Posts by Minkah

  • Cats or dogs?

    Cats


    I was bitten by a dog twice just walking down a street and once sitting at a bus stop, reading.

    I'm terrified of them at this point and quickly cross the street the moment I see one.

  • question about gender roles

    I think men are suffering, because women still aren't truly considered equal.

    That women and girls are still seen as inferior and lesser is what forces men to try and behave in ways that are perceived as, at the very least, not girly.


    There's an enormous stigma attached to liking girly stuff as a boy but why is that? Ultimately, I believe, because of how we see girls. If girls were seen in a better light, acting girly would not be an issue, liking 'girly things' would not be an issue. But we still use 'girl' as an insult that is synonymous with sissy. It's what forces men who want to be taken seriously to abide by our stereotypically definition of manly. (that which is not girly)


    Our gender roles are ultimately defined as opposites. One is this way, the other is that way. One has these traits, the other has those traits. I think men will remain trapped until women are equals. So long as we consider them inferior, men will also be forced into their own toxic role.

  • Something you’ve never been able to forget?

    My partner was lamenting our lack of money and I told him that being poor isn't so bad and that we should consider ourselves lucky, because unlike many other people out there we're both in good health at least.

    Less than a month later, I wound up in hospital with kidney failure due to a rare genetic defect that had gone undetected all my life.

    I'm not religious or superstitious, it's just the kind of ironic coincidence that you never forget. Life really showed me the finger in response to my attempt at optimism.

  • being fearful / timid is a magnet?

    Judging by what I witnessed in middle school and high school I think that might indeed be the case.


    Bullying targets were usually quiet, somewhat timid I guess, and most would definitely have preferred to just mind their own business. This personality type seemed to be incredibly triggering for the bullies for some reason. It seemed personal in the sense that the bullies reacted with genuine anger and hatred.


    Another personality type that got a lot of bullying were the people trying desperately to befriend the cool kids. It often backfired and they ended up as the unwanted sidekick that was largely ignored by the people they were supposedly super good friends with.

  • I don't like it

    Quote from LilyM

    You'll get used to it, at first it was weird but now i prefer this one, it has some really cool new styles (bottom right corner) checkout blackout and cyberpunk

    I tried cyberpunk and now I can't get rid of it. Change style doesn't appear to be working on mobile with that particular theme, because clicking it just freezes the page for me with no options to choose from popping up. Which is just great, because this is the theme I like least thus far.

    How I miss the old forum...

  • Which idols do you think look better with their hair natural than dyed?

    Probably most, if not all of them imo.

    When an idol tries a new hair colour, I'm often like, woah, this looks so good on them!

    But then I'll see a picture of them with their natural, dark hair again and it just looks better.

    The dyed hair additionally tends to look good only on photos, in MVs or on stage, hardly ever in real life. You can usually tell that it's damaged and that it often doesn't match their skin tone (or rather their undertone) without makeup.

  • years later, what is your opinion about SuperM-Jopping

    I facepalmed when Jopping was released. They wanted to break into the western market, but what they ended up releasing (to me) was like a summary of kpop stereotypes and additionally sounded like something that came out 10 years ago.


    I still dislike the song now tbh. Everything is so over the top, but in the unintentionally humorous way, rather than the "wow, this is amazing" kind of way.

  • how much weight do you gain/lose

    My weight doesn't fluctuate much tbh. Maybe by 2-3 lbs on average which is far too little for it to be noticeable. It probably isn't even real weight gain/loss but rather normal weight fluctuation. Bloating on the other hand is very apparent on my frame. Without any weight gain at all, I can easily look 6 months pregnant after the wrong meal.