Voluntarily wanting to be a single-parent is selfish and irresponsible!

  • Yeah I’m talking about the rise of women who want a child without a partner, not those who ended up being a single-parent due to unwanted circumstances.



    I seriously don’t get how some people really think it’s a good idea to give birth to a child in the most non-ideal situation ever?

    Not saying that all children who were raised by a single parent didn’t ended up well, a lot did. But the vast majority of single-parented children will also tell you how it had a psychological and social effect on them.


    It’s fine if you as a woman don’t want to settle and don’t need a man cause this would be more ideal for you, it’s your decision. But to force your child to settle for a non-ideal situation, to say it doesn’t need a father is just pure selfishness and irresponsible for me. Especially boys have the biggest side-effects when it comes to being fatherless.


    There are tons of statistics of negative side-effects that prove how this isn’t a good idea. If you wanna be single stay single, but don’t involve another human being into your decisions. These women really think it’s easy to be a single mother and the sad part is, they don’t even listen to women who are already single mothers, who are telling them that they don’t know what they are getting themself and their child into.

  • How often does this happen that it warrants this rant tho...like I have seen people claiming other women do it but have never seen or heard of it first hand. Usually in the case of single parenthood the father chooses to abandon the child and/or their pregnant gfs. I just don't think many women willingly choose to birth and raise a child alone. If they are extremely wealthy I don't see the issue. They could provide any and every additional resource they child needs or wants. The emotional support from a male figure does not have to come from the biological father. Uncles or grandfathers can provide the same.


    Does your thought process include lesbians who want to have a child together? Since you're putting emphasis on the lack of a father figure in the child's life. Does your rant extend towards gay men who choose to have a child using an egg donor and surrogacy?

  • True but what about singel parent who adopt children and what about gay couple who want adop children they also missing on parent part ??? :|:|:|

    You can’t adopt a child as a single unless you are really rich.


    I don’t know about that, there aren’t enough studies about how gay parenting will affect a child so I could say are just speculations. Also a complete different scenario.

  • I mean you can be fatherless and have two parents, for example two women. So the fatherless argument is eh, but I get your overall point. However if one can financially afford it then why not? Having one wealthy parent is better than two poor ones.

    It’s more to it then wealth tho.

    The fatherless part is based on statistics. Most inmates were raised by a single parent, where the vast majority were raised by just their mother. Since this is the most common scenario.

  • As the child of a single parent, I know how tough it is for my mom to raise me on her own, but my situation's different because my parents separated. For those of us who once saw two parents in their lives, it hurts and it affects us negatively. It's painful to see our lives change so drastically and so unexpectedly. I get what you mean and where you're coming from.


    But children of voluntarily single parents, they likely wouldn't feel that emotional weight of not having two parents. If anything, granted they're given proper and adequate care and attention, they could grow up just as well as those in two-parent homes, if not better in some cases.


    It's not always about having a mother and a father. It's about having the right role models to look up to and learn from. Even just one is enough.

  • How often does this happen that it warrants this rant tho...like I have seen people claiming other women do it but have never seen or heard of it first hand. Usually in the case of single parenthood the father chooses to abandon the child and/or their pregnant gfs. I just don't think many women willingly choose to birth and raise a child alone. If they are extremely wealthy I don't see the issue. They could provide any and every additional resource they child needs or wants. The emotional support from a male figure does not have to come from the biological father. Uncles or grandfathers can provide the same.


    Does your thought process include lesbians who want to have a child together? Since you're putting emphasis on the lack of a father figure in the child's life. Does your rant extend towards gay men who choose to have a child using an egg donor and surrogacy?

    There are a lot of straight women these days who think about willingly raising a child without wanting to be a relationship. So they use sperm donations etc.

    Yeah I mention fatherless. Because unfortunately a lot of statistics prove that children from fatherless homes are 3 times more likely to be delinquent. Children from a single parent household are more likely to be the victim mental issues, questionable behavior and academic struggles and the saddest part abuse, especially sexual abuse by a third person that should help raise a child and most of the times it’s an uncle/aunt, nanny etc.


    This is not about gay/lesbian couples. This a complete different situation.

  • It’s more to it then wealth tho.

    The fatherless part is based on statistics. Most inmates were raised by a single parent, where the vast majority were raised by just their mother. Since this is the most common scenario.

    These same inmates also come from impoverished households where the single parent couldn't be there for them because they had to slave off at work. It comes back full circle, and like what superyeah said the missing link isn't a father but a good parent with good resources. That is of course if there wasnt a traumatic divorce or something

  • everything depends on the situation


    there is never a situation that two parents are better than one...

    there is never a situation where one parent is worse than two...

    there is never a situation where two parents of the same sex are better than one or different sexes...


    the social economic and other factors weigh more than the number of parents/gender of parents

  • But children of voluntarily single parents, they likely wouldn't feel that emotional weight of not having two parents. If anything, granted they're given proper and adequate care and attention, they could grow up just as well as those in two-parent homes, if not better in some cases.


    It's not always about having a mother and a father. It's about having the right role models to look up to and learn from. Even just one is enough.

    That’s it, if anything granted. But how would you know if things go the way you planned? I’m pretty sure your parents never thought about divorcing, yet it happened.


    This is a recent trend were people voluntarily want to be a single parent.

    Before, this situation happened because of circumstances.

    I turn a blind eye on those rich enough to spend enough time with that child to give them enough love and care and resources etc. But most of these women are middle class women, they will need to work, so a lot of the time their kids have to be taking care of by others, that’s were most cases of child abuse happen.

  • It really depends on the society you live in.

  • Also on the abuse part: if we're talking US then most children are abused by their parents sexually so your argument falls flat again

    How does my argument falls flat.

  • exactly my friend lol


    the society that one lives in probably is more determinate than the number or sex of the parent you have

    But this phenomenon is only seen in western countries. In those where father-mother parenting isn’t required, the whole system is built in a way that it works. It’s not comparable to the western system of parenting.

  • But this phenomenon is only seen in western countries. In those where father-mother parenting isn’t required, the whole system is built in a way that it works. It’s not comparable to the western system of parenting.

    exactly which means the society one lives in is very determinate of the ways or bet method of raising a child...

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