Pls give advice.. or come here if you want some drama;)

My closest friend is upset with me and she explained why yesterday, after a whole week of ignoring me cause I asked her what the hell was going on.. Her main points were

1. That I get mad when things don't go my way and pay my anger with the people involved

2. That I mock her when she tells me anything

3. That when she tries to tell me something that makes her uncomfortable I get mad at her

4. And that I make gestures and facial expressiones towards one of her friends (let's call her friend B) that gives her (and other people from what she told me) the impression that I hate said friend. To wrap it all up she supposedly said I'm changing and I'm not like before..

Well it hurts me to be honest. I don't get where she's getting all of this, all of a sudden. She doesn't give any examples of the first three situations and I don't remember any time where I treated her badly. She has never told me if a joke or comment I make causes her to be uncomfortable, and if she did I would never forget it that easily, nor would I get mad at her for telling me.. For the fourth, I have resting b**ch face and constantly have to justify myself to everyone when I'm talking, eating, or literally doing anything because sh*t like this happens, and I've told her this

I really hate speculating but I think friend B is really influencing her. It's too much of a coincidence that the same week my friend suddenly started disliking me was right after they had spent the weekend together. She asked me (in the same message) if I had any problem with B and I told her that I don't love nor hate her, but that B really needs to stop thinking that the world is against her.. because stuff like this happens. B always assumes people are out to get her and I knew it would affect me eventually. My friend and her are inseperable so when someone doesn't get along with B then my friend doesn't get along with them either

We had a conversation through text today, and I told her my honest thoughts about B.. She hasn't responded, but honestly I don't want to spend time with them anymore because there'll be too much tension

And the cherry on top of this is apparently they're not the only ones who dislike me... so that's fun I guess it hurts me a lot cause it brings bad memories. I genuinely don't know why it's so hard for me to make friends. Thought this one would last at least a little longer

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How about u try asking ur friend what's wrong and why she seemed distant

Well i don't wanna jump to conclusions... And she'll end up telling B what I asked her and I don't wanna see how that turns out lol. For now I wanna avoid hard feelings but maybe I'll ask her if she keeps being like this in the next few days

PLES

Quote from Ves

I take it this is still going on. Any updates?

This is most recent update.. there's was another post in the original post but I edited it.. This all happened between yesterday and today

Quote from selfmate

have you tried asking another friend to see if that other friend also thinks the same way?

ie get a second opinion?

or maybe even asking your family to see if they too share that opinion from the original friend?

if not they maybe your original friend is blowing things out of proportion or they were never really your friend o begin with

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Yep from my family.. and no, I do believe she's a true friend. I believe B is blowing things out of proportion and giving her false info

Quote from FeLiNa

i've had this situation before and sadly the third friend, or "B" in this situation, is usually influencing friend A. it's sad bc what happens is they become besties and then that's kinda it....

people will find reasons, no matter how small, not to be friends with you in order to justify/cover up them just saying what they really want to say. it's sad but true, sometimes you can't make these people stay. i doubt you were in the wrong.

if you ever need anybody, my dms are open. i'm so sorry this is happening to you

Thank u, i rlly appreciate it

btw i never told you my favorite mitski song!!! (she has a lot of good ones though ) i really love nobody and first love

sorry for the change in topic lol

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If she was a true friend, she wouldn't allow herself to be poisoned against you.

Quote from selfmate

that's my thoughts exactly

the issue is why your "true" friend is believe B over you?

and if she's believing B over you does that still make her a friend at all?

Well for now i have no idea if she believe someone over the other. She has my opinion and B's opinion.. we see each other at school tomorrow and events have yet to "unravel".. she mentioned she really wants to resolve this too...

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I'm sorry this is happening to you. This may be sensitive, but why seem to understand B does not like you and you do not like B. Can you tell us why?

Well I know B doesn't like me because she thinks I don't like her LOL

In reality I was always pretty neutral towards her.. She just started assuming things about me and taking everything personal, and now I guess she hates me

It's pretty hard to like someone that hates you She's kinda resentful too so I don't think it'll wear off soon

This is kinda out of topic but she does have family problems; her parents are divorced and bit neglecting of her, though I don't think there's any legal abuse

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That's a bit insensitive dude

Nah don't worry about it It's not like you guys are certified friendship therapists lol

Plus i did say you could come for the drama too