There is one thing I wonder about the victim's side when akp users or knetz share school bullying experiences

when users here in akp share their experiences with bullying, or knetz there is sth I wonder.

Where were the parents?

No I don't want to victim blame, but parents do have to check in with their kids regarding school and what happens to them while they are in school.

When I was vulnerable and going through a situation, I finally shared it with my parents after few agonizing month.

A girl I'm class told me she has terminal heart disease to control me and make me be only friends with. Whenever I tried to make other friends or interact with other kids, she held her chest and pretended to be in pain. My dumb 9 year old ass believed her. I was actually traumatized and felt isolated from everything bc I didnt want to cause her death.

When I finally fess up to my parents, first they set her parents on fire. Then they got a disciplinary action agaisnt the teachers and principal for ignoring the situation. They got a report on their record and they would gotten fired if another incident happened. She was moved to another class and ordered to never contact me again. She tried to call our house to talk to me, which then my parent broke hell loose again and she finally got transferred to another school.

What my parents did for me is the foundation of my confidence today and why I can stand up for myself.

I can't imagine having kids and not watching out for their well being knowing well how predatory the world is.

Quote from fantasygoose

Well... I used to tell my parents that my male classmates were teasing me, and they were both saying "Those guys secretly have a crush on you"...

Quote from ellenote

I remember telling my Mom I was getting bullied and she didn't really do much until I started to show signs of mental illness since I was getting bullied so bad. It's hard to tell your parents that your being bullied because if you don't have a good relationship with them they won't take you seriously. Not everybody has a good home life, so being bullied is like one of 10 problems in your life.

Quote from selfmate

well my parents didn't think it was a big deal initially

they talked to the school but back then bullying wasn't as big of a deal as it is now (in Australia anyways now teachers get bullying training)

and I learned pretty fast what the word retaliation meant - since it was essentially me vs the entire class (as the only Asian kid and all that in an otherwise Caucasian School) the more one "dobbed" the more consequences there were!!!

I'm really sorry that's how they perceived your bullying

This is why I'm blaming the parents partially

I would have been scarred for life if my parents didn't have my back like a mountain everest, I would never forget what they did for me and It's also the reason why I will run to them whenever they need any help

Quote from nevermore

In middle school, there were a lot of incidents where boys molested girls. Us girls fought back, told the teachers and they even witnessed some of the incidents. Those boys just got a slap on the wrist. And my homeroom teacher indirectly called the girls in my class hoes because of those incidents, implying that we're the ones that want the boys' attention. How I was supposed to face my parents if I was met with those reactions from other adults?

That's really upsetting

My teachers didn't do anything too

But my mom is scary, they were shitting their pants after she was done with them.

Quote from Freddie235X

What was said in OP guided me to question "where are the teachers" prior to "where are the parents."

Or teachers and principle are victims too?

Kids either keep to themselves / are scared to tell parents right off as minors, some don't even have good ties with one or both parents, insensitive parents could take most of the blames but they are only part of the picture.

Teachers are at the front line, a stressful job.

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Quote from kingkook

Based on my personal experience, parents these days really know nothing about their children's lives. My parents know nothing about me either despite living with me under the same roof all my life.

People might say we're not being honest with them, but are they willing to listen to our worries? Most working parents are just busy with their own lives anyways.

Quote from Pinky_Peachy

Some of us couldn't speak up

I do not under any condition blame the kids

However parents do need to create a home life conditions that their child feel comfortable to come to them with their problems.

I wasn't going to tell my parents, my mom literally led me on and on till I spilled.

I was actually scared the other girl might die bc of my actions, I was so scared I didn't tell anyone.

Quote from Pinky_Peachy

Yes and I didn't have those home life conditions

I'm sorry