day.
I moved companies to get a fresh start from this reviewer. I confided in a few teammates about her. The old team shifted first then she did. But they were in different teams now. When she came over my team was hostile and asked if they needed to do anything. I said forget it. The old team were mostly on her side in the whole situation but they still invited me for lunch and stuff but since she was friends with them. I sorta avoided them.
I avoided her too but her behaviour towards me was weird. I wore a dress before she joined everyone thought it was lovely. I wore the same dress after she joined and there was a complaint against me in HR. My teammates were pissed about this. She yanked a common friend away from me mid conversation. My coworkers noticed that too. Then she books the cabin closest to our team for the WHOLE day. She sits in the bay closest to our team aswell. She tried to make friends specifically with people I hang out with.
Off late I realised she dressed similar to me. The same styles and colors that I wore. I wrote it off as me overthinking because she did not like my outfits. However one day she wore the exact same outfit as me. My coworkers pointed it out. Even the "helpless behaviour" she hated in me is something she's trying to act like except I'm almost a decade younger than my coworkers while she is the same age as them. The old team is sort of avoiding her a bit. She has a hard time keeping women as friends and with her behaviour towards me it's no surprise but guys always vibed with her and likewise. Why are they not as chummy as before?
My team is writing her off as a joke like an obsessed ex but I'm genuinely a bit uneasy. I tried patching up with her several times in my old company but she would be back to berating me in seconds and giving me sleepless nights. I have this ominous feeling but it might as well just be me overthinking.