Ya'll realize that Lolita is meant as a cautionary tale right. The book was written to depict how predators are not always outwardly repulsive looking men(as that was the common belief at the time) but can appear charming and kind while still preying on young girls.
Call me by your name isn't that bad imo as the age of consent in Italy is 17 I think, as well as some other European country. I wouldn't encourage the age gap as mentally a 17 year old and a 25 year old are at different stages of development but it's not illegal.
As for the video, that's definitely super pedophilic and others in Korea or wherever else doing similar things doesn't make it any less repulsive. Especially the ending where she wears a key with his name on it as if he's branding her for later. Disgusting.