I know this is old news but I just watched a video on koreans opinions on Irene's bullying scandal and it reignited how angry I was.
I just can't believe so many people r willing to overlook bullying. So many people brush it off as "just a mistake" or "she's only human"
No. Screaming in someones face until they cry is not "just a mistake" it's a vile, arrogant, act of someone who thinks they're better than that person.
I've had someone scream in my face until I cried. It's obviously horrible.
Theres is something seriously wrong with a person's personality when they believe they can treat another human being like that.
Imagine still stanning her or defending her. Disgusting. Have some standards for yourself and some care for anyone else who isnt ur idolised eonni 🙄
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While bullying is of course very wrong, it's also wrong to quickjump to conclusions and just tag every situation a bullying situation when there's a conflict (everyone remember the T-ARA 'bullying' scandal?).
You're entitled to believe, stan or dislike whatever and whoever you want to, of course.
But it's maybe good to keep some things in mind:
- We don't know the exact situation, the cause or context of the incident, we've only ever heard one side of the story and the stylist took care only to mention 'Irene yelling in her face', not why it happened or what the context was.
- In that regard, when you're emotional and hurt and you want to hurt someone back, there's no way you're not prone to exaggeration and painting a colored picture. So the whole' 15-20 min constant yelling in her face' should be taken with a heavy grain of salt.
- this was one incident, one time: one incident is not the same as constant bullying behavior, nor does one incident define someone's character. As a contrast, there have been MANY situations and incidents where Irene showed consideration and empathy with her members and staff.
- Irene has apologized, multiple times, and also realized the impact her words and scolding had in that situation. She has also talked with the stylist. The stylist has accepted the apology, and also admitted that people can act badly at times, and even admitted that there're probably people who she - the stylist - has treated badly at times and that may have been hurt by things she said or did.
So if the stylist can do that, why not you?
I can recall times that I've been hurt by the words of others and wanted to hurt them back, but when I confronted some of those persons, they said they never realized their words had that impact and that they never intended to cause hurt like that. And reverse, I've had people talk to me about things I said or did where I never realized or intended any harm like the effect it had on that other person.
it happens. We're all human, with our good and bad moments, nobody's a saint or hasn't ever unintentionally hurt someone with something they said or did (and don't believe it when people say they are). One or even multiple bad incidents where we go off don't define us.
And this applies to idols too.