Not talking about Idols private life should be generalize .....

People want to keep saying "omg normalize relationships not being a controversy" but then are the first ones to talk about it when it comes to someone they don't stan/like.

I agree with you in theory, but the truth is that idol are 'more' than artists. They are supposed to be completely spotless - which is stupid, no one is perfect.

The entire system needs to be scrapped.

I hope the idols are dating and getting it in

They work hard for it

Although I hope they don't cheat but that's not my problem

When it comes to other things (e.g. bullying - like yeah, it's an issue, but the way the whole public discussion around has been is toxic and I'm pretty sure most mental health professionals would disapprove of thousands of strangers meddling into an issue that's complicated enough when it stays among those involved + professionals), but also to dating issues, I think it's pretty problematic when people act like they know celebrities (it's prevalent in celebrity discussions generally, but especially in K-Pop). Even those claiming to be rational fans who always go "You don't know them, they're not your friends" etc. when it's about obsessive fans go the complete other way and act like they know everyone involved perfectly way once it's something they may be able to feel morally superior over. You don't know ANYONE involved in those private situations AT ALL, it's not your business. It feels even weirder nowadays because back in the day celebrity gossip was just celebrity gossip now people are weirdly trying to somehow "wokewash" celebrity gossip... Like not necessarily just K-Pop, like read ONTD comments and it's just like "Oh, that celebrity dated someone 10 years younger, oh that celebrity is a f*ckboy, oh, that celebrity said something stupid 15 years ago" and I'm just thinking "You're sitting around gossiping about strangers all the time and trying to find something to sh*it talk about everyone, what makes you so morally superior?"

I'm really trying to increasingly stay away from comment sections on celebrity articles because like online culture nowadays in general it's just so toxic.

I think because some people are nosey and very emotionally invested in the "id0ls" to a point where it might not be healthy. Cue EXO's "Obession". I personally am not that concerned outside of the group and artists I rock with's well-being and holistic health.

They are still human when their heads hit the pillow after the end of a long workday. Give them that respect as you would expect the same.

I agree with you except for bullying, cheating or abuses other than breaking the law. If they hurt someone, it’s natural they get called out for. Whoever they want to date or whatsoever and they didn’t do anything wrong it’s up to them and no one’s business.

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i don't have a problem with saying this idol did this

but i have a problem when people start to make a judgement on idols relation, like when they are saying oh they shouldn't date they don't look great together, look what this person did to her boyfriend it's bad.... etc....

Ya, but that's often linked.

Not an idol, but look at Billie Eilish's drama. People are shitting on her because she is dating a guy who 10 years older than her, and also made 'problematic tweet'. Is it her private life ? Or do the fans have the right to talk about this as an issue ?

Very few people will say 'I don't want my fav idol to date', but you can bet that they will find a thousand reason to say 'BUT not this person'. They will pretend that the problem is with the person, not the dating, but we all know it's not true.

Just like for Billie Eilish, the actual issue isn't who she chose as her boyfriend, it's the way she is moving on from her 'angsty, relatable teenager' persona ( which obviously means that she has to be single and sex-less ).

well the idols who came to this industry on their own will knew about these kpop rules didn't they? So they made the choice themselves. Now if they can't control themselves and starts dating it effects negatively not only the idol but also the group as a whole.

Seriously, I don’t know why fans are obsessed with this stuff. It’s idols life to date who they choose. Fans play the dog in the manger approach, if they can’t have an idol, then no one else can. Some fans are just sad and really need to get a life imo.

They’re celebrities and public figures... people gone talk and speculate.

The problem is most idols and their companies are just fake as hell.. they put out these public personas that aren’t true and then have to live up to them. If the idol industry wasn’t so struck on create this weird has fantasy world small things like DATING wouldn’t even be an issue.

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Ya, but that's often linked.

Not an idol, but look at Billie Eilish's drama. People are shitting on her because she is dating a guy who 10 years older than her, and also made 'problematic tweet'. Is it her private life ? Or do the fans have the right to talk about this as an issue ?

Very few people will say 'I don't want my fav idol to date', but you can bet that they will find a thousand reason to say 'BUT not this person'. They will pretend that the problem is with the person, not the dating, but we all know it's not true.

Just like for Billie Eilish, the actual issue isn't who she chose as her boyfriend, it's the way she is moving on from her 'angsty, relatable teenager' persona ( which obviously means that she has to be single and sex-less ).

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No the problem with Billie is who she’s dating, he’s trash and OLD.

Nobody cares about Billie dating, hell she dated during her WWAFA,WDWG era and it was no issue except her boyfriend then was also OLD and trash and abusive and that’s why people are mad because she’s dating someone the same as her ex and he’s said racist and homophobic things on top of that!

Billie new album is about an abusive relationship, (her ex) so it’s kinda hypocritical for her to be (barley Legal) dating a man pushing or is 30. When she just put out a documentary where part of her story was how her ex who was 26 dating a minor put her throw hell.

As far as her new image, Its not really new, Billie has been more *girly* than her WWAFA,WDWG era.

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