Why would someone refuse to date an autistic person?

    This has nothing to do with the guy, I mentioned in Post Your Random Thoughts thread.


    At first, I wanted to make a thread about whether it would be a bad thing, if someone would refuse to date an autistic person because of the fact that the person is autistic.

    But I feel like it might be too similar to another thread of mine.


    And also, most users would say no and that refusing to date someone because of something is not discrimination.



    It would probably be a bad thing if you are dating someone, just because you feel sorry for them for some reason.

    Like that is kinda forcing yourself to do something that you don't want to.



    Well... autism is a spectrum, so every single autistic person is different. (just like how every non-autistic person is different)



    Some things might be finding their interests unattractive (well... non-autistic people can have unattractive interests too.) or maybe they have low expectations of that autistic person.

    Well... I can't think of other examples... (or at least, I feel like I can't put some examples into words.)



    I have heard that autistic people can difficulties with relationships, which is a thing that I can relate to.

    I think I have had difficulties making friends, so the other thing would be difficult too.



    and well... I guess a person would maybe look at an autistic person, not knowing that they are autistic, and think that they are unattractive because of an autistic trait they have or something.



    But I think what some people would find attractive about an autistic person is that they might think the autistic person is smart and talented. (Okay, those two traits maybe sound a bit stereotypical, even though I'm a smart and talented person myself, not to brag)

    And also, some autistic people are good-looking. (just like me)

    I think people find Kenshi Yonezu attractive. Yup, he's autistic. (or at least he was diagnosed with it after the age of 20)


    I don't know how I would feel if I really liked someone and then found out that they refused to date because of me being autistic.

    Maybe I would feel sad, but probably I would also be thinking "I don't want to date you either because you don't to date someone like me."



    This thread is so random.



    BTW just to add, I have never experienced someone saying "I don't want to date you. Because you're autistic."

    Maybe because who on Earth would say that to someone's face?

    Edited once, last by HwaGoose ().

    I think autistic people are very smart and creative, especially with their special interests. I have no problem dating somebody with autism.

    it depends...


    everyone has the right to date (or in this case NOT DATE) anyone for whatever reason


    maybe it's politics, ideology, looks, race, money, age, etc etc


    the issue is can that include autism

    Of course, everyone is different. But some have a lot of emotional issues and what not, so it can be difficult.

    Maybe their behaviors won't bother you and you'll love them regardless or you won't. And that's perfectly fine! Some autistic people can hide qualities of themselves that they are scared to show

    to someone they like .

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    You manage to make topics that seem interesting then just blab on randomly for paragraphs to the point idek what you're talking about.


    To answer your question. Autism is a broad term. Would I date someone with it? I wouldn't mind if it wasn't a problem. But if they can't spell their own name then I don't wanna be a caregiver. I would be a caregiver but dating no. That's just my personal decision nothing against them at all. Actually I have a mild form of Asperger's which makes me autistic too. So not like I care about labels and such but just I'd prefer not to days someone with an extreme autism who need a caregiver.

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